- Oct 25, 2014
We have these neighbors that we barely know, a fragile old lady that is 70+ years old and her disabled daughter. They live alone. The daughter had a car accident or something and since then has been really ill and cannot move. The mother is not able to take good care of the daughter, she does not keep her clean so she sits in her own excrements and this depressing odor fills the house. The girl really needs to be in a proper facility where she will be kept clean and taken good care of and have company, it's bad enough that she is unable to take care of herself and I've heard she was such a perfect young lady before the accident, not only she's made into her own shadow but also stripped of the last shred of human dignity by her family's toxic decisions. Yet she did not lose her kindness and smiles, it's heartbreaking The family doesn't want to put her into a health care facility. (I asked my husband if it's money, but no it's not even a money issue they just decided so.) Their church is not stepping up, and we barely know them so it isn't our place to say anything. We don't mind helping her lift and move her at times but the thing is the issue shouldn't even be there. How do you help people who by making bad decisions basically make it impossible to help them? What can we do for them (esp. since we barely know them)? You can't even sit in that living room, otherwise we'd be visiting for daughter's sake. We don't really want to associate since the mom's shown before when someone is kind to her she loses all boundaries and gets very entitled, coming into houses and waking people up and stuff to give her rides several times a day for non urgent small errands (she calls them "emergencies"), so neighbors were forced to draw the line and keep their distance, one by one. I guess I could bake them some cookies still of something sometimes so the daughter can know somebody cares. But that's not solving anything. I don't even really know what I want with this post, I just couldn't get this out of my mind since we've been there this morning. I think that disabled girl deserves better. Please pray and give advice from your experience this is really depressing.
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