my teen is sexually active

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blue_ladybug

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Why ruin this kid's life for the sake of the law? The girl was underage too. Should she then be arrested also. You would have to arrest half of the teenagers in this country.
Had they been properly supervised, this wouldn't have happened. As for the boy, he should've kept his wanker in his pants. He's a rapist and it's a good bet this girl ain't the only one he's managed to get into bed.. :/ As for the girl, she's young and naive, and he took advantage of that..
 

blue_ladybug

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Let the school know what happened, and that you are dissatisfied with their level of supervision on this trip. Notify the boy's parents of his potentially dangerous behavior. Get your kid tested for STD's and pregnancy. Then give her a long, stern lecture on the dangers of unprotected sex.
 
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LaurenTM

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in some cases, I imagine the school could be sued...I'm no advocating that, but the girl gave away something she can never get back...most likely to someone who just saw another conquest

thing is, the desire to be rid of one's virginity seems almost to be a race these days........:p
 

notuptome

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Why ruin this kid's life for the sake of the law? The girl was underage too. Should she then be arrested also. You would have to arrest half of the teenagers in this country.
We have no idea as to the fidelity of this boy. He may have a track record of this type of behavior. The real threat of legal action and consequence my curtail future behavior. It's not like something evil happened her right?

The kid ruined his life not me. The girl has lost something she may regret the rest of her life.

If it were my daughter or my grand-daughter the law would be the least of his worries.

For the cause of Christ
Roger
 

Demi777

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I understand...you had a REACTION to my post...indicative of what you are now saying and I totally get that!

I spread myself a little thin in rebellion and so I know about about emotional attachments...and how sex is different for young women than young men...

I would react the same but I also can truthfully state that at times I wish someone had whapped me one...I can be very headstrong...see some of that in you too LOL!...I was very disappointed in Christians and went the other way even though I still believed in God...

'my method' is not for everyone...but for a 14 year old I think it appropriate...now you would not do that with an older teen ..but the mother is the last to know in this case...why is that? too much trust on her part?

like I said, trust now has to be earned here...and please no offence, cause I know you had the school of fire growing up, but this girl needs a wake up call in so many ways

I don't see punishment in my response...I see borders and a safety net

I do know a little about what I am saying here, and I think age is a factor...even though a 14 year old today is not like a 14 year old when I was one

I would have one very serious sit down talk with this girl...and not just one time

I did not put it in my post you responded to, but reasoning and discussion must play a very big part but boundaries need to be set by the adults in this one

and as you stated...IMO! :)
Always hard to see the mentality of a person in a post. I can see where your right. All depends on the character and times change. all good sis no offence :)
 
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LaurenTM

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Always hard to see the mentality of a person in a post. I can see where your right. All depends on the character and times change. all good sis no offence :)
haha...I'm a tad more complicated than my posts...as are most here I'm sure

and truthfully, I sometimes jump from a to m or even z...

thanks for discussing it with me....that is what matters to me...being able to discuss and coming to an understanding

thanks and for sure no offence!
 

Demi777

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haha...I'm a tad more complicated than my posts...as are most here I'm sure

and truthfully, I sometimes jump from a to m or even z...

thanks for discussing it with me....that is what matters to me...being able to discuss and coming to an understanding

thanks and for sure no offence!
That is called communication lol. God bless ya
 

Demi777

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yeah...I'm all about that...more than right or wrong...

just 'talk to me' LOL!
aww thanks for the rep sis :) God bless ya. Me too communication is important. and theres not much worse than someone who is ignorant and doesnt listen lol
 
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LaurenTM

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aww thanks for the rep sis :) God bless ya. Me too communication is important. and theres not much worse than someone who is ignorant and doesnt listen lol

that is one of the leading causes of ignorance haha.....


and if twas yourself or another who also repped me...thanks!
 

Demi777

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that is one of the leading causes of ignorance haha.....


and if twas yourself or another who also repped me...thanks!

lol most likely biblelearner123 lol. I dunno for sure tho. (hugs)