Grow up. My wife and I live in a challenging neighborhood. A shootout a few weeks ago between two drug dealers left one of them dead and the other wounded. That was seven blocks from our home. We hear gunfire much too often. The two American Islamic Extremists who drove to Texas to shoot people and were themselves gunned down by law enforcement, lived one mile from us. We carry pepper spray and a stun gun just to walk our dogs. A quarter mile away, where we ride our bikes, a woman riding her bike was murdered and her head was cut off.
Because of the dangers around us, my wife and I have discussed hypothetical situations of all kinds, in hope of surviving an attack, a robbery, a home invasion. And yes, we even discuss one of us being killed. We are saving up to move to a safer neighborhood, but until then, we have purchased life insurance and installed security cameras, warning signs, an alarm system, and additional home defense that includes firearms.
My point is you and your husband really should be discussing hypothetical situations where your lives are threatened, or even a situation where one of you is seriously injured or killed. You need to have a plan. For instance, you told us you walked into a busy public place in the days following the attack in Paris, without thinking there could be a follow up attack in such a place. Someone set off fireworks and people scattered. What if it had been someone with a gun? What was your plan? Don't tell me that if you quit going to theaters or concerts or soccer games, the terrorists win. If you live in a hot zone, you better change the way you think and act. You are young and you should strongly consider getting out of Paris. It may not be worth the risk.
I use to wonder about the people who worked in the World Trade Centers. After the first attempt to destroy one of the towers, most people continued working there. If my wife had a job there, we would have looked for a new job elsewhere. Even today, I think living in Manhattan or Washington DC is too risky. Those cities are major targets. They will be struck again.
Stop and meditate of the idea of how crushed your husband would be if you were harmed or killed. It would devastate him. If I failed to move us out of this dangerous neighborhood in time and my wife was hurt or killed, how could I ever forgive myself? These are not disgusting things to think about or talk about. The person who suggested it to you was trying to help you see how devastated your life would be if your husband was taken from you. People who suffer that kind of loss often do not fully recover. You thought that because many here strongly disagree with your opinions, mean that they want to cause you pain. They don't want to cause you pain. We just hear you talking about how close you are to this violence and can't understand why you and your husband don't take action to get a safe distance from it. I'm sure your families have told you the same thing. Be safe.