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Ok,here's a random question for you all. I would really like to hear from anyone who's divorced,like myself...but peeps that have never been married,toss in your 2 cents...I am not sure what or if I should do anything concerning the following...
I have no scriptures to go by,just emotions I suppose.
Now that I am divorced I am left with an abundance of memories (mainly wedding pictures & times spent with the ex in photographs) About 8 months ago I threw out everything she'd ever given me..cards,letters,things of that nature.Eevn my wedding ring I recently sold on eBay. Now I still have much of the furniture that we owned together,but for some odd reason this does not evoke any mental sadness or anxiety...only the photographs.
My deal is this...I don't know if I should throw these out or not? Part of me really wants to,because they really don't make me happy when I see them,if anything it kinda makes me angry to look at them & I just end up feeling like the last 10 yrs of my life was a big fat lie. We never had children (save for 2 dogs) so it's not like I'd have to hang on to them for the children. Before we'd gotten married I had gotten rid of any keepsakes from past girlfriends,just out of respect to her...not that she would have ever even asked me to do so.
I have even thought about throwing out our marriage license,that along with the divorce papers & sale of the house stuff from the lawyer,but I keep thinking wait 10 yrs then toss it because it's document type stuff & may be important down the road..I dunno?
So I am rambling here...(I feel like this is turning into a shae post) LOL j/k mamacita
Is it wrong to want to shred my memories of her? Am I a terrible person? You think I will regret it if I do?
Is this normal???? lol This is my 1st & hopefully last divorce.
If you got married to someone,would you be turned off knowing they had pics & wedding stuff from their last marriage???
I know some of you will just tell me I am going to hell because I am divorced,but for those of you that can hold off on the charcoal & lighter fluid for a bit...any advice?
I have no scriptures to go by,just emotions I suppose.
Now that I am divorced I am left with an abundance of memories (mainly wedding pictures & times spent with the ex in photographs) About 8 months ago I threw out everything she'd ever given me..cards,letters,things of that nature.Eevn my wedding ring I recently sold on eBay. Now I still have much of the furniture that we owned together,but for some odd reason this does not evoke any mental sadness or anxiety...only the photographs.
My deal is this...I don't know if I should throw these out or not? Part of me really wants to,because they really don't make me happy when I see them,if anything it kinda makes me angry to look at them & I just end up feeling like the last 10 yrs of my life was a big fat lie. We never had children (save for 2 dogs) so it's not like I'd have to hang on to them for the children. Before we'd gotten married I had gotten rid of any keepsakes from past girlfriends,just out of respect to her...not that she would have ever even asked me to do so.
I have even thought about throwing out our marriage license,that along with the divorce papers & sale of the house stuff from the lawyer,but I keep thinking wait 10 yrs then toss it because it's document type stuff & may be important down the road..I dunno?
So I am rambling here...(I feel like this is turning into a shae post) LOL j/k mamacita
Is it wrong to want to shred my memories of her? Am I a terrible person? You think I will regret it if I do?
Is this normal???? lol This is my 1st & hopefully last divorce.
If you got married to someone,would you be turned off knowing they had pics & wedding stuff from their last marriage???
I know some of you will just tell me I am going to hell because I am divorced,but for those of you that can hold off on the charcoal & lighter fluid for a bit...any advice?