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R
Casting all your care upon him; for he careth for you. 1 peter 5:7
Hey JF, As someone who has had many online friends, it's so easy to fall into the place of enjoying someones time, attention, and missing them when they leave. My advice to you is get offline awhile, find things to do around you, and break away from this brian person. Being dependent on someone or something other than God for your happiness isn't healthy and will rob you of your joy. If you're not expecting anything then you should be able to walk away easily.
Praying with you.
Rose
Hey JF, As someone who has had many online friends, it's so easy to fall into the place of enjoying someones time, attention, and missing them when they leave. My advice to you is get offline awhile, find things to do around you, and break away from this brian person. Being dependent on someone or something other than God for your happiness isn't healthy and will rob you of your joy. If you're not expecting anything then you should be able to walk away easily.
Praying with you.
Rose
*shrug* how do I know it's God? well because 1) I have tried to let go before and it wound up hurting me more 2) once I just stayed put and prayed I was at peace about it.
Now I there's just something else and I can't put my finger on it and...I dunno....
People say that God is not a God of confusion but He IS confusing and so are his ways. So please don't tell me He's not a God of confusion.
Now I there's just something else and I can't put my finger on it and...I dunno....
People say that God is not a God of confusion but He IS confusing and so are his ways. So please don't tell me He's not a God of confusion.
R
Well get ready.... He's not. The enemy is....
you don't know me and I, you....but i have three precious daughter's that are your age. I'll promise you this..I'll pray with you. God loves you and let's remember who He is. What do you believe He wants for you? Pray specifically and tangable answers. He wants us to see Him work. This could be your answer.
you don't know me and I, you....but i have three precious daughter's that are your age. I'll promise you this..I'll pray with you. God loves you and let's remember who He is. What do you believe He wants for you? Pray specifically and tangable answers. He wants us to see Him work. This could be your answer.
People are confusing. Your friend who changed on you - totally confusing lol. But God isn't. I thought I knew God pretty well a year ago, but I still am learning so much through His word each day. Just like Paul said in Philippians 3:10, I want to know Christ. And Paul knew God pretty well, obviously. Not know about Him but to know Him on a personal level. His words in the bible are many, but things and life just start making sense as you continue in it. And as you continue in it, you'll find answers and enlightenment to stuff you've wondered about. Don't let how this guy has changed and the outcome of your hurt from it confuse your thinking that it's God who caused it. Sometimes God puts people on my heart and I pray for them and find the same peace you found while you were praying for your friend. But then it goes away and I just have to leave it in God's hands. I know it's a pain sometimes to not have an answer right away (especially if you have little patience like me :/) but it's just something we have to wait on. I pray that you continue to have peace through this whole situation and hopefully find some answer soon. 
UPDATE WITH SOME ANSWERS!!!
So God explained to me why I couldn't let go. Lemme show you first...
Q: Why do I care?
A: Because he used to be your safe haven when you were in Montessori. He was a break from the trauma. He was someone who you could lean on, tell your problems to and he really really cared. Not the fake kind of care either...like the real kind of care. He distracted me from everything going on and he was on my side. He made me happy when I was sad. When he left I not only felt the pain of him leaving but the pain of everything that I was repressing from Montessori and then things got dark without him because he no longer shielded me.
So you all are well aware that I have PTSD? Well my PTSD could be the reason why I can't just let go and move on. He blocked a lot of horrific pain for about three years while I was going there. My boyfriend said, "if the pain is gone then why cling to the shield?" it's because that's what PTSD does to a person. It makes the horrific past seem like the present and that is why I cannot let go...
Does this make sense now?
So God explained to me why I couldn't let go. Lemme show you first...
Q: Why do I care?
A: Because he used to be your safe haven when you were in Montessori. He was a break from the trauma. He was someone who you could lean on, tell your problems to and he really really cared. Not the fake kind of care either...like the real kind of care. He distracted me from everything going on and he was on my side. He made me happy when I was sad. When he left I not only felt the pain of him leaving but the pain of everything that I was repressing from Montessori and then things got dark without him because he no longer shielded me.
So you all are well aware that I have PTSD? Well my PTSD could be the reason why I can't just let go and move on. He blocked a lot of horrific pain for about three years while I was going there. My boyfriend said, "if the pain is gone then why cling to the shield?" it's because that's what PTSD does to a person. It makes the horrific past seem like the present and that is why I cannot let go...
Does this make sense now?
R
Yes but you can't hold onto him the rest of your life and use him as a shield against life's pains. Life is painful, that's a fact. With God's help you WILL be able to let him go and stand on your own without needing that shield anymore..
Exscuse me but do you actually HAVE PTSD? For all these years I didn't know WHAT was going on I was confused as to why I COULD NOT LET GO and then today I find out. I am making progress and I am doing the best I can with what I have.
To the general public: I AM SICK OF PEOPLE BEING LIKE "Have you moved on yet? Have you moved on yet? You should move on. You need to move on!" I'M WORKING ON IT! PTSD IS COMPLICATED AND I CAN'T ALWAYS AVOID MY TRIGGERS! SO INSTEAD OF MAKING ME FEEL CRAZY HOW ABOUT SOME SUPPORT INSTEAD!!
I have had one heck of a week and I am just DONE listening to this!!!
I appologize for being mean but LET ME GO AT MY OWN PACE!!!
To the general public: I AM SICK OF PEOPLE BEING LIKE "Have you moved on yet? Have you moved on yet? You should move on. You need to move on!" I'M WORKING ON IT! PTSD IS COMPLICATED AND I CAN'T ALWAYS AVOID MY TRIGGERS! SO INSTEAD OF MAKING ME FEEL CRAZY HOW ABOUT SOME SUPPORT INSTEAD!!
I have had one heck of a week and I am just DONE listening to this!!!
I appologize for being mean but LET ME GO AT MY OWN PACE!!!
I think a lot of people have been trying to be understanding and seeing where you're coming from. Trying to are the key words. It would be impossible for anyone to know that except God. I think that is why people are saying to let Him speak to you. Not saying that you haven't been. Cause it's evident you are. It's common whenever our lives become hectic, it is harder to hear God in those moments. I don't know the verse, but I immediately think of where it says "Be Still, and know that I am God." It just makes me realize He does have it.
*sigh* ik. And as well meaning as people maybe 1) it can't stop a PTSD trigger 2) one of the things I liked about Brian was that he didn't spit Bible verses and cliches at me or tell me what to do. He just listened to me and would tell me how sorry he was to be hearing that. He would validate and affirm me and then he would cheer me up with a joke or snarky remark....you don't have to make jokes but please don't spit verses and "Christian thinking" at me in an emotionally charged post unless I ask for it because chances are it's just gonna make things worse....honestly I have heard it alllllll before so it begins to sound like a record playing over and over and over.