Hi Melody,
I've been following this thread a bit and wanted to see how it went before posting, as I agree with and appreciate your direction in not wanting to turn it into an argument.
I've never been labeled as "mentally ill" but I think I would definitely qualify. Most people are shocked to learn that I've struggled with severe depression since early childhood (I can remember something "snapping" in mind at around age 9 and then feeling as if it were full-blown at around 13) and went through a period of being in and out of counseling, as well as on and off meds, for about 10 years. It might help for a short while, but I would always seem to revert back to being the same way. I had suicide attempt about 10 years ago that landed me in the hospital for a week as well.
One of my biggest sources of grief is that people never believe what I say. They'll say, "But Kim, you always seem so bouncy and happy," and I want to shout, "That's because you expect me to be, and when I try to tell you what's really going on, you turn your head and walk away."
Or, they'll say, "But you're always cracking jokes and making people laugh..." and I want to tell them, "Do you not realize that some of the most famous comedians in history and in modern times are bipolar and will confess to being consumed by suicidal thoughts?"
People will tell me how selfish it is to think that way but really what they're saying is, "I have no idea how to help you and you're making me very uncomfortable so why don't you make it easier for the both of us and pretend it's all ok, because I really can't handle what you're trying to tell me."
The doctors always said I had depression or was unipolar--like a straight line that dips. They didn't think I was bipolar because I never did crazy things or went on supposed binges of irresponsibility. But as I get older, I'm almost sure I have bipolar disorder and I've been praying for a long time about what God wants me to do as far as treatment. Right now I'm also in the midst of normalizing some other health issues and there is only so much time and money to go around for medical issues.
As other people have posted, I've had problems with Christians telling me it's a matter of my faith being weak and not allowing God to heal me, but even Paul had a thorn in his flesh that God decided not to remove, and we don't know specifically what that thorn is. While it might not have been mental illness, I do believe that not everyone receives instant healing at all times--for others, it can be a long journey and this seems to be my case as well.
Being adopted with no record of my history, I have been to many prayer groups, classes, and Christian counselors who also feel my fight has biological and inherited foundations as well.
God bless you for being concerned about those of us trying to keep our heads above water in this area.