Seemingly different spouses

[Dirtman]

Can someone please explain the difference between the phrases "believe ON" and "believe IN"? What does believe ON Jesus mean? The English I grew up with means I believe IN Jesus....I trust IN Him, not ON Him. I just don't get the "On" thing.... Is it a Southern thing or a Baptist term maybe? I rarely hear anyone in church say believing ON. Someone please explain because I've wondered about this for awhile.

It's the same thing.

 

[HalleluYAH]

My mom was more outgoing, by far, about her faith, both verbally and action-wise. I always thought my dad should be more the spiritual leader, but he wasn't. Both would go to church though, just different ones.

Now I feel like I am in the same situation myself, where I get "ga ga" about spiritual things, musically, Bible reading, spiritual book-reading, speakers, workshops, basically anything. My spouse doesn't. Sometimes it seems to be a time-related thing, but other than that I think the most spiritual anything for (spouse) is going to church (will put some other things ahead of church) and claiming to pray and pay attention/think about the messages at church. But at church (spouse) is basically reactionless, and it concerns me many a time, but has sounded defensive when asked about the seemingly lack of interest in it.

When I want to attend, join, or take an interest in something spiritual outside of church I feel alone in it, because I never see much enthusiasm about such things on (spouse's ) part. If (spouse has to miss some services I don't see him/her seeking to find out what they missed It puts a damper on me and I have a hard time wanting to express myself. I go head over heels in love with a particular type music, but I think (spouse) doesn't get into music --maybe because raised in a not-so-musical family?

People of the opposite gender or who I see living more outspoken and active in their faith get to looking appealing, yet make me sad that my spouse "can't " be like that too. I often feel unequally yoked.

If anybody else has been in my position and been able to overcome the lonely, quasi-unequally-yoked feeling, and managed to view your spouse with a more loving and accepting lense, to where you can be yourself in how you worship, please let me know.

This is a very thought provoking post. thank you for sharing and initiating. i believe it all comes down to loving the other person, or preferring the other person, over ourselves. If we do this one thing, whenever possible, I believe the outcome is a happy marriage.

 

[HalleluYAH]

I learned something the hard way after much struggle, anguish, and tears: you can't change people. You either accept them for who they are or you don't. Given your situation of being married, you should probably try to change your mind about this and just accept that your spouse is who they are and try to love them and support them. Being energetic and happy about spiritual things isn't really a requirement so I hope that helps you accept their low-energy.

Further thought, is to energize the person. Speak to the good you see them doing, and energize them. Its called energizing the positive. Try it, there is something you can speak to in their life, and put energy on it. See what happens.

 

[Angela53510]

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No I was not given Remdesvir! Although my sister & her husband invested a lot in the company, hoping it would be a big seller, and their profits would go up.

I did not take a drug ending in "Vir" for COVID. Monoclonal Antibodies end with "MAB!" My biologic is a "MAB" which attacks B cells. I'm in my 4th year of being on it! The one I got for COVID helped my lungs. in half an hour! I was hurting taking every breathe and in the short time, it stopped hurting! I was very glad it worked! Although MABs are great, the one I took stopped working on the newer varieties of COVID.