Need advice as a Christian wife in a difficult marriage, please

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rerun

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Girl, I am going to say some things and you may or not like them. I am going to try and encourage you as I feel your pain in your writings. First of all, have you ever heard the saying "If mamma ain't happy, nobody's happy"? Communicate and communicate when you get tired communicate some more. Tell your hubby on Thurs. Nights it is your evenings to go out and do something you enjoy. A man that loves his wife does not want his wife unhappy discontent and a servant to them. Pray for your husband by all means but your going to have to change your outlook, direction, and attitude to get different results. Now I am not saying wreck your household, marriage, and relationship with him but make it visibly known you are going to do some things different and he is going to participate. Don't let your husbands faults make you a failure. Don't quit serving the Lord in church because of his ways. God Loves you and knows the situation and will give you direction. Have fun on Thursday nights and I hope it gets better soon.

Rerun
 
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Felicityme

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I just wanted to reach out to you and not judge you as I feel others have. Please don't loose heart yes God is all powerful loving and can do the impossible though your husband sounds like his heart is closed off to God. You must seek professional guidance and not just a church pastor or counsellor. Please seek professional help as this is a massive burden for you to carry and not if you have already developed depression. God wants you whole and not eternally broken - your husband may never change and you are responsible for your own choices in life - you cannot be fruitful if you're constantly being cut down by your husband. Pray and make a decision about your marriage - stand firm with your self respect in tact. God has a much broader and bigger plan for you so rise up and walk towards it NOW. Go seek pro help (with a clinical psychologist) and make a decision - go in Gods peace and love as only He can give x
 
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soniagupta

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#43
Divorce is not an option, so misery seems predictable. It's just not working out. Nothing is changing. No matter what you do, no matter what you say, he doesn't get it. In spite of your doing all she has asked of you, she is still angry and distant.
 

blue_ladybug

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Divorce is not an option, so misery seems predictable. It's just not working out. Nothing is changing. No matter what you do, no matter what you say, he doesn't get it. In spite of your doing all she has asked of you, she is still angry and distant.

This thread is 2 years old and the OP's last online activity was 2 years ago. Please don't pull zombie threads forward..
 
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mystikmind

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This thread is 2 years old and the OP's last online activity was 2 years ago. Please don't pull zombie threads forward..

Agree!

I wasted 20 minutes reading the posts and did not notice the dates. So we spend out time here, instead of helping people who need help today!
 

blue_ladybug

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Agree!

I wasted 20 minutes reading the posts and did not notice the dates. So we spend out time here, instead of helping people who need help today!
people need to look at the date that the thread was created, AND look at the OP to see if their still active or if they left/ were banned.
 
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Yes but the past is a reminder of the present, it's just another sad story with regards to marriage, you never know who you are really marrying, some people don't want to change, i don't want to get married, i'd rather suffer being single than suffer in marriage with someone who is a complete dipstick.