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Didymous

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I was foolish enough to marry an unbeliever, so none of that really applies to us. I"m just waiting until can pay for the divorce. I do pray for her every day, however-mainly for her salvation.
 

TabinRivCA

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........or sometimes it's something as simple as "you like butterflies and I found this butterfly necklace and thought of you" ( I have A LOT of butterfly jewelry now, lol).

So my mans not one to hold hands when we're out, or be all mushy, or flowers or WHATEVER. And the past few years it kinda started getting me down. UNTIL one day the Lord reminded me that he wasn't like that before we got married so why in the world would I expect him to be like that now? And then the Lord started pointing everyday little things out to me that my husband does or says that ARE HIS OWN PERSONAL UNIQUE WAYS of saying "I LOVE YOU!"

Dunno, maybe this subject is just for me.......... or maybe it's meant to pull someone else outta there comfort zone, or open someone else eyes or whatever. Would love to hear others stories.
I'm twice a widow and have picked up a few tidbits. I think holding hands is one of the most romantic looks between a couple as well as never losing respect.
Once in a while, a couple should sit down and write a couple of things they wish the other would consider either changing or doing. I hope you and he start holding hands soon!
 

tourist

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I'm twice a widow and have picked up a few tidbits. I think holding hands is one of the most romantic looks between a couple as well as never losing respect.
Once in a while, a couple should sit down and write a couple of things they wish the other would consider either changing or doing. I hope you and he start holding hands soon!
My wife and I exchange notes each morning during my work week.
 
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My husband realized I truly love him when we were in an argument. He stormed out to the shop to work and think, and I clean when angry, so I was scrubbing the devil out of the sink. In his anger he wasn't paying attention to what he was doing and cut himself on some metal. He came inside, dripping blood all over my freshly scrubbed sink. and I quietly got up, took his injured hand, and cleaned it. Then I put a bandaid on it and walked away. He said that was when he knew I would love him no matter what.
We've had plenty of arguments, and our share of bad times, but sticking it out and working it out, makes the good times even sweeter.
 

Godsgirl83

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My husband realized I truly love him when we were in an argument. He stormed out to the shop to work and think, and I clean when angry, so I was scrubbing the devil out of the sink. In his anger he wasn't paying attention to what he was doing and cut himself on some metal. He came inside, dripping blood all over my freshly scrubbed sink. and I quietly got up, took his injured hand, and cleaned it. Then I put a bandaid on it and walked away. He said that was when he knew I would love him no matter what.
We've had plenty of arguments, and our share of bad times, but sticking it out and working it out, makes the good times even sweeter.
Thanks for sharing! I'm smiling while reading this, cuz we've had THOSE moments too;) Sometimes I jokingly tell my hubby I think he likes making me mad because that's when the house is cleanest, lol.
 

gramabrendab

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Thank you so much for asking. This really started me to thinking. For me it is that he listens. I mean really listens to what I have to say and communicates with me. I also really like it when he takes the position as head of the household and seeks God's answers to the problems in our lives. Then when he respects me as his help meet, that is the pinnacle of our relationship. Putting God at the head is the best thing we ever did. Together with Him we make an awesome threesome.

Our daily devotion and prayer time together is so special and gives us the power to move on in our lives and carry out God's plan. My husband and I are so very different, we know when we agree on something, it is God speaking to each of us and us listening.

My married son says "study the "Love Languages" book." He and his wife found that her "love language" was gifts, so he tries to remember that and his is "touch" so she tries to remember that. This is real respect and honoring.

I think respect really comes down to supporting one another and realizing that we are each special and different and trying to honor that. Unity comes from bonding and bonding comes from like mindedness and understanding another form of respect.

I really was so blessed to read the posts. Thanks for sharing.
 

Godsgirl83

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Thank you so much for asking. This really started me to thinking. For me it is that he listens. I mean really listens to what I have to say and communicates with me. I also really like it when he takes the position as head of the household and seeks God's answers to the problems in our lives. Then when he respects me as his help meet, that is the pinnacle of our relationship. Putting God at the head is the best thing we ever did. Together with Him we make an awesome threesome.

Our daily devotion and prayer time together is so special and gives us the power to move on in our lives and carry out God's plan. My husband and I are so very different, we know when we agree on something, it is God speaking to each of us and us listening.

My married son says "study the "Love Languages" book." He and his wife found that her "love language" was gifts, so he tries to remember that and his is "touch" so she tries to remember that. This is real respect and honoring.

I think respect really comes down to supporting one another and realizing that we are each special and different and trying to honor that. Unity comes from bonding and bonding comes from like mindedness and understanding another form of respect.

I really was so blessed to read the posts. Thanks for sharing.
Thank You for sharing! "help meet" that is term I haven't heard in a VERY LONG TIME (except the occasional times my hubby uses it).