15 Questions Every Christian Woman Should Ask Christian Men

[FireWire]

It's reality if the Lord asks you to do it. And, wiredforHisfire, you will know, for His Holy Spirit will burn that way of doing things leading up to marriage on your heart and His Holy Spirit, never forget, is in your heart, if you've received by faith to take Him in. He guides us, protects us, gives us the power of One for whatever it is He wants us to get through. Our job is simple. Faith in Him

Philippians 3:
7"But whatever were gains to me I now consider loss for the sake of Christ. 8What is more, I consider everything a loss because of the surpassing worth of knowing Christ Jesus my Lord, for whose sake I have lost all things. I consider them garbage, that I may gain Christ 9and be found in him, not having a righteousness of my own that comes from the law, but that which is through faith in[SUP]a[/SUP] Christ—the righteousness that comes from God on the basis of faith. 10I want to know Christ—yes, to know the power of his resurrection and participation in his sufferings, becoming like him in his death, 11and so, somehow, attaining to the resurrection from the dead."

And, let's face it, guys, if God put a call on our heart to see a girl in such a way that we were to just see them and talk for 9-12 months in the relationship leading up to marriage, we just might see that as great suffering because we like physical affection. However, the Lord may just do that kind of 'relationship' for you, for me, because it's best for us

The Lord leads. "...you follow Me." Be crucified with Christ, guys Galatians 2:20 . You can do it !! Philippians 4:13

negative ghostrider, the pattern is full

I've never been called to marriage and simply don't have the desire for it

Matthew 19 [SUP]10 [/SUP]The disciples *said to Him, “If the relationship of the man with his wife is like this, it is better not to marry.” [SUP]11 [/SUP]But He said to them, “Not all men can accept this statement, but only those to whom it has been given. [SUP]12 [/SUP]For there are eunuchs who were born that way from their mother’s womb; and there are eunuchs who were made eunuchs by men; and there are also eunuchs who made themselves eunuchs for the sake of the kingdom of heaven. He who is able to accept this, let him accept it.”

I accept!!

 

[lostbutfound]

This video was a good watch. Although I probably wouldn't ask some of those question or in the way we phrased them, because it does sound like a job interview. Taking the time to really find out who this possible spouse is and what they stand for is an important thing. I would definitely want to know if this man could lead me and possibly our children. And like he said, maybe the answers wont be what I want to hear, but I need to know that he has a relationship with God, and that he is committed in growing in that relationship. What I also think is key in a strong relationship is taking that time to be just friends. Getting to know a person and deciding then if that person is a good match for you. I'm definitely taking away some good things from this video.

And just a thought, I know he says this video is for the ladies, but wouldn't you guys also want to know the answers to some of these questions?

 

[Jesusismyrock]

This sounds more like a job interview.

I don't agree with some things like no hugging, holding hands. Then there's if I woke up one morning et al. Ridiculous and likely not reality.

Yes it is a it ridiculous. Things that can't happen should not be made of a topic of would you treat me different. The holding hands thing is silly aswell.'

 

[ServantStrike]

For a lot of guys, the whole doing more than just talking and being friends is what makes them uneasy to get in a relationship so it's a comfort to know for them that there are different ways to go about a relationship, from friends to courting to dating.

Personally, I think, if a girl asks me questions that's only going to strengthen our relationship from the git and, I think, that just because she doesn't want to hug or hold hands it's not a turn-off. It's actually a turn on for that kind of resilience and willingness to wait on marriage before physical intimacy. It shows me she's really serious about the relationship and doing it according to the bible because, I think, the bible stresses that sex before marriage is not the right way to do things. So, if you are in a relationship and never kissing, hugging, or, even, holding hands, just talking in the relationship, that really lends to a necessary common ground that the two MUST be on, or, else there is no other 'intimacy' support.

This kind of way of going about things is more girl than guy friendly, so to speak, because girls are the talkers/communicators and guys are the touchy/feely gender more so. So, the power of God is great, He will, through His Spirit in us, which is in our heart, keep us knowing what this other person is like, and, I don't think that there wuold be a thing in the world to worry about as far as wondering if sexual intimacy would be there when the relationshiph finally became
as one flesh, as in marriage of the two.

Why's this, green, why will I not have to worry about her being scared to be touched when we're married? Because.

Because you have based your relationship on questions and commonality of communication and how each other plays off each other's questions and answers and the farther than goes the more you will KNOW that God's hand is in your relationship. I'm only being halfway coy here, but, I think, instead of a 1-year engagement, you can probably step it up to 6 months after giving her the engagement ring just because you already will know each other so well and READY for that step sooner because of your commitment to base the relationship solely on communication, and, a peck on the cheek every once in a while . Sorry, I HAD to get that in there


The Lord leads, guys, your with a girl you really like, she's all that in character, beauty, and, gumption, wait on the Lord, He will lift you up. He will lift you up, higher and higher. And, He will lift you BOTH up to soar as one, as eagles

This guy in the video is a hoot, he's on fire for Jesus. I agree, ladies should quiz guys on all-things theology, but, be nice to, and, understanding, don't expect the guy to be a preacher in knowledge of God's Word, just expect him to be able to do things like this joyous pastor guy says in the video, like explain your doctrinal belief, your foundation of belief, etc. These are important issues to talk about at some point in the relationship, why not get them out of the way, in the beginnning.

I had not thought of it in that light.

My concern with someone who refuses to be hugged is that perhaps they have had abuse in their life or something, and they literally recoil at the thought of being touched by another human being. That isn't necessarily a deal breaker if they're willing to work past that, but if so, I think it would only be fair that while they're grilling us with questions, they open up about it after a sufficient period of time has passed.

 

[iTOREtheSKY]

Interesting vid. I can say for myself as a man (and plz don't be offended,as I don't mean this to sound TMI) I have never been aroused by holding hands or hugging,so for me I dunno if I am down with that. If the woman I were with felt that it was a "temptation" for her,then of course I would respect that & not do either.

The thing is for me,growing up...hugging was a big deal,so I'm used to it even among my male friends (christian or secular).

 

[ServantStrike]

Interesting vid. I can say for myself as a man (and plz don't be offended,as I don't mean this to sound TMI) I have never been aroused by holding hands or hugging,so for me I dunno if I am down with that. If the woman I were with felt that it was a "temptation" for her,then of course I would respect that & not do either.

The thing is for me,growing up...hugging was a big deal,so I'm used to it even among my male friends (christian or secular).

I love you man, no homo!

But yeah, if we were meeting in person I'd do the man hug thing that's half hand shake half hug. People who don't do that are missing out.

 

[GreenNnice]

negative ghostrider, the pattern is full

I've never been called to marriage and simply don't have the desire for it

Matthew 19 [SUP]10 [/SUP]The disciples *said to Him, “If the relationship of the man with his wife is like this, it is better not to marry.” [SUP]11 [/SUP]But He said to them, “Not all men can accept this statement, but only those to whom it has been given. [SUP]12 [/SUP]For there are eunuchs who were born that way from their mother’s womb; and there are eunuchs who were made eunuchs by men; and there are also eunuchs who made themselves eunuchs for the sake of the kingdom of heaven. He who is able to accept this, let him accept it.”

I accept!!

Good verses, wirefireHis. Yes, that's fine, some are single for life, the Lord leads, I'm single, too, content in His singlesness for me, have been for all my days. But, if God called me out of it, I'd go. I'm sure, you'd go, too, wouldn't you

But, be open to His leading, that's all that's being said there in my previous post, hence the word 'if' was inserted into your 'reality,' bro.

He may lead you one day to something different in your life that is from Him all good.

I had not thought of it in that light.

My concern with someone who refuses to be hugged is that perhaps they have had abuse in their life or something, and they literally recoil at the thought of being touched by another human being. That isn't necessarily a deal breaker if they're willing to work past that, but if so, I think it would only be fair that while they're grilling us with questions, they open up about it after a sufficient period of time has passed.

 

[GreenNnice]

I had not thought of it in that light.

My concern with someone who refuses to be hugged is that perhaps they have had abuse in their life or something, and they literally recoil at the thought of being touched by another human being. That isn't necessarily a deal breaker if they're willing to work past that, but if so, I think it would only be fair that while they're grilling us with questions, they open up about it after a sufficient period of time has passed.

Good verses, wirefireHis. Yes, that's fine, some are single for life, the Lord leads, I'm single, too, content in His singlesness for me, have been for all my days. But, if God called me out of it, I'd go. I'm sure, you'd go, too, wouldn't you

But, be open to His leading, that's all that's being said there in my previous post, hence the word 'if' was inserted into your 'reality,' bro.

He may lead you one day to something different in your life that is from Him all good.

I had not thought of it in that light.

My concern with someone who refuses to be hugged is that perhaps they have had abuse in their life or something, and they literally recoil at the thought of being touched by another human being. That isn't necessarily a deal breaker if they're willing to work past that, but if so, I think it would only be fair that while they're grilling us with questions, they open up about it after a sufficient period of time has passed.

Yes, HisservantstriKer, the Lord leads, and, she'd let you know at some time into your 'commuicating' relationship that she'd been hurt by a guy, or, someone in life, in her past
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Yeah, I am not for the not holding hands ever in a relationship, that's extreme-extreme. I think, that not hugging is just 'extreme,' LOL.

Hmm, but, kissing, yeah, I can see where that can lead to things that can compromise the relationship prior to marriage. I can see the LIGHT!!! LOL. And, it's darkness, I should add.

But, yeah, seriously, only half-laughing there, because I'm dead serious and 'kissing' might seem innocent enough but, if you're not ready for it's effect, it could be the kiss of death to your relationship. The kiss leads to the touch leads to the--WHOA! Remember, the Lord leads

Scripture tells us how to do living God's way for our movement through Earth , like 1 Thessalonians 4,that says to stay away from 'sexual immorality' and to live a life that's 'pure.' And,. here's Scripture that backs this and these are things all singles struggle with, some more than others, and, of course, God brings peace and power and understanding and strength and ability to wait on Him for the right ways of His for our living for Him if we give our lives to Him and want to Godly live the way He shows us how here in these words of His Word. God's forgiven us all of ALL our past sins , too, the moment we give them to Him and work on living differently therefore going forth 1 John 1:9

It is God’s will that you should be sanctified: that you should avoid sexual immorality; 4that each of you should learn to control your own body[SUP]a[/SUP] in a way that is holy and honorable, 5not in passionate lust like the pagans, who do not know God; 6and that in this matter no one should wrong or take advantage of a brother or sister.[SUP]b[/SUP] The Lord will punish all those who commit such sins, as we told you and warned you before. 7For God did not call us to be impure, but to live a holy life. 8Therefore, anyone who rejects this instruction does not reject a human being but God, the very God who gives you his Holy Spirit.

 

[Fenner]

I didn't pick up on everything in the video, because he talks too fast! Seems to be a common occurrence in Americans.

Wedon'ttalkfastmaybeyoutalkfast,ormaybeyouneedtohaveyourhearingchecked.gottagoneedtobreathnow.

 

[GreenNnice]

oops, I double-posted, I double-quoted in my last post and even posted a quote of HisservantstriKer without any info in it, sigh...
I'm just glad I'm not seeing DOUBLE !!! Oh wait, I have four eyes (glasses).
OH, WHEW! That's a quadruple, and, therefore, that's not a 'double,' is it

 

[ServantStrike]

oops, I double-posted, I double-quoted in my last post and even posted a quote of HisservantstriKer without any info in it, sigh...
I'm just glad I'm not seeing DOUBLE !!! Oh wait, I have four eyes (glasses).
OH, WHEW! That's a quadruple, and, therefore, that's not a 'double,' is it

How many fingers am I holding up?

 

[GreenNnice]

85.5 fingers, servantstriKerHis, there is one thumb on each -five-fingered hand so that don't count and some of the fingers are cut off so I can't see them, therefore, I don't really know that they are there. And, we can't assume, can we now
But, I do see that the last cut off hand on the far left is with 1/2 a finger so hence that ".5" number.

 

[FireWire]

Good verses, wirefireHis. Yes, that's fine, some are single for life, the Lord leads, I'm single, too, content in His singlesness for me, have been for all my days. But, if God called me out of it, I'd go. I'm sure, you'd go, too, wouldn't you

But, be open to His leading, that's all that's being said there in my previous post, hence the word 'if' was inserted into your 'reality,' bro.

He may lead you one day to something different in your life that is from Him all good.

God may lead me to something different but I suspect that won't be the case. If it is it would be like going to a foreign land.

I'm actually unmarriageable anyway.

When I was in the only relationship I've had (I never initiated it) I missed being single. I've told God I don't want to be married either but it's not like I ever desired it.

I don't get why people ask me when I'm getting married and having kids (even women) and some assuming I am already. Don't they know there's something wrong with me. Arrrggghhh!!

 

[Tintin]

Wedon'ttalkfastmaybeyoutalkfast,ormaybeyouneedtohaveyourhearingchecked.gottagoneedtobreathnow.

Stop! I don't watch Gilmore Girls. I lost you at... the beginning.

 

[iTOREtheSKY]

I love you man, no homo!

But yeah, if we were meeting in person I'd do the man hug thing that's half hand shake half hug. People who don't do that are missing out.

hahahahahaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa oh man..I certainly cannot eat M&M's when I am reading CC anymore,especially if they are posts from YOU!!!!! I haven't heard the "No Homo" thing in ages....lol I forgot how funny that was..dang!

 

[ServantStrike]

hahahahahaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa oh man..I certainly cannot eat M&M's when I am reading CC anymore,especially if they are posts from YOU!!!!! I haven't heard the "No Homo" thing in ages....lol I forgot how funny that was..dang!

Yes. I am a firm believer in killing people with kindness.

 

[iTOREtheSKY]

Yes. I am a firm believer in killing people with kindness.

yeah thanks man...cheers.

 

[Loveneverfails]

I had not thought of it in that light.

My concern with someone who refuses to be hugged is that perhaps they have had abuse in their life or something, and they literally recoil at the thought of being touched by another human being. That isn't necessarily a deal breaker if they're willing to work past that, but if so, I think it would only be fair that while they're grilling us with questions, they open up about it after a sufficient period of time has passed.

That's a fair and perfectly legitimate concern. Personally, if I were a woman who believed in no handholding and no hugging, I'd let the gentleman know fairly soon into the process so he knows what he's getting into. I'd also be careful to explain my heart behind the decision.

I actually know a few women who did this. Their decision to abstain from all physical touch had nothing to do with them not wanting to be touched.. they just wanted to reserve that touch for marriage. Their cuddly and affectionate natures could be seen in the way they hugged their families, their girlfriends, as well as young children, so their prospective suitors knew they weren't pursuing a potential marriage with a woman who was "cold". These women also made sure to explain their reasons behind the no-touch rule, which I think is a kind and considerate thing to do. All of them are now happily married, and I've seen them be cuddly with their husbands.

 

[Praus]

This sounds more like a job interview.

I don't agree with some things like no hugging, holding hands. Then there's if I woke up one morning et al. Ridiculous and likely not reality.

Those are some good data points, thanks brother.

... I can't offer advice on dating coz I've been on very few.

 

[Pipp]

How many fingers am I holding up?

That's incredibly creepy....lol