Some of that has already happened in the past. I try to lead by example, and as soon as I think (sometimes too soon on my part) that's it's safe to bring up what's important to me in the marriage, we end up taking steps back. She has a hard time moving forward and not holding a little bit of a grudge. Her comment is every few weeks or months I say something. I just want to improve our marriage is all. Comes from a good place, but it's not always taken that way. She sees marriage as too much work sometimes...her words, not mine. So this long slow road I'm on, is
def slow, definitely long and fragile. I just pray at some point, during these hard times we're riding in the same car down this road to a place we both enjoy.