Who Should Be Teaching Sex Education?

[maxwel]

Seoulsearch,

You really seem to have a lot of questions about sex education.

Everyone here really likes you,
so if you don't understand "how things work"...
just ask someone in private.

 

[Tintin]

Yes, not about the physical act of sex but there's plenty regarding the sanctity of marriage and how sex is part of the marriage covenant. More of the spiritual angle of sex if you will.

you realize the bible really doesnt teach anything about sex other than waiting til marriage...

 

[secularhermit]

By the moment I post this, 18 were voting "Parents and Any of the Above." (I'm glad this is not taboo).
Most of us are going to die with anything related to sex: We came with it.

Last week I attended a PT meeting and they were aware of the many problems we are to face with kids: sex or domestic violence.
The Bible is a good handbook to teach about this and there are many books to read on parenting (Our life experience is the best teacher).

 

[ukkez]

i think school should be teaching of sti's, and physical side of it. would be good to have the church side of it to younge adults, what the bible says, what God thinks of it. and at home to be open about any questions. iv heard in the netherlands have one of the lowest pregnacy rates in the world, there was something on the tv about it, because there very open about sex, they have a lot of those sort of shops. there were thinking about doing the same sex ed in the uk but there was an upset because it means lowering the age to 5, but when excplained they talked about love to them at that age and what it means and the diffrents of love between diffrent people. i think its a good to talk to kids about it openly.
i found out about sex from friends and school. it was all a bit scary and a tabo.

 

[Nautilus]

Yes, not about the physical act of sex but there's plenty regarding the sanctity of marriage and how sex is part of the marriage covenant. More of the spiritual angle of sex if you will.

I mean outside of the waiting till marriage is there that much important spiritual stuff? Most of what i can find are metaphors about it bonding people together which would be assumed from the wait til marriage talk...? Also if its saved for marriage isnt that the sanctity part right there?

 

[seoulsearch]

Seoulsearch,

You really seem to have a lot of questions about sex education.

Everyone here really likes you,
so if you don't understand "how things work"...
just ask someone in private.

I'm PMing you right now as I type, Maxwel.

JUST KIDDING. KIDDING!!!! Wow, that could get me in a lot of trouble. Don't worry, I think Maxwel would have enough sense to report me!

This thread is from 2010... I don't know who keeps bringing up all these old threads but I welcome it if people want to discuss it. (It spares me the pain of having to try to write new threads!) Some topics are never old.

 

[maxwel]

Seoulsearch,
stop PMing me all these weird questions!

I don't know EITHER!!!!

I told you I was sending you a book!

: )

 

[hattiebod]

I mean outside of the waiting till marriage is there that much important spiritual stuff? Most of what i can find are metaphors about it bonding people together which would be assumed from the wait til marriage talk...? Also if its saved for marriage isnt that the sanctity part right there?

There may not be specific spelled out instructions. But we do know, if we feed on the word. There is not much about the sort of movies we ought to watch either, or the way we should live as a family, as we work etc but we are clearly shown and we need to simply apply it to ourselves. Its not hard. Well, actually its not hard to understand His will for us, but it is hard to live it...coz we swim against the current. That is tough. We live for Him...in all ways. We can tell who does....by where their time, loves and faith lies. We are different...if we are not...then what went wrong? Christ did not....So, let us edify Him, In ALL ways, in all ways we can glorify Him and know that He is good. God Bless, <><

 

[Nautilus]

So youre saying there are unstated rules for sex in the bible that you just have to sorta infer?

 

[chooserightway]

Firstly, I am sorry if my english is not so good, because it is not my native language.
I live in country where sex education doesn't exist in schools. We learn about sex organs anatomy in biology in 8th grade (last grade of primary school) and never again. Probably only one lesson in whole life (if you don't study medicine). Everything else is left for parents, but they are too shy to talk about such subject. This is conservative society, and still we have many teenager pregnacies and abortions. Even some mother take their daughters to abort their children, as way of contraception (for others they don't know) Society doesn't do anything to prevent this. I was amased when I heard that in one period of time it was proposed for sexual education to became a part of school curuculum and that biology teacher were ones who stoped it. They were to shy to talk about it.
I have a little girl 3 years old, and I think that education, including sexual will help her to avoid most of problems and temptation in her life regarding sex and everything else.

 

[Canny]

I voted parents only, the rubbish my children came home from school with was astonishing.

 

[hattiebod]

So youre saying there are unstated rules for sex in the bible that you just have to sorta infer?

Sex between husband and wife. Raise our children to know His Word. The Word of God gives us all the instruction we need, we can study it, read it and then apply it to our lives. (that's the bit we have trouble with! <><

 

[Elizabeth619]

Thank you. Personally, I think public schools are failing. As a whole. I whole-heartedly encourage private schooling or homeschooling.

They are failing. Without a doubt. My son attends the same elementary school I attended as a child. Everything is different. It's awful. I used to be against homeschooling. I am highly supportive of it these days.

 

[Grey]

I voted parents only, the rubbish my children came home from school with was astonishing.

Could you kindly provide us with an example?

 

[hopesprings]

So youre saying there are unstated rules for sex in the bible that you just have to sorta infer?

The bible doesn't talk about 'rules' within marriage. Hebrews 13 says that the marriage bed should be kept pure...which implies that all things are permissible for a married couple. Adultery and sexual immortality are the things that God will judge, but those are outside the confines of marriage.

 

[Nautilus]

Sex between husband and wife. Raise our children to know His Word. The Word of God gives us all the instruction we need, we can study it, read it and then apply it to our lives. (that's the bit we have trouble with! <><

Ok i agree with sex between husband ad wife but none of the institutions, schools, churches, or parents are teaching what that consists of. There is more to sex than what we tell our children is my point. Personally i guess there is the option of letting them u nover things themselves but at least acknowledging that things like fetishes and non-traditional sex may arise is better than having them go in blind

 

[MatthewMichael]

This is not just learning about sex education this is specifically about sexual intercourse, my question is why would this kids do that in that girl, and how come they have that kind of thinking...and where in the right world losing your virginity is qualification to be accepted in the group... and why this kids are doing such immoral acts and being proud of it??! Where did they learn all of this...??? Personality develops first at home second in the environment where we are into outside the home, this kids obviously are lacking the right guidance from their parents, and so its easy for them to catch things up what the world is doing and since the older ones are doing this also proudly then they think also its OK and its like being the new trend right now that everyone should follow. It's not that kids have to be teach what aren't right things to do but I believe kids should be filled in in their minds the right things to do and teach them to be responsible at the very young age. It doesn't matter if your a single parent if you really want to be a good parent. Punishing them or hurting them I don't think would work for this kids ... they say if you do something bad , you just want to get some attention... a serious talk maybe...with care...with love... not being hard but gentle

They learn it from the greatest false idol of our age my friend. The screen.

 

[Nancyer]

My daughter is 17 months and we are already talking about sex. Ok, not sex per se, but she is learning the real names of all her body parts, so that when she gets older she does not feel embarrassed to use those words when she talks to me. And that's what I want--for her to TALK to me!! We are going to start sex education when she is young because let's face it--9, 10, 11 and 12 year olds are having sex all the time--sad but true. So when my daughter goes to school and finds out her classmate is having sex she can come home to me and ask me about it, and I will give her the facts. I'm sure she will get TONS of information from her friends, kids on the bus, advertising, etc., but I want her to trust me to give her the right information no matter what age it becomes interesting to her (and sadly, that age will probably come WAY too soon, but that is reality).

The message I and her father are going to stress to her at all ages is that she needs to PROTECT her sexuality in EVERY WAY--what she hears, sees, does, what other people do to her, etc. I am going to let her know that God values purity, and so do I and her father. We will use inevitabe sexual exposure (adverstisements, friends, etc.) as learning opportunities to talk about what the message is saying, why it is saying that, and what is bad about it, etc. I will also be forthright to her about sex, options that are available for protection, STDS, risk of pregnancy, etc. I value education very highly, and do not believe that her having accurate knowledge about sex is going to 'push her in the wrong direction' but rather it is the ATTITUDE I will try to instill in her that will make the difference: sex is not wrong or bad when it is done right, and until she is married it cannot be 'right.' HOWEVER it will ultimately be up to her to make the decision to protect her sexuality, and I want to be available and open to her to help her along the way. Therefore, I can't be afriad to talk about it with her, and that's why we are starting young--to break down the embarrassment before it develops. Of course in everything I believe in balance, and I will always consider her developmental age in all conversations.

Amen and BRILLIANT!!!! You sound like an amazing mom. If all parents felt, talked and acted this way towards the subject of sex with their kids we would live in a much different and better world. I feel I was lucky in that I could go to my mom any time and ask her anything. They believed sex before marriage was wrong, immoral. But they believed in sex education.

I had to have them sign a permission slip so I could see a film of a woman giving birth (science class, sophomore year). My grandmother had a fit. Thought that was terrible, showing us stuff like that, no one should see that stuff. But my parents signed it, gladly, no with reservations. They wanted my sister and I to know the facts, understand the consequences, and make smart choices when the time was right.

Kids need to know the anatomical points of sex and their bodies, how things work, etc. Schools should be able to do that. But parents should instill values, morals and decency. Instill in their kids that sex is the most intimate gift 2, committed adult people can give to each other , not something traded like baseball cards.

Abstinence shouldn't have to be taught. It should be the default mode. (hey, we could make T-shirts.....)

 

[isaria]

I also like wonderlands approach.

It would be nice if it was holified again in the teachings, sex.

It feels like its been tacky somehow instead of something sacred and holy.
Been misused and with all the illegal sex acts going on.
I know they say "realistically" buuuuuuut......... i personally seek it to be sacred and pray will be blessed to marry wonderful man some day and experience such wonders.

I heard of parent people sell children or teenagers as prostitutes without them knowing as part of organised crime and making a 4tune of it.
Maybe giving them alcohol and programming them.
Molesting as babys and a whole life time of really yucky sex raised by atheists so to then as christian seek a holy sacred sex "like a virgin" after only having had really bad yucky sex.
A pastor once said he beleives in a second type of virginity.
He never explained in detail.
Sounded nice though for the girl he was comforting and reassuring after her horrid sex experience.


I would of prefered a pastor or someone I admire and respect and look up to to tell me of sex as child.
Told me it something sacred but if one been abused sexually then it feels dirty not sacred because it was missused by such people.


It is awful feel "locked out" and alone and be bullied and for such a reason she a virgin.
Are the others having sex and sexaddicts maybe to or with a fellow she been seeing......
Was this a christian school?

The parents are not good with correcting their children but often they sometimes encourage their children to bully and behave in such ways.
Not very adult like but we seen beauty pageans and other examples .


I like the idea of waiting till marriage with the love make sexing.
One can do lots other things b4 then and as i lived alone isolated so long , joys of holding hands rings high as incredibly magnificent.


Maybe they are jealous of her.
what real reason is there to treat her in such a manner....

Many teach it in a pretty bad and light manner others teach it to use as power.
Someone told me of girls being raised to do anything to please men sexually so they can get what they want and they were being raised and taught this from a young age.
They were raised to do very bad things if something stood in the way and i try be open minded and realistic theres different types people etc buuuut still think its sad what goes on with sex and how destructive it can be , how misused.

best wishes for the teachings of sex.