MIGs, I feel for you since my ex husband was the same way. While it is impossible for a humans words to make you feel better; and I'm sure you have heard it all before; think about the languages of love. Not every man naturally expresses love through affection. Sometimes instead of holding you at night he takes that phone call from work that helps his boss value him to the point of a raise. Sometimes that kiss on the cheek becomes fixing the air conditioner. Sometimes that fun pinch to the butt becomes trimming the tree branch that may have fallen on the house.
If he just doesn't act like a husband period you have even greater sympathy from me. When he doesn't show affection do you try to woo him?