If you were my wife
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M
Right...
First of all, this is ridiculous and you obviously have no idea what marriage is supposed to be about.
Second, I'm only posting this at all for the benefit of other people, because I already know you don't want to hear what I'm about to say.
When you get married, you don't do it to "make their life happy". A person's happiness comes from within, from their relationship with God, and cannot be manufactured by another person. Obviously there are people whom we are happy to be around, but that's different than someone else making us happy.
To tell somebody else- anybody else, be it a wife, a husband, a friend- that they need to "make you happy" is selfish, and putting a huge- HUGE- burden on that person.
When people get married, both of them need to find within their own hearts that "happiness", or contentment, or peace, otherwise things tend to get rocky.
In a marriage, both people are supposed to do things for each other out of love, not out of fear that they aren't making their spouse happy. If you enter into a marriage expecting that the other person is going to "make you happy", you are going to be continually disappointed.
In fact, any time you are looking for a source outside of yourself and the Lord to make you happy, you are going to be disappointed.
My husband and I learned this the hard way, but thank God we did learn.
Anyway, super silly thread, and I didn't know whether to laugh or beat my head against the wall.
First of all, this is ridiculous and you obviously have no idea what marriage is supposed to be about.
Second, I'm only posting this at all for the benefit of other people, because I already know you don't want to hear what I'm about to say.
When you get married, you don't do it to "make their life happy". A person's happiness comes from within, from their relationship with God, and cannot be manufactured by another person. Obviously there are people whom we are happy to be around, but that's different than someone else making us happy.
To tell somebody else- anybody else, be it a wife, a husband, a friend- that they need to "make you happy" is selfish, and putting a huge- HUGE- burden on that person.
When people get married, both of them need to find within their own hearts that "happiness", or contentment, or peace, otherwise things tend to get rocky.
In a marriage, both people are supposed to do things for each other out of love, not out of fear that they aren't making their spouse happy. If you enter into a marriage expecting that the other person is going to "make you happy", you are going to be continually disappointed.
In fact, any time you are looking for a source outside of yourself and the Lord to make you happy, you are going to be disappointed.
My husband and I learned this the hard way, but thank God we did learn.
Anyway, super silly thread, and I didn't know whether to laugh or beat my head against the wall.
M
For you? You seem like an alright fella, so.....I'd make you all the sandwiches...all the time. Stephen would only get one. And only if I were already making one for myself. And quite possibly only if that sandwich was the difference between life and hurtling from brink of starvation towards a skinny and malnourished death. As his wife it would be my duty to provide that kindness. To make him happy.
