Age Difference

[Lynx]

My whole life has always been outside the norm, but in a nerdy, boring girl kind of way.

I've sometimes told God that if I do marry, I hope it would also be a bit unconventional -- such as to a younger guy -- because why would I want to break my lifetime string of going against the grain now?

Hmm... Everybody wants to marry somebody interesting, exciting and rich.

To go against the grain you would have to find somebody boring and poor. The plainest, most ordinary person in the world. Preferably somebody who collects stamps or Coke bottles.

 

[seoulsearch]

I knew that you would respond that way.

I am normally a very sober Christian, but, apparently, that came with a side order of idiocy. See what happens when you don't read the fine print on the menu? I will NEVER go back to that Bed and Breakfast again!

Apparently, the owners of that establishment agree.

Oh, no. I've done it again.

I have a a very dichotomous personality. (Is that a socially evasive way of saying bipolar???! I don't know, as I've never been "officially" diagnosed, except with clinical depression.)

The people here who have met me in person will tell you I'll literally be wheezing with them on the floor after telling some stupid joke, while literally talking about mortality and the frailty of life in the next conversation. I've just always been that way.

A long time ago, I had some people PM'ing me who said they hated my serious threads, and wanted me to be more "fun." I had other people telling me they hated my silly threads, and wanted me to post about only the serious topics.

I talked to God about it for a while and then concluded, "I'm just going to be me." My depression kicks in a lot worse when I have to suppress either side too much.

Yeah, just posting what I was drawn to or prayed about attracts a lot of flack -- but it got to a point where having trolls show up in new threads was almost fun!

I do believe God has special blessings for us when we follow the line of who He really made us to be -- the people I've met here who are willing to still talk to me no matter what side sneaks out have been more than worth it.

And this is also what I love so much about writing -- anyone not interested in what I have to say can just pass it by. I get to express what's been bouncing around in my heart, those not interested get to ignore it as much as they want, and we all happily get on with our lives.

 

[seoulsearch]

Hmm... Everybody wants to marry somebody interesting, exciting and rich.To go against the grain you would have to find somebody boring and poor. The plainest, most ordinary person in the world. Preferably somebody who collects stamps or Coke bottles.

How did you know about my childhood stamp collection??!!

Stalker.

 

[daisyseesthesun]

My whole life has always been outside the norm, but in a nerdy, boring girl kind of way.

I've sometimes told God that if I do marry, I hope it would also be a bit unconventional -- such as to a younger guy -- because why would I want to break my lifetime string of going against the grain now?

The body gets older but not the mind. I was just reminded that Harriet tubman married a man 20 years younger then her. Padre pio was a very happy man too even though he still suffered from the stigmata he was very stern at times and he would laugh and told anecdotes to teach.

 

[keepingthingsreal]

I have a a very dichotomous personality. (Is that a socially evasive way of saying bipolar???! I don't know, as I've never been "officially" diagnosed, except with clinical depression.)

The people here who have met me in person will tell you I'll literally be wheezing with them on the floor after telling some stupid joke, while literally talking about mortality and the frailty of life in the next conversation. I've just always been that way.

A long time ago, I had some people PM'ing me who said they hated my serious threads, and wanted me to be more "fun." I had other people telling me they hated my silly threads, and wanted me to post about only the serious topics.

I talked to God about it for a while and then concluded, "I'm just going to be me." My depression kicks in a lot worse when I have to suppress either side too much.

Yeah, just posting what I was drawn to or prayed about attracts a lot of flack -- but it got to a point where having trolls show up in new threads was almost fun!

I do believe God has special blessings for us when we follow the line of who He really made us to be -- the people I've met here who are willing to still talk to me no matter what side sneaks out have been more than worth it.

And this is also what I love so much about writing -- anyone not interested in what I have to say can just pass it by. I get to express what's been bouncing around in my heart, those not interested get to ignore it as much as they want, and we all happily get on with our lives.

I hear you, but just being myself gets me into trouble a lot. By nature, I am outgoing and expressive. My expressiveness definitely includes me saying nice things to people, just because I am being sincere, or just because I am honestly responding to what I see before me, but that is what most often gets me into trouble. If I say something or do something nice to/for a woman, then I must be hitting of her (in her mind). If I say or do something nice to/for a man, then I must be a poofka (in his mind).

For example, there is a young woman who works at the grocery store by me who has the most beautiful curly hair that I have ever seen in my life. In fact, I did not know that I even thought curly hair could be beautiful until I first encountered her. Seriously, her head belongs in an art gallery or something. Well, that didn't sound right. I have wanted to tell her how beautiful her hair is for the longest time, simply because it is so remarkably (In other words, it is so beautiful that one feels the need to remark about it) so, but she would definitely think that I was hitting on her if I did, so I remain silent.

Who I am, and who society demands me to be, are worlds apart, so I often withhold from being myself around people. Online it is a bit easier because people feel somewhat safer due to anonymity and distance. Even then, my comments are often misconstrued, and especially my jokes. With such being the case, I tend to only show my serious side which is a very real side of me. Anyhow, there are some people who know me in person who appreciate both sides of me without ever getting offended, so I am normally only truly myself around them.

 

[keepingthingsreal]

Also, my jokes tend to divert attention away from the actual topic at hand, so I am sorry for doing that to a degree here.

 

[MsMediator]

I prefer someone around my age so we are at the same maturity level. When guys are their thirties and higher, they become more mature. So, I can see why a woman in her 20s may be fine with a guy in his 30s; the maturity levels should be comparable then. Once a person reaches a certain age, they have slowed down more. So, maturity is not as much an issue, but how much they have slowed down. This is what older women in the dating pool look for.