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If he feels called to witness to this Vegas world, then let him do it. Since HE broke up with you, then YOU need to tell him to leave you alone and stop calling and texting you. Have you considered this guy may NOT be who God has in mind for you? Let him go do the witness thing, and you get on with doing your own thing. You're so upset over this, you wouldn't be able to hear God's voice even if he screamed right in your face. Let this guy go and move on..stop obsessing and get on with your life..
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Hi, you are one of the many people that has told me that he's playing with fire. It's unreal. Thank you for your time and input. It is greatly appreciated.
It's so unreal though, he is even saying that I fear so much that I'm afraid to lose him. Are you kidding me? At this point I'd be scared to death to marry him!! LOL I'm not no needy fearfuly person. I've got a solid full time job, thank the Lord and a house and a car! Before him, I hadn't been in any relationship for over five years! I was busy doing other things in the Lord.
But man, the emails he's sending - some of the things cause me to question myself, and I want to ask over and over again to others.
I know the most important is spending time with the Lord. I have prayed about it immensely. Overall, His Will Be done.
Thank you again.
It's so unreal though, he is even saying that I fear so much that I'm afraid to lose him. Are you kidding me? At this point I'd be scared to death to marry him!! LOL I'm not no needy fearfuly person. I've got a solid full time job, thank the Lord and a house and a car! Before him, I hadn't been in any relationship for over five years! I was busy doing other things in the Lord.
But man, the emails he's sending - some of the things cause me to question myself, and I want to ask over and over again to others.
I know the most important is spending time with the Lord. I have prayed about it immensely. Overall, His Will Be done.
Thank you again.
L
I get your point totally, thank you very much and God bless you. But what's driving me insane is that he is saying I'M in the WRONG for saying what he is doing there in Vegas World isn't right. (Not the witnessing) but the one on one, male to female contact whilst in a relationship. Meeting up with new gals on there and going to "parties" and fellowshipping. He's saying it was MY FAULT that I "lost him". He says it was because of my fears and being too judgmental of an online game.
I can't help but obsess with it, if FOR any reason I'm doing something wrong, I want to know.
I can't help but obsess with it, if FOR any reason I'm doing something wrong, I want to know.
He's playing the blame game with you. He totally knows what he's getting into. Stop obsessing that he is blaming YOU, let it go and move on. He obviously isn't the one God has in mind for you, and you'd be able to see that clearly if you would stop letting this guy cloud your mind. The guy is obviously a player, in more ways than one. He is in God's hands, so stop stressing over this.
and thank you for the rep comment. I appreciate it.
and thank you for the rep comment. I appreciate it.
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He's playing the blame game with you. He totally knows what he's getting into. Stop obsessing that he is blaming YOU, let it go and move on. He obviously isn't the one God has in mind for you, and you'd be able to see that clearly if you would stop letting this guy cloud your mind. The guy is obviously a player, in more ways than one. He is in God's hands, so stop stressing over this.
and thank you for the rep comment. I appreciate it.
and thank you for the rep comment. I appreciate it.
Amen and Amen. God bless you 
M
Lily777 - you think he is trying to convince you, but i bet it is more about him trying to convince himself!
Sometimes people try very hard to justify things, because it is the only way they can deal with the situation they put themselves in. But the danger with justifying things is that over time, it can become an ingrained idea that becomes very hard to let go of.
Sometimes people try very hard to justify things, because it is the only way they can deal with the situation they put themselves in. But the danger with justifying things is that over time, it can become an ingrained idea that becomes very hard to let go of.
IMO a game such as you describe is totally inappropriate!
When I counsel women in person I ask my wife to be present. My wife wears a cochlear implant, without which she can't hear. If the person being counseled desires privacy she turns off and removes the implant device; but remains to verify the absence of inappropriate behavior.
When I counsel women on the forum or elsewhere online I invite her to watch over my shoulder at any time she likes.
Re: Please Help - B/F told me he NOW I'm too controlling and not submitting
typical response of a controlling bully, even now he is trying to manipulate you, maybe in the hope that you will go running to him and beg him to take you back and get to say how sorry you are for doubting him.
If you do this then you are opening yourself up for a relationship of hell, which could even eventually lead to physical abuse.
You have a chance for a clean start, just let him go, if he continues there is legal route and of course restraining orders. just block everything he sends, do not answer his calls and delete everything without reading it.
typical response of a controlling bully, even now he is trying to manipulate you, maybe in the hope that you will go running to him and beg him to take you back and get to say how sorry you are for doubting him.
If you do this then you are opening yourself up for a relationship of hell, which could even eventually lead to physical abuse.
You have a chance for a clean start, just let him go, if he continues there is legal route and of course restraining orders. just block everything he sends, do not answer his calls and delete everything without reading it.
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Re: Please Help - B/F told me he NOW I'm too controlling and not submitting
Block his email. Why bother? He's not listening and it's over, so block his email address. You don't need more of his abuse.
"Witness" is a two-way conversation. He's into monologues, so this is no longer witnessing.
And, if he calls, the second he places this on you, hang up. He's still not listening. There is absolutely no benefit in you taking his manure. Women aren't composters.
Block his email. Why bother? He's not listening and it's over, so block his email address. You don't need more of his abuse.
"Witness" is a two-way conversation. He's into monologues, so this is no longer witnessing.
And, if he calls, the second he places this on you, hang up. He's still not listening. There is absolutely no benefit in you taking his manure. Women aren't composters.
A
So what? Someone is always right and someone is always wrong. It really no longer matters in this case, since you are no longer in that relationship. He's probably doing the same thing to you that he's doing to the other woman, so they'll catch the hints and run. Meanwhile, he's out of the picture, so get him out of the picture. Go back to being that strong woman. You didn't need him to validate your life before, so why worry whether he's validating now? What he says to you now is less important than what Dean Schozimottizne out of Poughkeepsie says to you. (I sure hope no one in Poughkeepsie has that name. lol)
This is why it's important that you block him. He's gotten into your head. Get him out! You've let this bird nest, now clear the nest out, so he has to find a new place. And trust the next woman is also a smart woman and learns.
This is why it's important that you block him. He's gotten into your head. Get him out! You've let this bird nest, now clear the nest out, so he has to find a new place. And trust the next woman is also a smart woman and learns.
K
Lily you are being manipulated.This guy wants his cake and eat it too. I want to try and be gentle about this but if this guy truly cared about you he would have quit this Vegas World as soon as you voiced your concern.He certainly would be telling you how wrong you are.Its just not right. He's totally in the wrong and refuses to admit it. You do not want to be married to a man that cant say he is in the wrong. You do not want that heartache. I went to the site,it is not a place for Christians to be period. Shifting blame and accusing you show very poor character traits in him.You ARE NOT wrong! You need to put him out of your life,move on and let another woman become his babysitter.JMO
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Thank you again very much kaylagrl. God bless you. Thank you everyone else here also. Sometimes words are not enough.
Next is the part is where I'm healing from the hurt, and yeah it does hurt a lot, seeking the Lord of course, and praying and to serve Him in any way He wills for His Glory. He IS so Comforting also of course. Abba, Father!! His Will Be Done!