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Vidy

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^^I agree, and that's all I was trying to say =D

In my case (yeah, I'm still kinda struggling), I do it because of the "pleasure" feeling. When I'm feeling especially down, I use it as a "pick-me-up" (even though I shouldn't). I need to learn to find a more productive outlet to take care of the bad feelings, like, oh, GOD lol. It has nothing to do with not being satisfied with what I have ~_o Because of dedication to a girl, I was able to last 6 months. Then, when browsing forums, I accidentally caught a troll who was posting a ton of inappropriate pictures- I fell back into it =(
 
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Kuroko

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True story, my second girlfriend (rebound to be honest) insisted that I delete all the porn on my computer. I'm talking about years of hard work collecting here.

Now in my defense I thought I was doing the world a favor and that if I downloaded it no one else could, it was a weight I was prepared to carry.. I was wrong of course but I digress.

See she told me the thought of me looking at other girls disgusted her and that she considered it the same as cheating, I told her I just wouldn't look at it but refused to delete it and she insisted that I did (she actually said "well if you aren't going to look at it then why even bother having it") I explained there was the collection and evolution of the things I found attractive in women as I have grown up over the years, of course she insisted that I delete it again and I told her I would the second our relationship became serious (mind you my first girlfriend was quite open about porn so it was quite a promise I was making here) and that if we were together in six months I'd do it.

Funny part. She was impressed that she was only the second girl I had ever slept with (not a christian girl, nor I christian at the time) and that I had lost my virginity at 23 which is nearly unheard of these days.... I told her it was the porn that helped me.

The moral of the story is there is a difference between lust and love, confusing the two is where a lot of people go wrong these days.
I don't want sex, I want love.
 
DinoDillinger

DinoDillinger

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TO THE ORIGINAL POSTER: You do not need to respond to this, but considering this age's ideas on sex and marriage I thought it neccarary to share. If you and him and are having sex now then that is a bigger warning sign then him looking at porn. Both of you are sinning against yourself. If this is the case then you are already joined to him, and sharing the porn.
 
QuestionTime

QuestionTime

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Kuroko said:
Guys, I'm being as honest here as I can be (I'm talking to all the other guys who have posted here).
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That's a great message Kuroko, thanks for sharing.

Physical urge + stress + lack of confidence + consolation for grief + boredom are some possible reasons for us men looking at porn.

I think of course the greatest reason is because we don't believe God's Word. If we believed we were dead to sin we would act like it. So unbelief really is the root cause of this sin, and all others.

Quest
 
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