Are people who are dating single?

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Willow

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I dont ask guys are they married, its more of are you single? I dont mind if they dont tell me whether they are separated or divorced til later because even they are screening. Most answers of single even when are say separated are because they see no reconciliation.
Well do not want to date a married man. I could not see that setting well with God.I have been lied too about a person being married. Really hurt and very disturbing.
 

GaryA

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I dont ask guys are they married, its more of are you single? I dont mind if they dont tell me whether they are separated or divorced til later because even they are screening. Most answers of single even when are say separated are because they see no reconciliation.
But - are you really asking "Are you available?"...?

As in - you are less interested in their marital status than you are their availability for dating, etc.
 

TheNarrowPath

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But - are you really asking "Are you available?"...?

As in - you are less interested in their marital status than you are their availability for dating, etc.
no. lol
youre either single (not attached or not with someone) or taken ( separated and wanting to reconcile or married)
 

GaryA

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dont put words in my mouth.
saying you are single when you are separated or divorced is stil correct. especially when you first meet someone you dont need to tell them everything in detail, not until you get to know them a bit better and have trust.
and like i was trying to say earlier, only you know when you are separated if you are heading for a divorce, so your status can still be single as you no longer see yourself with that person.
I was not putting words in your mount - I was making a point...

What I am saying, however, is that - with regard to 'marital status' - it is not correct.

And, it does not matter how much people want it to be - it is not correct. (I am referring to word usage here.)

I understand why people do it. But, the term is not based on "how you see yourself" - that is just "modern-day political-correctness" thinking.
 

GaryA

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But - are you really asking "Are you available?"...?

As in - you are less interested in their marital status than you are their availability for dating, etc.
Maybe I did not say this the best way...

I did not mean it in the sense that you would not care whether or not they were married - only available.

It is understood that you would not be looking to date a married man.

I meant it in the sense of what particular information you were most interested in knowing about them.
 

GaryA

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no. lol
youre either single (not attached or not with someone) or taken ( separated and wanting to reconcile or married)
I understand the modern usage. I am just saying that it is technically incorrect to use the word 'single' (in the context of marital status) as anything but 'never been married'.

The proper use of the word is honest. Anything else is the devil's game - which is the modern usage - to slyly hide the truth about someone's marital status.
 

GaryA

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BTW - if someone is separated - until they are actually divorced, they are still married...

And, to think of themselves as 'single' ----- is self-deception.
 

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BTW - if someone is separated - until they are actually divorced, they are still married...
...and if they're divorced without Biblical grounds for the same, then they're still married in God's eyes.

Which leads me to a sincere question for you, Gary...

What do you think of my situation?

Ultimately, my ex cheated on me several times, and then she divorced me.

Do you believe that I qualify in God's eyes to possibly remarry someday?
 

Willow

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The devils game hmmmm. Maybe the way you see it. I see no harm in telling people I am single. Yes I have been married before. I say single meaning I am not separated or dating anyone. Unsure I see that as the devils game. Perhaps your individual way of seeing it.
It does amaze me how people think so differently. I am widowed and divorced. Perhaps why someone recently tried to tell me it was not a sin to be attracted to porn , because they could not submit their lust to God and leave it. Twisted or obscure ways to think hmmm.
 

GaryA

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no. lol
youre either single (not attached or not with someone) or taken ( separated and wanting to reconcile or married)
In that context, the word 'single' should not be used; instead, something that means "not taken" should be used.
 

GaryA

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...and if they're divorced without Biblical grounds for the same, then they're still married in God's eyes.

Which leads me to a sincere question for you, Gary...

What do you think of my situation?

Ultimately, my ex cheated on me several times, and then she divorced me.

Do you believe that I qualify in God's eyes to possibly remarry someday?
I believe a requisite question is:

Does God see these two things as being 'equal' in His judgment of the situation? :

1) the wife commits adultery and then "puts her husband away"
2) the husband "puts his wife away" for fornication

In any case - the moment you have outlived her - 'free-and-clear' is the new status...

$0.02

(My opinion - based on my current understanding of scripture.)
 

TheNarrowPath

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BTW - if someone is separated - until they are actually divorced, they are still married...

And, to think of themselves as 'single' ----- is self-deception.
Its between me and God and the person I invite into my life :)
 

Kireina

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Are people who are dating single? 🤔 For me ... Yes and no 😊


Yes they are still single , because they are not married yet.


No, because I don't date more than 1 man at the same time...I exclusively date one person at a time. If it didn't work out that's the only time I'll date again... I'll commit myself to you if it doesn't work out..then you know bye and thank you 😊


So, if someone will ask me about my relationship status, for example,if I am Single and currently dating my answer will be...


"Yes, I am single but I am taken, meaning I am exclusively dating someone with a hope of marrying him someday and spend the rest of my life with him " 😊
 

Robertt

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I believe a requisite question is:

Does God see these two things as being 'equal' in His judgment of the situation? :

1) the wife commits adultery and then "puts her husband away"
2) the husband "puts his wife away" for fornication

In any case - the moment you have outlived her - 'free-and-clear' is the new status...

$0.02

(My opinion - based on my current understanding of scripture.)
luckily we are forgivne of all sin
 

Lynx

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Nobody, I suppose - but, that is beside the point. Reality is honest.

If you asked someone about their marital status, would you want them to hide 'separated' or 'divorced' behind the word 'single'?

People need to own up to the truth about their marital status - to not do so is deception.
Interesting assumptions you make. Deception? The devil's game?

In a court of law you would be required to provide proof of intent to deceive. Can you prove that a divorced person who calls himself "single" is doing so in an effort to deceive someone?

Do you assume the divorced person intends to hide a past marriage right up until he is married again, or just until he has a dating relationship? Either way, how would you prove this intent?

(Mind you, I don't have any skin in this game. I've never even been on a date. But I think your assumptions are rather odd and I'm interested in how you will back them up.)
 

Lanolin

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I think Garys defintion is workable
Because when people say they are a single parent thats misleading too. Obviously it takes two to tango.

They should say they are a solo parent or solo mother. if they genuinely do not know where the other parent is or they have died. Or say they are a widower. It is not the same as being single.

if they are divorced they should say
and also if separated they also should say, because that means they are still married and have obligations even if they are not living together under the same roof.
They can say they have split from the other person but obviously if they have children or assets from that split they may not divulge...or child support payments or alimony or whatever.

It is stupid to lie about things like this. You have another family already. They are imprtant too even if you dont get along with them
 

TheNarrowPath

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Too many labels in this world. Take away most of the labels and you get back to the person.
Is he a divorced man or is he looking for someone special and his former marriage is something that doesnt define him.
Is she separated or is she open to finding love and wants to move from a relationship that had irreconcilable differences?
 

Lanolin

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flower over left ear says taken and right is available or eligible. I think. No flower means its winter. For women

I dont know what men do. Have rings? one ring means he wants to rule them all
several rings means he cant decide.