Advice to the single ladies out there on finding a romantic relationship with a guy (coming from a guy)

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Lanolin

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There are plenty of women that are mature that already have children or don't want children. They want a husband for emotional and physical needs.
what lol
I dont think so!
they already have children, theyve probably got their emotional needs sorted.
They dont, theres no physical need. You can hire a hubby and he mows the lawn.
its more the men want a woman for emotional or physical needs as many men are helpless without one.

that is why there are threads like these....hahah
 

true_believer

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It depends on just how salty I was feeling at the time...

But if a guy told me he went out with me because he lowered his standards, I'd probably tell him, "What a coincidence! Right before I met you I decided to raise mine, so obviously, we're unequally yoked, so good luck out there!"

I hope there are enough people left here who know me from my posts that this is just sarcasm and not a reflection of my actual personality (although yes, you might say that at times, I can have a somewhat sarcastic personality!) :D

One of the many reasons I'm single is because I've been in the game way too long to just sit back and take any garbage like this.

I have learned through mistakes o'plenty that it's far better off being single than to be around someone who thinks their presence around you is an act of generosity. :rolleyes:[/QUO
what lol
I dont think so!
they already have children, theyve probably got their emotional needs sorted.
They dont, theres no physical need. You can hire a hubby and he mows the lawn.
its more the men want a woman for emotional or physical needs as many men are helpless without one.

that is why there are threads like these....hahah
Well my experience has shown otherwise
 

seoulsearch

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Well my experience has shown otherwise
I'm certainly not trying to say that there aren't women (and men) out there who have "everything" (career, family, etc.) and aren't looking for a significant other, and fall within the full range of the emotional spectrum (toxic, co-dependent, on the mend, completely healthy, etc.)

My post was simply based on my own experiences and point of view. I still dream of a "true love", just like most anyone else -- it's just that I'm a lot less willing to be a doormat in order to try to find it than I used to be. I didn't mean to speak for anyone else -- sorry for the confusion. :)

How about you, @true_believer? What have some of your experiences been?
 

true_believer

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I'm certainly not trying to say that there aren't women (and men) out there who have "everything" (career, family, etc.) and aren't looking for a significant other, and fall within the full range of the emotional spectrum (toxic, co-dependent, on the mend, completely healthy, etc.)

My post was simply based on my own experiences and point of view. I still dream of a "true love", just like most anyone else -- it's just that I'm a lot less willing to be a doormat in order to try to find it than I used to be. I didn't mean to speak for anyone else -- sorry for the confusion. :)

How about you, @true_believer? What have some of your experiences been?
I was responding to Lanolin's post. I have met many divorced or single women in their 40's, 50's and older that say they only wanted a man for physical pleasure
 

JustEli

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The question is ......... did you acquiesce? hahahahaha uh. sorry. *Eli turns and bows to an empty audience........
 

true_believer

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Sep 24, 2020
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I'm certainly not trying to say that there aren't women (and men) out there who have "everything" (career, family, etc.) and aren't looking for a significant other, and fall within the full range of the emotional spectrum (toxic, co-dependent, on the mend, completely healthy, etc.)

My post was simply based on my own experiences and point of view. I still dream of a "true love", just like most anyone else -- it's just that I'm a lot less willing to be a doormat in order to try to find it than I used to be. I didn't mean to speak for anyone else -- sorry for the confusion. :)

How about you, @true_believer? What have some of your experiences been?
I'm certainly not trying to say that there aren't women (and men) out there who have "everything" (career, family, etc.) and aren't looking for a significant other, and fall within the full range of the emotional spectrum (toxic, co-dependent, on the mend, completely healthy, etc.)

My post was simply based on my own experiences and point of view. I still dream of a "true love", just like most anyone else -- it's just that I'm a lot less willing to be a doormat in order to try to find it than I used to be. I didn't mean to speak for anyone else -- sorry for the confusion. :)

How about you, @true_believer? What have some of your experiences been?
Since I was in my late teens, I read and studied a lot about relationships and the opposite sex. Most men and women think that being attractive or healthy and having a good job or money are all you need to attract a decent partner. There are interpersonal skills and emotional variables needed for solid and healthy connections between people.