Trouble with girlfriend's mom...

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artistic_dreams

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#21
ya my mistake...i need to learn to do that...i will get it righ eventually lol ty anyways
 
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Vidy

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#22
Yeah, no offense taken XD

But really, these guys support our relationship, but they sometimes show something that seems like it's against us, and it really confuses me sometimes lol. Reminds me of that analogy "You have 99 grams of sugar and 1 gram of cyanide in a bowl." I NEED them to be fully on board for this relationship. They should keep it in check, and they have every right to, but they don't need to cut and harm where it's not necessary, ya know?

Anyway, it's almost over I think. Her mom and I are still trying to talk, but we're avoiding anything to do with parenting, relationships, situations, ect. I will be talking to her dad tomorrow (keeps gettin pushed back rofl), and I believe he is very reasonable, and am probably more willing to do what he says, even if I don't like it. But I'm worried about what he's gonna set up, because as of now, I can't talk about what I listed above (this argument, relationships INCLUDING OURS, and anything "serious"). I really want to TALK to her about this, considering that it happened. I don't want to try to get her to choose sides, I just want to let her know my feelings on this and stuff.

I also had stuff to talk to her about regarding a "serious" long-term conversation, including our future, God, ect. I REALLY want to talk to her about that regardless, but it'll really suck if that ends up being off-limits because of these new rules =(
 
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Tisha

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#23
Hon all I can tell you is sit back and hold on tight for the ride. I started dating my husband when I was 15 and didn't go on my first date with him until I was almost 17 and even than my twin sis had to ride with us and go with us everywhere. So in reality he had to pay to take 2 ppl on a date lol. But back to my point my parents were really strict. I could only talk to him on a cell phone he bought me, sometimes I could use the house phone to talk to him. But they would always ground me away from him if I did anything they thought was wrong. They would also constantly tell me how he wasn't the right guy for me and that I should never marry him. They were so bad that one day he got so mad he went outside and busted the back glass out of car. DO NOT GO AND DO THAT. But when they talked to other ppl about him they would say how good he was to me and stuff. it was hard on me as well as him. They were always making threats about going and fileing stagetory rape charges on him even though we weren't having sex. Your just going to have to stick it out or break up with the girl because she has to do what her parents want her to do.
 
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Kay_Kay

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#24
Okay, I think I've got the story straight, it was a little hard to follow.

I'm just going to let you know from personal experience that I loathe passive-aggressive guilt trips, and your "I guess.... =/" "okay..." would make me mad too. You were given legitimate reasons why you weren't going to be included and you answered back with indifference instead of, "I'm disappointed but I understand". When a family is stressed and trying to be tactful excluding you the last thing they need is to deal with your upset. Although I'm not sure I would go as far as to contacting you and causing a war over it, she's right, you are missing the big picture here.

Instead of saying something like, "Listen, I'm sorry I came off as XYZ, I just wanted to see my girlfriend" you chose to argue, and then tried to corner your girlfriends mother into some sort of ridiculous confession.

It may be trivial and accidental, but you just separated Brit from your family there...
doesn't look like unity to me...
2:25pmWanda
And then you want to look like you're the one being abused here. I wouldn't tolerate your underhanded accusations either. She made it clear you weren't a priority and you couldn't sit well with that. Instead of being a man about it, you chose to act like the victim and argue.