And He Carries Her Off Into the Sunset... (Pornography Marketed Toward Women.)
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Don't worry, Kim. As soon as I become a billionaire I will mysteriously show up at your doorstep and when we're together it will always be like fireworks and birds floating around on golden halos (??). 
I can see Zeroturbulence showing up on my doorstep in a mask and disguise, flashing around his gazillions of $ (rubles?
) and saying, "I'll bet you can't guess who this is... but to give you a hint... Are you seeing birds or sensing any fireworks right now??" Would I have three tries to guess who it was???
LOL.
I can see Zeroturbulence showing up on my doorstep in a mask and disguise, flashing around his gazillions of $ (rubles?) and saying, "I'll bet you can't guess who this is... but to give you a hint... Are you seeing birds or sensing any fireworks right now??"
Would I have three tries to guess who it was???
I can see Zeroturbulence showing up on my doorstep in a mask and disguise, flashing around his gazillions of $ (rubles?
) and saying, "I'll bet you can't guess who this is... but to give you a hint... Are you seeing birds or sensing any fireworks right now??" Would I have three tries to guess who it was???
No, sadly my fireworks have all lost their "flare" a long time ago, and the only birds I see now are the ones that poop on the backyard fence.
But its all my fault because Im convinced that no one will want to date me, especially now that I am jobless and nearly broke. Fortunately I get my license from the state board of pharmacy in a few weeks, and I get my national certification next week so I can start job hunting asap.
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I have a view on this subject. Not the porn part, as I didn't read graphic novels, but on the affect I believe romance novels have one women's views of men in general. As a girl of about 11 or 12, I was living in Germany which to me was like a fairy tale: castles, "enchanted" forests, beauty. . . I read gothic novels, mostly by Victoria Holt. These were not so bad to me. But my aunt mailed me a box of Barbara Cartland novels and I became addicted to them at my young and impressionable age. In every novel there was this hero who would sweep into the weak but beautiful damsel's life and shower her with his almost supernatural love by the end of the book. Romantic for sure. But totally unreal. I remember in a couple of the books he would say, "I love you! I worship you!. . ." These books were setting up a scenario of a man and woman worshiping each other and their romantic love for one another. Silly as it sounds, to me, a young girl, it had an affect. I got this unrealistic view in my head of what romantic love was and what a man could offer me. I turned my nose up to guys if they didn't act the way I thought a "real man" should act. I waited for this prince to come into my life and only see ME, fall in love for me for my beauty. Problem: I didn't see myself as that beautiful. And my father was emotionally abusive, so deep down I didn't believe a man could love me like THAT. The result? I spent many years, many years alone, romantically speaking. Even though now I see how these books played a role in twisting my view of love, I am still alone. I don't blame the books now. But looking back, I actually realize that the men in these books were obsessive. This was an obsessive love. In my thirties I had men show interest in me who were obsessive and I didn't realize it at first. But given the emotional abuse I'd experienced from my father and my warped view, I became involved with an emotional and verbally abusive person. I won't go into details but it turned my life upside down. And thank God I got out of it before it destroyed my self worth totally.
I know I sound dramatic, but I think this, in varied forms, is a problem of women in America. We are fed these romantic fairy tales through books, movies, and other types of media. And the saddest part of it all is that we make an idol of it in our lives. Your FIRST love is supposed to be GOD (if you are a Christian). We are HIS bride. When Christian women at times would say to me "Let God be your husband," to be honest, I would have this feeling inside like, "Oh, okay, thanks." It sounds terrible to admit it. But I'm being honest. I was not interested in God's love as much as thinking I could fill this void with a man's love. God has revealed to me in many ways how vast and beautiful His love is for me. I've finally been able to make peace with being single. I'm not desperate for the love of a man. I have the greatest love of all. God is the perfect husband. He loves unconditionally, forgives when we mess up, is ALWAYS there (no abandonment issue there). Doesn't cheat, verbally abuse, or control through fear. The list goes on and on. I am falling more and more in love with Him every day. If I had to spend the rest of my life "single", well, I'd consider it a privilege because I was loved more than any woman could be by a man.
Sorry if I sound like I'm preaching. But this is becoming so real to me. And women and men also need to realize that the ultimate goal in life should not be romantic love. It won't fulfill but for a short time. When the fireworks wear off, you're left with a flawed person you have to figure out how to co-exist with. And without God being the center of that relationship, you will look for another "love" to replace it. Hence the high divorce rates and co-habitation without marriage. If romantic love is the only food to sustain you, you keep searching for it when the one you have wears off. It is a twisted view and not what God intended for us.
Thanks for your post/question. I have enjoyed and appreciated reading it and everyone's responses. Mine is simply one way to look at it among many.
I know I sound dramatic, but I think this, in varied forms, is a problem of women in America. We are fed these romantic fairy tales through books, movies, and other types of media. And the saddest part of it all is that we make an idol of it in our lives. Your FIRST love is supposed to be GOD (if you are a Christian). We are HIS bride. When Christian women at times would say to me "Let God be your husband," to be honest, I would have this feeling inside like, "Oh, okay, thanks." It sounds terrible to admit it. But I'm being honest. I was not interested in God's love as much as thinking I could fill this void with a man's love. God has revealed to me in many ways how vast and beautiful His love is for me. I've finally been able to make peace with being single. I'm not desperate for the love of a man. I have the greatest love of all. God is the perfect husband. He loves unconditionally, forgives when we mess up, is ALWAYS there (no abandonment issue there). Doesn't cheat, verbally abuse, or control through fear. The list goes on and on. I am falling more and more in love with Him every day. If I had to spend the rest of my life "single", well, I'd consider it a privilege because I was loved more than any woman could be by a man.
Sorry if I sound like I'm preaching. But this is becoming so real to me. And women and men also need to realize that the ultimate goal in life should not be romantic love. It won't fulfill but for a short time. When the fireworks wear off, you're left with a flawed person you have to figure out how to co-exist with. And without God being the center of that relationship, you will look for another "love" to replace it. Hence the high divorce rates and co-habitation without marriage. If romantic love is the only food to sustain you, you keep searching for it when the one you have wears off. It is a twisted view and not what God intended for us.
Thanks for your post/question. I have enjoyed and appreciated reading it and everyone's responses. Mine is simply one way to look at it among many.