Advice needed!

[sportygirl]

Alright, well how exactly do you suggest I approach this? I mean... how would I tell him about all of this without him getting overwhelmed or hurt?

I wish I could give you a step by step guide to handling it. I can tell you waht I would know I needed to do, its the courage to do it that is going to be the problem. I would say just sit down with him and tell him your confused about your feelings for him, tell him that you felt that connection wiht him and that you you do like him. Than explain to him the things you have said about your feelings in this post. Also think about taking some time away from dating, and maybe try to devlop a friendship. Anaylze completely how you feel before you go talk to him, so you can tell him the complete truth.

This is easier said than done, though.

 

[embraceswampcreature]

What might help best is writing down everything you're feeling, and see if that doesn't help sort it out a little bit. Then maybe from there you can explain the situation a little bit better to him, because he definitely needs to know. Also, it sounds like you haven't been with this guy for too long, so there's probably a different side to him. I know that I'm a completely different and much shyer person with people I don't know well. It sounds like a difficult situation, but if you like him, even though it sounds like you're not sure why, I would go for it. That's what I did with my boyfriend, and even though we have nothing in common, and any other person with those traits would drive me up the wall, we have had a strong and healthy relationship for over a year. Not that my life is somehow universally applicable, but there are definitely those situations...

 

[zeroturbulence]

Alright, well how exactly do you suggest I approach this? I mean... how would I tell him about all of this without him getting overwhelmed or hurt?

Instead of telling him its over, how about telling him you feel you need to take a break from the relationship, that things are moving a bit fast for you, etc.. This way you can really take a break, step back and get a fresh persepective on it. You might find in hindsight that he really is more what you were looking for (maybe after you meet a few guys who remind you how immature and self-centered a lot of guys are).

If you still think he's not right for you, then at least the breakup won't be too harsh since he already knew it might be coming and is used to you not being around.

Nice blog by the way!

 

[sandstorm7]

Instead of telling him its over, how about telling him you feel you need to take a break from the relationship, that things are moving a bit fast for you, etc.. This way you can really take a break, step back and get a fresh persepective on it. You might find in hindsight that he really is more what you were looking for (maybe after you meet a few guys who remind you how immature and self-centered a lot of guys are).

If you still think he's not right for you, then at least the breakup won't be too harsh since he already knew it might be coming and is used to you not being around.

Nice blog by the way!

Well the thing is, we aren't in a relationship. We're just in the process of figuring out how we feel about eachother. But he has made it quite clear that he has strong feelings for me and would like to continue moving forward. I'm just confused about my feelings and so I don't want to continue to lead him on as I have been for fear of hurting him... but I don't want to stop seeing him either. I guess I'll just have to talk to him like everyone has said, so thanks.

And thank you for checking out my blog!!

 

[sandstorm7]

What might help best is writing down everything you're feeling, and see if that doesn't help sort it out a little bit. Then maybe from there you can explain the situation a little bit better to him, because he definitely needs to know. Also, it sounds like you haven't been with this guy for too long, so there's probably a different side to him. I know that I'm a completely different and much shyer person with people I don't know well. It sounds like a difficult situation, but if you like him, even though it sounds like you're not sure why, I would go for it. That's what I did with my boyfriend, and even though we have nothing in common, and any other person with those traits would drive me up the wall, we have had a strong and healthy relationship for over a year. Not that my life is somehow universally applicable, but there are definitely those situations...

Wow thanks embrace This really helped for me to look at things from another perspective. I think I definitely need to talk to him but I definitely want to continue seeing him because you never know where things could go! Thanks for the help !

 

[Saved_by_grace]

Focus yourself, and him towards God, b/c you can't really do to much for him. you will fail, he will fail you, God is the only one who doesn't fail you both. Relationships go crazy, because trust in God fails, and we start pointing towards ourselves rather than God. If you can follow this guy, as you follow Christ, if you can submit to his authority, then what is wrong? Trust God, and put Him first. God's will isn't so much who or what, but who we are as in Being conformed to the image of Christ

 

[embraceswampcreature]

Wow thanks embrace This really helped for me to look at things from another perspective. I think I definitely need to talk to him but I definitely want to continue seeing him because you never know where things could go! Thanks for the help !

glad I could help, and I hope it goes well!