Delusional is not my word and I reject that thought absolutely. You are indeed a seeker and that is both our benefit and our curse. Seekers travel their own roads, bumps and all.
I will try to make a response. These are my thoughts and I make no claim on wisdom. If I have misunderstood any of these comments, and I probably did; please grant me a grace.
"why would He judge people for being homosexual when they were born that way?"
I think we confuse pre-destination with tendency. I agree some are born with traits, such as effeminate males, that can lead to poor choices, but it is ultimately a choice.
"All creation is balanced, or created to be balanced."
While ecological processes may attempt to return to their previous state of balance, creation progresses. The history of creation does not revert or we would have dinosaur neighbors. The second law of thermodynamics established not balance but entropy in creation.
"Top predator populations are controlled by hormones."
If you are talking animal predators, I do not believe there is evidence to support your conclusion. Animal predators are controlled by their nature (instinct) which were God created. If you are talking about “alpha males” then, much like the homosexual issue, it comes down to choice. If not choice, then any crime of an alpha male would have to be excused.
"Females determine which suitors get to pass on their genes."
In our culture this may be true, but in others this is far from the norm. Throughout history the choices of female humans have been limited, or worse, absolutely controlled by others. We may see greater choices in the animal world for some females but should not assume this for humans.
"God invented sex but He didn’t invent sexuality,"
Sexuality is the expression of our sex and was absolutely created by God. I am not sure how you can make this point without dismissing the story of creation.
"When He sent Israel on military campaigns to destroy populations, it was to maintain balance."
This is a tough one. I think it is a misinterpretation to say God sent the Israelites on campaigns to destroy populations. He did send them on campaigns to destroy some populations who had abandoned their beliefs and engaged if sin. The goal appears to be to be the creation of a land for His people where they could live in peace under His rule. There are also examples in the Bible where he cautioned the Israelites to leave certain populations alone and to pass through their land in peace.
"Too many alphas may cause battles to force natural selection."
Too many alphas will cause them to battle each other. That always happens when cultures encounter change.
"humans glorify sex and celebrate it and allow it to define them"
Most people do not let sex define them. We are husbands, wives, parents, children, Christians, cub fans, and bad golfers. Sex is only a wee piece of a greater human picture.
"sexuality, how one defines their expression of hormonal urges."
Sexuality is much more than that. I have been married 53 years, if urges controlled my sexuality, I probably would not have survived the very first one.
"Sexuality is psychological."
Yes, and physical, and emotional, and spiritual. Jesus repeatedly used marriage as the clearest example of his relationship with us. He is the Bridegroom and we are his bride. This is much more than a psychological expression.
"Sex wasn’t designed to define us and make us whole? Nope."
Sex does make us whole; we are designed to experience all the benefits of sex as long as we do so appropriately. It is satisfying, fulfilling and answers some very deep needs we have besides just urges. This is why it is so central to humans.
"It’s not some sacred gift we give to another, making us one with them? Not exactly."
It is. Husband and wife become one, totally and exclusively. One flesh, one mind, one body, one in spirit. We are one in every way as we shall someday be one in Christ.
Finally, about Darwin. His theories have been discounted among scientists and are now only promulgated by the anti-Christian media. He correctly described processes that generate changes in populations but then tried to expand those processes to explain the Origin of Species. It doesn’t work. This is a very simple explanation and you will need to explore the truth on your own.
Please know this is written with all honor and respect.