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I'll start of with the basics. I'm 23 my husband is 22. I grew up in a christian household and he didn't. My entire family lives 2, 000 miles away. We lived together for 3 years before we got married and for the past year his mother has lived with us. We've been married 4 months. My husband is a "newer" believer now.
Ok, so his mom is in her sixties. She's been a smoker for 45+ years. She has COPD and basically no immune system. For the past year we've turned into her slaves. We don't mind helping (grocery shopping, picking up prescriptions, cleaning etc) but it's turned into every minute of our day revolves around her. And she constantly finds fault in everything we do. She's moody and manipulative. I wasn't raised in this type of environment and I'm becoming very unhappy. We mentioned getting our own place but still helping her and she had a meltdown crying. She ended up guilting her son so bad and now he feels obligated to take care of her.
I just want to join a church with my husband. Have our own house. Watch a movie with just us. Cook dinner together. But I can't because his mom is literally 2ft from us at all times or doesn't want him going to church. I can't even cuddle him at night without her barely knocking once and opening our bedroom door! It's such a turnoff and makes me not want to try.
She can feed herself, shower, get dressed, and drive. I don't think it's fair to take care of her just yet. And I know she's been abusing her power with us. What do I do? My husband thinks she's going to die in a couple years (I think she has been 5-10) and loves his mom so much! But what about our marriage? What about building our life together in a healthy way for once??
Ok, so his mom is in her sixties. She's been a smoker for 45+ years. She has COPD and basically no immune system. For the past year we've turned into her slaves. We don't mind helping (grocery shopping, picking up prescriptions, cleaning etc) but it's turned into every minute of our day revolves around her. And she constantly finds fault in everything we do. She's moody and manipulative. I wasn't raised in this type of environment and I'm becoming very unhappy. We mentioned getting our own place but still helping her and she had a meltdown crying. She ended up guilting her son so bad and now he feels obligated to take care of her.
I just want to join a church with my husband. Have our own house. Watch a movie with just us. Cook dinner together. But I can't because his mom is literally 2ft from us at all times or doesn't want him going to church. I can't even cuddle him at night without her barely knocking once and opening our bedroom door! It's such a turnoff and makes me not want to try.
She can feed herself, shower, get dressed, and drive. I don't think it's fair to take care of her just yet. And I know she's been abusing her power with us. What do I do? My husband thinks she's going to die in a couple years (I think she has been 5-10) and loves his mom so much! But what about our marriage? What about building our life together in a healthy way for once??