Are there single Christian girls in Finland ?

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Magenta

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Yet no one has answered my question on how I can find a marriage material Christian girl here.
You say there aren't any. Time for a new dream. Something attainable this time.
 

melita916

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You keep saying there are no Christian single women in your country. So how are we supposed to give you Christian advice if you keep saying there are no Christian women there? You turn down every piece of advice people have said.
 

tourist

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Its not a small place.
Keep making the rounds in town (stores, gas stations, fast-food, etc). If you meet a young single woman start a conversation with her to get the ball rolling.

You will not find a spouse by being a passive negative observer. You really need to get off the sidelines and get your head into the game.

Instead of a young single Christian woman look for an age-appropriate young single Christian woman. Of course, be advised that being a Christian does not mean one is perfect. You're not perfect and neither is the one in your futile search. Find someone who is at least on the same spiritual page, whether a chapter or even a verse. What is important is that you are both reading from the same book.

You need to operate under a new paradigm.

As @Magenta has said, something attainable.
 

Kauko

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Why why why why

Why cant I find a virtuous Christian girl ? Why cant I find a girl of God ? Why are all girls here rude selfish and hedonistic ? Why cant I get a girl of God no matter how much I improve myself and get closer to God ? Why cant I even try with one ? Why cant I see a girl of virtues ? Why cant I find a sister in Christ I can share my life with ? Why must I be depressed and lonely no matter how hard I try to follow and have faith in God ? Why must I be single forever ? Why do I have no reward for all the hard work I have done for years and years to earn a life myself and become a Christ following man ? Why do I have to be alone in this life ? Why cant I find a girl sharing my faith and goals ? Why are all girls I see fiendish hideous creatures of the devil and potential dangers to my faith ? Why theres NO ONE girl willing to follow Christ here ? Why NO ONE ? Why are all against God ? Why are all worthless immoral corrupted pieces of rotten flesh of debauchery and naughtiness ? Why all ? Why ? WHYYYY ???!!!
 

Encouragement

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Why why why why

Why cant I find a virtuous Christian girl ? Why cant I find a girl of God ? Why are all girls here rude selfish and hedonistic ? Why cant I get a girl of God no matter how much I improve myself and get closer to God ? Why cant I even try with one ? Why cant I see a girl of virtues ? Why cant I find a sister in Christ I can share my life with ? Why must I be depressed and lonely no matter how hard I try to follow and have faith in God ? Why must I be single forever ? Why do I have no reward for all the hard work I have done for years and years to earn a life myself and become a Christ following man ? Why do I have to be alone in this life ? Why cant I find a girl sharing my faith and goals ? Why are all girls I see fiendish hideous creatures of the devil and potential dangers to my faith ? Why theres NO ONE girl willing to follow Christ here ? Why NO ONE ? Why are all against God ? Why are all worthless immoral corrupted pieces of rotten flesh of debauchery and naughtiness ? Why all ? Why ? WHYYYY ???!!!
Mate have you ever thought to yourself that God doesn't want you to actually find anyone right now..?
You have this crazy idea that you are gonna treat her like a queen and that you really want a woman with deep passion for God..
I mean...seriously??🤷‍♀️
If you cant even be courteous to the Christian's here who are ALL genuine in their motives to help you..How on earth will you be able to treat a genuine female who has good intentions toward you..?
Nah...cant see it
 

Kauko

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Mate have you ever thought to yourself that God doesn't want you to actually find anyone right now..?
You have this crazy idea that you are gonna treat her like a queen and that you really want a woman with deep passion for God..
I mean...seriously??🤷‍♀️
If you cant even be courteous to the Christian's here who are ALL genuine in their motives to help you..How on earth will you be able to treat a genuine female who has good intentions toward you..?
Nah...cant see it
I was not talking about any of you... I was talking about the girls in my around.

I never insulted you or any of the users. You have been quite respectful people. But you know my problems, I was getting drunk out of desperation. Thankfully God has warned me before it got worse and forced myself to stop. But dont take that post as a personal offence. Sorry.
 

Encouragement

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I was not talking about any of you... I was talking about the girls in my around.

I never insulted you or any of the users. You have been quite respectful people. But you know my problems, I was getting drunk out of desperation. Thankfully God has warned me before it got worse and forced myself to stop. But dont take that post as a personal offence. Sorry.
I wasn't taking it personally at all.You were just letting your frustration out.
However my point still remains....the chances are you may not be able to treat a God fearing female in the way you say you do.

No one and I mean no one is responsible nor accountable for you being able to meet someone.It is ultimately down to the will of God...
Also your descriptions of females that you see are just harsh and are you really aware of that their future will be if they die without christ?They are sinners with a sinful nature and are just doing what feels natural to them..they don't know any different do they?
 

Kauko

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I wasn't taking it personally at all.You were just letting your frustration out.
However my point still remains....the chances are you may not be able to treat a God fearing female in the way you say you do.

No one and I mean no one is responsible nor accountable for you being able to meet someone.It is ultimately down to the will of God...
Also your descriptions of females that you see are just harsh and are you really aware of that their future will be if they die without christ?They are sinners with a sinful nature and are just doing what feels natural to them..they don't know any different do they?
Im desperate to fall in love so that I have somebody to appreciate and value and I can start seeing bright and hope in life and stop being such an apocalyptic jerk. I have known for years this is my biggest lack. I need love so much. And theres nothing able to fulfill me, as a righteous girl. A girl with deep faith in God who wants to be the best wife in the world. I want to learn to love and take care of another person as if they were myself. I want to stop being completely locked and isolated from everybody like in a prison cell all the time. I need somebody in my life. Somebody I can share my life with. Somebody who brings hope in my life. Somebody I can feel good with just by seeing her. That is.
 

Encouragement

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Im desperate to fall in love so that I have somebody to appreciate and value and I can start seeing bright and hope in life and stop being such an apocalyptic jerk. I have known for years this is my biggest lack. I need love so much. And theres nothing able to fulfill me, as a righteous girl. A girl with deep faith in God who wants to be the best wife in the world. I want to learn to love and take care of another person as if they were myself. I want to stop being completely locked and isolated from everybody like in a prison cell all the time. I need somebody in my life. Somebody I can share my life with. Somebody who brings hope in my life. Somebody I can feel good with just by seeing her. That is.
Question what's your relationship like with your mother?
What have your relationships with females in general been like in terms of friend ships at school or college?
 

Kauko

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Question what's your relationship like with your mother?
What have your relationships with females in general been like in terms of friend ships at school or college?
I dont see her much. I visit my parents a few times only. But I wouldnt say we have a bad relationship. I try to treat both of my parents the best I can. They are too old for stresses so I dont seek help from them about personal topics like this one. When Im with them I try to think as little as possible in my problems and just relax. So no, my relationship with my parents cant be described as bad.

This is harder to answer. I have talked with few females in my life and never have had an actual female friendship. Sometimes I would have to do group works with females, but I was often very shy and rarely talked with any of them. Most of the time I was thinking in my own things and rarely participated in the group. I was really scared. They never tried to talk with me either and mostly ignored me. And it has been like this all the time. Few females have entered my life. My mother is the only female I have ever had an actual relationship with.
 

Lynx

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Why why why why

Why cant I find a virtuous Christian girl ? Why cant I find a girl of God ? Why are all girls here rude selfish and hedonistic ? Why cant I get a girl of God no matter how much I improve myself and get closer to God ? Why cant I even try with one ? Why cant I see a girl of virtues ? Why cant I find a sister in Christ I can share my life with ? Why must I be depressed and lonely no matter how hard I try to follow and have faith in God ? Why must I be single forever ? Why do I have no reward for all the hard work I have done for years and years to earn a life myself and become a Christ following man ? Why do I have to be alone in this life ? Why cant I find a girl sharing my faith and goals ? Why are all girls I see fiendish hideous creatures of the devil and potential dangers to my faith ? Why theres NO ONE girl willing to follow Christ here ? Why NO ONE ? Why are all against God ? Why are all worthless immoral corrupted pieces of rotten flesh of debauchery and naughtiness ? Why all ? Why ? WHYYYY ???!!!
So you're like Diogenes, but only against women instead of everybody.
 

Encouragement

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I dont see her much. I visit my parents a few times only. But I wouldnt say we have a bad relationship. I try to treat both of my parents the best I can. They are too old for stresses so I dont seek help from them about personal topics like this one. When Im with them I try to think as little as possible in my problems and just relax. So no, my relationship with my parents cant be described as bad.

This is harder to answer. I have talked with few females in my life and never have had an actual female friendship. Sometimes I would have to do group works with females, but I was often very shy and rarely talked with any of them. Most of the time I was thinking in my own things and rarely participated in the group. I was really scared. They never tried to talk with me either and mostly ignored me. And it has been like this all the time. Few females have entered my life. My mother is the only female I have ever had an actual relationship with.
So basically you have no real experience of females at all at a relational level and friendship level either.
The only female that you have had any real connection with is your mother..🤔
So socially you are not very confident to interact with females in real life...so given this backdrop why are you thinking you would be able to handle a REAL young woman in an actual relationship?
 

Kauko

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So basically you have no real experience of females at all at a relational level and friendship level either.
The only female that you have had any real connection with is your mother..🤔
So socially you are not very confident to interact with females in real life...so given this backdrop why are you thinking you would be able to handle a REAL young woman in an actual relationship?
I want to try. Im so full of passion.
 

Kauko

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Why cant I try ?
 

Encouragement

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Why cant I try ?
That is something nobody can answer you.Nobody here is accountable for your life or your eligibility to experience certain things in your life like romance ect.
Have you even done any research about christians romance and dating to get some idea of its dynamic given you have never experienced it before?
 

Kauko

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That is something nobody can answer you.Nobody here is accountable for your life or your eligibility to experience certain things in your life like romance ect.
Have you even done any research about christians romance and dating to get some idea of its dynamic given you have never experienced it before?
Yes, I have read some.
 

Lynx

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And the beat goes on...
And the beat goes on...
 

Encouragement

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And the beat goes on...
And the beat goes on...
Gosh I just has a look it's now just over 450 different posted messages from the OP and many others..😮
 

Kauko

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Keep making the rounds in town (stores, gas stations, fast-food, etc). If you meet a young single woman start a conversation with her to get the ball rolling.

You will not find a spouse by being a passive negative observer. You really need to get off the sidelines and get your head into the game.

Instead of a young single Christian woman look for an age-appropriate young single Christian woman. Of course, be advised that being a Christian does not mean one is perfect. You're not perfect and neither is the one in your futile search. Find someone who is at least on the same spiritual page, whether a chapter or even a verse. What is important is that you are both reading from the same book.

You need to operate under a new paradigm.

As @Magenta has said, something attainable.
But how do I start ? Why would I approach a random girl I see in shop and talk with her for no reason ? She could see me as some kind of stalker...