Anyone Else Here That Was Diagnosed With A Learning Disability?

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Live4Him3

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I'm a bit confused. Do you really like my stories? Or are you being sarcastic? :confused:
I was/am being totally serious.

As I said to you earlier today, your stories help to give others a much better idea of what you're dealing with or going through.

Believe it or not (believe it), I'm very much a people person.
 
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I was/am being totally serious.

As I said to you earlier today, your stories help to give others a much better idea of what you're dealing with or going through.

Believe it or not (believe it), I'm very much a people person.
Will you believe me if I say, I don't pick up on things very well... (sigh)

I remember now, but I guess I had forgotten. (sigh)
 

Lanolin

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I remember one teacher boasting about a student because the student was very good at the subject. I thought to myself, that's just a natural ability. It should be the student that struggles and puts in a good effort should be the one getting praise.

I think the main problem with schools, is they force the teachers to teach the way they want. Usually I don't think it's a good way... I think the results speak for themselves.
i dont know if they force teachers, but its the curriculum that gets decided for them and they just need to obtain certain scores. its all about numbers for some education adminstrators.

homework shouldnt be too much extra its just to reinforce whats already being learned in school time. some kids thrive on homework though and dont really learn anything in class, its when they apply it later on their own that it sinks in
 

Lanolin

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can you listen to things faster than you can read? eg some find they are better listening to an audiobook using headphones

they could read along with the voice

for some people reading is hard work and they have to really learn it letter by letter, stroke by stroke first before even attempting whole words and sounds. One they learn that it gets easier and easier. Chunking etc.

what about looking at pictures does that help with visualising words.

what is the distacting part of ADHD? I would like to know if you can eliminate the distraction or the noise, does that help you learn better?

I find I dont like reading books or magazines that have lots of ads or sidebars in them as I dont know where to look first .
this is why facebook would FAIL as an actual book for me. lol
 

Live4Him3

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Will you believe me if I say, I don't pick up on things very well... (sigh)

I remember now, but I guess I had forgotten. (sigh)
I believe you.

I need to head off to bed in a few minutes because I have to get up really early for work tomorrow.

Before I go, I'd like to apologize to you for something.

Initially, you and I didn't get off on the right foot, and, in hindsight, that's more than likely my fault. I know that I came at you kind of hard in relation to something when our paths first crossed here. If I had known and understood more about your struggles at that time, then I definitely would have used a softer/gentler approach.

Anyhow, I'm sorry.

My bad.

Have a blessed night.
 

Lanolin

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there are fast paced jobs that are generally people are not suited for espcially when starting out they expect workers to 'hit the ground running' and not even give proper training.

I have found that in a lot of workplaces where everything is stretched and they will only give you a minium amount of time to get trained up. And no actual down time to process information.

one workplace was like a revolving door new people were told they were not fast enough. well employ more people so the workload is easier silly!
 
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joecoten

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Yikes! I can't keep up with all of you!

Back in 1997 Focus On The Family Recommended:
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Focus_on_the_Family

https://www.amazon.com/Driven-Distraction-Revised-Recognizing-Attention/dp/0307743152/ref=sr_1_1?crid=1ET8PP2WUBYPQ&keywords=driven+to+distraction&qid=1655502763&sprefix=driven+to+distraction,aps,2520&sr=8-1



I also have the CD version.

https://www.amazon.com/Driven-Distr...swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=1655502763&sr=8-1



I had a terrible time in school. I had so much homework that I couldn't hardly keep my head above water!

Two Psychiatrists told me that I would never move out of my parents house. Because I have learning disability and other mental problems that they couldn't treat with medications.

I can't convince you people that I really have this problem. I can only tell you that I was sent to special classes, and I almost didn't make it through school. Even my first two jobs fired me for being too slow. I am a slow person. It's hard for me to concentrate. It takes me longer then most people to read a book. Most people balance more things in life then I do, and yet I feel like life is hard.

It was a Psychiatrist that told me that my learning disability was causing the other mental issues that I have, like OCD, and Anxiety. That also agrees with the book Driven to Distraction. But other then that, I can't do anything else to convince any of you. I only got my stories to tell.
Careful what you ask for...:)
 
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i dont know if they force teachers, but its the curriculum that gets decided for them and they just need to obtain certain scores. its all about numbers for some education adminstrators.

homework shouldnt be too much extra its just to reinforce whats already being learned in school time. some kids thrive on homework though and dont really learn anything in class, its when they apply it later on their own that it sinks in
My parents used to help me with my homework, even working with them, it took me 5 hours a night!
 
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there are fast paced jobs that are generally people are not suited for espcially when starting out they expect workers to 'hit the ground running' and not even give proper training.

I have found that in a lot of workplaces where everything is stretched and they will only give you a minium amount of time to get trained up. And no actual down time to process information.

one workplace was like a revolving door new people were told they were not fast enough. well employ more people so the workload is easier silly!
The two places I worked for had me in and out in just four weeks. They both said, I did good work, but I wasn't fast enough.
 

Lanolin

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My parents used to help me with my homework, even working with them, it took me 5 hours a night!
yikes what from 3pm to 8pm? what kind of homework was this though.?

I take it your werent homeschooled, otherwise it would have just all been done at home.
 

Lanolin

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The two places I worked for had me in and out in just four weeks. They both said, I did good work, but I wasn't fast enough.
yea some workplaces try and do the 90 thing to get away with paying minimum wage and say workers too slow as an excuse. Then they just hire someone else and can fire them 90 days later with no two weeks notice. No investment in actually training the workers
 
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Careful what you ask for...:)
I wanted to meet more people with my same issues.

One time I tried an ADHD/ADD forum. About the only good thing about the place was that fact I could talk to other learning disability people. But I was not allowed to talk about religion or politics. Honestly I don't care that much about politics. I mean they have there place of course. But when it comes to Christianity, it's a huge part of how I think and stuff. If you won't allow me to talk about it in conjunction with my other things, then it's like your cutting me in half. That is why I asked this on here. I wanted to meet other Christians who are dealing with the same mental problems I am. One time I met a girl on Social Anxiety Support, that came close to that mental problems. She lived in the UK. But she had similar ways of using scripture. Our online friendship ended when she got married, and stopped using those forums.
 
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I believe you.

I need to head off to bed in a few minutes because I have to get up really early for work tomorrow.

Before I go, I'd like to apologize to you for something.

Initially, you and I didn't get off on the right foot, and, in hindsight, that's more than likely my fault. I know that I came at you kind of hard in relation to something when our paths first crossed here. If I had known and understood more about your struggles at that time, then I definitely would have used a softer/gentler approach.

Anyhow, I'm sorry.

My bad.

Have a blessed night.
I accept your apology. :)
 

Lanolin

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if it was a fast food restaurant, well I supoose you have to be fast working there. But depends on how busy it gets

some jobs require you to do quality work not a rush job. And that can take time. unfortunately for many businesses time is money.

Find a job that pays you a flat rate not by the hour. You dont necessarily have to work and get paid by the hour, jobs can be paid by other methods.
 
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yikes what from 3pm to 8pm? what kind of homework was this though.?

I take it your werent homeschooled, otherwise it would have just all been done at home.
It was public school. The bulk of the work was Social Studies, English, and Math.

yea some workplaces try and do the 90 thing to get away with paying minimum wage and say workers too slow as an excuse. Then they just hire someone else and can fire them 90 days later with no two weeks notice. No investment in actually training the workers
The first place made me feel like failure because I actually took vocational school to learn how do that kind of work. The second place was more like a rebound job. After that, it took me a whole year of job searching before I got the job I have now. See that's why people don't understand why it is that I don't just quit. It wasn't easy for me to get this job in the first place! By that time I had a social worker/ job coach trying to help me. Having her was a blessing and a curse. Some places didn't want me because I had her with me. To them that meant I was going to be problem I guess.
 
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if it was a fast food restaurant, well I supoose you have to be fast working there. But depends on how busy it gets

some jobs require you to do quality work not a rush job. And that can take time. unfortunately for many businesses time is money.

Find a job that pays you a flat rate not by the hour. You dont necessarily have to work and get paid by the hour, jobs can be paid by other methods.
The first job, I put components on circuit boards. The second job I packed replacement parts for RVs.
 

Lanolin

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was it a factory or assembly line kind of operation? if one part is low does it hold up the rest of the production line?
I guess it depends on how many orders needed to be filled at at time maybe. Some jobs are like that, working to deadlines.

I guess you prayed about what else you could do that fits better? A lot of entry level jobs are crappy tbh.

What job would YOU really like to do? I think you mentioned you liked cars.
what about fixing them.

sometimes social workers are a bit embrassing, they are well meaning but I think they can be unnecessarily busy bodyish. I didnt have a learning disability diagnosis but anything under mental health many people sometimes lump anyone suffering from. depression into handicapped and in need of hand holding which isnt good for full grown adults having to accept help yet being treated like a child.

maybe will tell my story later
i think the whole job hunt thing in general is hard for most people its only seems to be the priveliged that get jobs falling in their laps and numerous offers. probably more insulting is people wanting you to work for nothing. You need to eat come on.
 
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was it a factory or assembly line kind of operation? if one part is low does it hold up the rest of the production line?
I guess it depends on how many orders needed to be filled at at time maybe. Some jobs are like that, working to deadlines.

I guess you prayed about what else you could do that fits better? A lot of entry level jobs are crappy tbh.

What job would YOU really like to do? I think you mentioned you liked cars.
what about fixing them.

sometimes social workers are a bit embrassing, they are well meaning but I think they can be unnecessarily busy bodyish. I didnt have a learning disability diagnosis but anything under mental health many people sometimes lump anyone suffering from. depression into handicapped and in need of hand holding which isnt good for full grown adults having to accept help yet being treated like a child.

maybe will tell my story later
i think the whole job hunt thing in general is hard for most people its only seems to be the priveliged that get jobs falling in their laps and numerous offers. probably more insulting is people wanting you to work for nothing. You need to eat come on.
Neither job used the assembly line approach. Each of us did our own thing. Then it was added up with the rest of us.

I don't remember saying I liked cars. I have nothing against them, but I never tried to get a job with cars. I don't think there is anything with cars that I'm good at.

I think I have a good work ethic. I always show up, almost never call in sick. But I'm not high performance. Personally I think i try my best at everything I do, and yet I still suck, when you compare me to others. So I might end up going on unemployment someday. Or after my parents pass away, end up living on the street, until my physical problems catch up with me and then I'll just die, I guess. That's how I see things, down the road. It's just logic that a tree falls the way it leans. Don't ask me about what hand God has in it. There are plenty of suffering people who believe in God, and would call themselves "Christians". And yet God allows them to suffer until the death.
 
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Neither job used the assembly line approach. Each of us did our own thing. Then it was added up with the rest of us.

I don't remember saying I liked cars. I have nothing against them, but I never tried to get a job with cars. I don't think there is anything with cars that I'm good at.

I think I have a good work ethic. I always show up, almost never call in sick. But I'm not high performance. Personally I think i try my best at everything I do, and yet I still suck, when you compare me to others. So I might end up going on unemployment someday. Or after my parents pass away, end up living on the street, until my physical problems catch up with me and then I'll just die, I guess. That's how I see things, down the road. It's just logic that a tree falls the way it leans. Don't ask me about what hand God has in it. There are plenty of suffering people who believe in God, and would call themselves "Christians". And yet God allows them to suffer until the death.
"There are plenty of suffering people who believe in God, and would call themselves "Christians". And yet God allows them to suffer until the death."
Back in late '99, the Lord told me that He was going to give me more, and not long afterwards, my suffering began in earnest. It took many years, but I am now convinced that He has a purpose for it. I finally found some understanding in the writings of A.W. Tozer.
If I look at my life from an eternal perspective, things can make more sense. One of the hardest things for me to endure are those like Job's friends.
I've been suffering since I injured my back at work in 1989. Am I to say that the Lord is unfaithful? Never!
"And said, Naked came I out of my mother's womb, and naked shall I return thither: the LORD gave, and the LORD hath taken away; blessed be the name of the LORD." - Job 1:21
 
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"There are plenty of suffering people who believe in God, and would call themselves "Christians". And yet God allows them to suffer until the death."
Back in late '99, the Lord told me that He was going to give me more, and not long afterwards, my suffering began in earnest. It took many years, but I am now convinced that He has a purpose for it. I finally found some understanding in the writings of A.W. Tozer.
If I look at my life from an eternal perspective, things can make more sense. One of the hardest things for me to endure are those like Job's friends.
I've been suffering since I injured my back at work in 1989. Am I to say that the Lord is unfaithful? Never!
"And said, Naked came I out of my mother's womb, and naked shall I return thither: the LORD gave, and the LORD hath taken away; blessed be the name of the LORD." - Job 1:21
I don't think God always has a purpose for suffering. I think we suffer because we live in broken sinfully cursed world, and our bodies are also sinfully cursed. But I think God uses suffering to his advantage. Sometimes I don't think God makes a big deal out of it because He knows we are all going to die anyways, and then the afterlife. But Job was a special case. Satan wanted to prove something to God. God allowed him to try with Job. Poor Job suffered, but God made his point to Satan. I guess Job learned some stuff from it, and so did Job's friends. But it wasn't a fun time for Job and his family etc.