We get together with our grown children and grandchildren for special occasions and to have fun. When I had my 60th birthday, it was Canadian Thanksgiving, and everyone flew or drove to be there for it. It was such a success we did it again last Christmas and we are going to do it this summer for my husband's birthday.
But we don't have a lot of decisions or family matters to plough through. For my birth family, we do have issues. We had a big intervention for my brother a few years ago. We had doctors and social workers and the whole family there. The social worker did nothing for him. The psychiatrist just wanted to get him back into treatment. He didn't care beyond that.
So we did not accomplish our goal, even though we were all there.
I know you feel very left out, at this point. But you really have to think about the goal of the meeting. Would it make any difference if you were there, to the outcome? Some families have already figured out what they are doing before the meeting. My thought is to make it there, and try and enjoy the time spent with your family. If you don't enjoy the time spent with your family, then why would you want to go on vacation with them? I think when we become adults, we do try and maintain those family bonds, but not at the expense of our emotional health, and certainly not doing things and going places which are things we would not choose for ourselves.
Of course you have to do what is right for you and your situation.
But we don't have a lot of decisions or family matters to plough through. For my birth family, we do have issues. We had a big intervention for my brother a few years ago. We had doctors and social workers and the whole family there. The social worker did nothing for him. The psychiatrist just wanted to get him back into treatment. He didn't care beyond that.
So we did not accomplish our goal, even though we were all there.
I know you feel very left out, at this point. But you really have to think about the goal of the meeting. Would it make any difference if you were there, to the outcome? Some families have already figured out what they are doing before the meeting. My thought is to make it there, and try and enjoy the time spent with your family. If you don't enjoy the time spent with your family, then why would you want to go on vacation with them? I think when we become adults, we do try and maintain those family bonds, but not at the expense of our emotional health, and certainly not doing things and going places which are things we would not choose for ourselves.
Of course you have to do what is right for you and your situation.
