parents stay together just for kids- what to do as the kid?

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DorotheaSofia

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CorrectiveLens said:
Hi Everyone. Just my thoughts on the subject. When in that situation, both parents tolerate each other due to the love they have for their kids. They obviously have lost respect for each other and need to find it again. Use their love for you to your advantage. In front of the other and on different occasions, shower each of them with appreciation and love. The love that you display will result in their respect for the ones you love. Do things together with your joy displayed and it will be a memorable time for all and who knows?
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It is extremely hard to be joyful doing sth with the family when everybody is forcing themselves to stay. In general though, I agree. I have seen how much of an impact my efforts and love make. On the other hand though it is so hard to keep on being joyful and trying when nothing seems to change. It is only possible through the holy Spirit
 
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DorotheaSofia

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Lanolin said:
sometimes a family pet can deflect attention, so its not all on you 'the kid'.

here is the thing..it is better to live in one place than to be shuttled from one house to another every second week. Families that stay together, even in the most perfect of marital conditions still need to learn how to live together and will have ups and downs and tensions from time to time.

Now if you dont care about family, then sure, divorce sometimes seems like the only option but consider this, though you may live in separte dwellings it costs twice as much, and your parents will STILL need to communicate unless they want to do it through expensive lawyers to get round restraining orders.

I have no idea why ppl cant be civil and call each other by name intead of telling others about their ex that they are 'the father of my children' or 'the mother of my child' what they had done that was so terrible that they cant even say their name....but obviosly they couldnt work it out.


Kudos to your parents that they are still together and willing to work theough whatver it is (or even forgive each other)
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That would be nice if they were willing to work through all this. They are not. They are also not forgiving each other. They are just not talking to each other. I'm glad I don't have to live in two homes so I agree with what you are saying, that would probably be harder, but honestly your last statement does not reflect what my parents are doing at all
 
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DorotheaSofia

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Williejay1975 said:
Usually life is bad in the young years. When you get older you will move pass this (it will not hurt you like it does); all Christians shall be persecuted (II Timothy 3:12).
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Well thanks for encouraging me. I do look forward to healing from all this through Jesus. It's also good to grow stronger and be able to handle tough situations as preparation for persecution
 
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