age differences in relationships

[garet82]

animus is that new formulation in math??

well i think as long as both of them can understand, can communicate well n support each other age differences in relationship wont be a big deal

 

[Wandering_Here]

ladies: do you have any personal/relevant experience dating younger guys and how that's worked for you. obstacles? has anyone else noticed this as a trend?

I've never dated anyone younger. I've always liked older guys (my ex is almost 11 years older than I am). I'm not opposed to the idea of dating younger though, if someone a few years younger asked me out, I'd accept.

all: what kind of "age difference" obstacles and advantages have you experienced/observed?

The only issue I experienced was being talked down to at times because I didn't have the life experience that he did, due to my age. But it is also my experience that if someone thinks they're better than you or their opinion is worth more than yours, they will find a reason to talk down to you.

 

[SabbieWabbie]

Went on two dates with a 35 year old, I was 20 at the time. I decided not to pursue the relationship any further because older people (or maybe just him) want different things out of a relationship than younger people. I wanted to go out and do exciting things, travel, go camping, go to theme parks etc etc.. and he had done all those things already he wanted to be at home, have family visits, have romantic dinners sit at home and watch movies as he was tired after work etc etc... so I figured either I wasn't ready for a proper relationship or the age gap and the things that come with it would make it an unhappy place for me. However, the biggest hurdle would have been other people - you can only imagine the thoughts running through people's mind - a 35 year old with a 20 year old, what is wrong with him! And this in and of itself puts unnecessary stress on a relationship, in saying that now though I would probably think the same thing and still wonder what made me accept his offer to take me out, thankfully I came to my senses.

 

[tourist]

I dated a 38 year old when I was 19 successfully. Older women were more interesting to me than girls my age at the time. 35ish is still my favorite age. I can't speak for older guys going for younger ladies, but who knows. I might do the same thing when I get to that age. Perhaps it's because you can only realistically pull that off for another 5 years or so when you hit 40 (maybe 10 if your lucky). A "last chance" type of thing.

I think that maybe the "last chance" is for the woman who is placed at considerable risk, due to the age difference, being left out in the cold. There is not much risk for the younger man as he has plenty of time. The only risk for the guy is that he would actually marry the older woman. As I seem to be the older one now I would not even consider getting involved with a much younger woman. I have already made my own mistakes and have no intention of contributing to hers. If so inclined, I would want woman that I can relate to and not a young woman who can run circles around me.

 

[MidniteWelder]

Not only should we dictate acceptable age brackets for others adult relationships...
-1. outside of law of the land
-2. and without any biblical reference or example to support the opinion whatsoever.

but further help propagate allowing the general consensus of society to train people what occupations are appropriate for another's partner that have nothing to do with us.
We really need to protect everybody from making their own choices...like a government with unfounded principals.
Everyone in favor!!!!
say aye

 

[secularhermit]

Age differences are determined by the two who are involved in. Apporvals or refusals depends on those who faced it, particularly when both know DEEPest differences and play roles.

She is 41 and next month I´ll be 53.