Well since abstinence as sexual education doesnt work this makes sense. Id rather people have this available than trying other methods or bringing in more kids to this world that have no one to raise them.
I would agree that abstinence as the message itself isn't effective enough to work completely.
Its not that abstinence as sexual education should be the stopping point, but more it should be coupled with the reasons behind why abstinence is best preserved for until marriage.
IE:1. issues which develop through multiple rships which usually setup a pattern of one bad rship to the next then the person left with no foresight of understanding why all their rships end up badly as well as left in denial of any issues which have developed then setting such a person up with multiple sessions of secular therapy which again only compounds the problem since no Godly or scriptural insight is offered to bring one to enlightenment.
2. point 1 also then leading to multiple divorces and marriages then left coming to the conclusions marriage just doesnt work for them, not realizing what the definition of marriage actually is and what the union is for.
3. Guys left with the understanding that sex isn't anything meaningful as it should be and is turned into some sort of past time, experimentation (which only leads to learning from mistake after mistake) and an unappreciation for any intimacy or union between the man and his partner, which again leads to issues of her feeling like she is only used for one thing and him thinking there's always another around the corner.
The thought process instead should be to preserve and foster a healthy rship under the guidlines of scripture, not cultivate a dysfunctional one under wordly guidlines which the enemy plants to only blow up later like a ticking time bomb.
And of course what more does the enemy want than to set off a bomb AFTER the Godly union of marriage has taken place.
4. not to mention unwanted pregnancies with the woman left with the phsychological trauma of killing her baby which gets repressed only to surface later usually at a time when she really does decide to have a child. Thus developing possible helicopter mom and overprotective tendencies which enable the child to become spoiled,
or:
A parent that is so repressed emotionally that they arent able to help develop the child in a healthy way such as the people we hear say "my mom or dad was never there for me"
and the pattern just creates a domino effect until the cycle is broken with the one thing which could have prevented it all in the first place.
--->Biblical principles and values being taught as a foundation in rships as opposed to just being taught how to have sex before marriage which is what will cause the problems in the first place.
Abstinence is the type of education which should begin at an age young enough before the youth has tasted of the forbidden fruit so to speak.
Otherwise it's more difficult to convey a message or lesson to unlearn something someone thinks won't injure them ...yet.
Look around at rships and marriages around us and we can see what the causes are:
1. A daughter saying, "Mom is on her third marriage" then she subconsciously patterns herself after her parent with the improper thinking that her parent can do no wrong and ends up repeating the cycle.
2. A dad who leaves the marriage because he isn't getting what he wants at home, then the son thinks its ok to do the same. Daughter ends up thinking that's just how men are and accepts the behavior for herself.
FYI: It's ok to be an example to our own parents
3. Friends engaging in promiscuous rships and wondering why the Christian doesn't do the same since it's not the norm when it should be the Norm. It's the Christians responsibility (ours) to be that example to our friends of what they do that hurts them and why they should (Abstain -def:
Restrain oneself from doing or enjoying something.) hence the term abstinence.
The practice of Restraint calls for self-discipline
As we all know kids are taught easiest when as they are developing and setting up patterns establishing synapse connections within the brain.
It starts with Parental teaching and discipline which develops the necessary progression to self-discipline,
A parent isnt gonna teach their kid for life, their job is to teach a kid how to make correct choices on their own.
but when the kids are now in school it is then left to the teachers to instill certain lessons and disciplines.
If the two conflict, a child will almost always make the choice to get what they want not understanding any consequences because they havent been told of them.
Whether or not its the kids faults for making bad choices at a young age, its the teachers and parents who must take the initiative in raising the kids properly. And often times this may mean fighting the system.
At the very least educating the adults who were never taught right themselves in the first place and are now carrying on the same repeat bad cycles of behavior by presenting them to the youth.
Abstinence causes no damage, although the alternative can, which is often emotional and spiritual.
This is the reason why the bible lets us know premarital sex is the only sin one commits against oneself.
It is self destructive.
Though the Lord can and does pick up where the parents left off within teaching one the lessons of life, it doesn't have to be after preventable damage has occurred.
It can be prevented through correct education and biblical correction.
How many people remember their past relationships as good experiences they wish they were back in raise their hand? lol
