The thing is though, people DO still care about looks twenty years down the road.
Sure we do......but in most cases, as we mature and see life a bit more sensibly, we know that "looks" go deeper than outside appearances.
It's one of the many reasons why you hear of so many 20-year marriages, if they last that long, breaking up, often with a spouse leaving for the younger, better-looking candidate.
Then they were not truly IN love with thier spouse in the first place. I'm sorry, but I beleive this. Not saying they didn't love them, just there is a difference between loving someone and being IN love with them.
We all wish we'd find "the right one"... but only God knows what will happen in the future. Sickness, changes in life, ups and downs are pretty much inevitable in this life. What if God knows that that hot girl you're eyeing is going to get cancer 20 years from now? You are bound to that person before God for the rest of your life. Will you stick by her or will you leave for someone else? I'm watching co-workers go through these dilemmas everyday. When they got married at 23, they never expected things like chemo, complete hair loss, and a masectomy.
Seriously?? This is what I mean about being IN love with who you marry....and taking the vows seriously as well. Whatever happened to "in sickness and in health, for richer or poorer, .....etc?? till death do us part"? To me this means you are fully committed to this person for the rest of your life. If you cannot be.....then don't say "I do". My hubby was not bald when we married, but if his hairline recedes much more, I won't need the scissors come haircutting time. Just the buzzer. I have fluxuated with my wieght (I struggle) and we have both changed in different ways. I think when the match is right, the rest falls into place and you do what you have to do to adjust along with each other.
What if God knows that really cute Mr. Man in front of you is going to lose his job and not find another one in 5 years... Will you leave him for "the other guy" you know at work who happens to make a lot of money, especially now that you have four kids to support?
Again, if the match is right, no you wont go for the other guy with money, because you are committed to the man you married and are IN love with him. These things do come down to choices too. You can chose not to go looking elsewhere since you are already married!
I'm just as guilty. I wonder myself if I could handle these kinds of situations... which is probably why God hasn't sent me the right person yet.
From everything I have seen you wirte in the forums, I honestly beleive that if you decide to get married someday, it will be forever, and that you will be able to handle what God puts before you.
Have any of you seen the movie, "Limitless"? Think of Bradley Cooper's ex-wife in the film. What if your spouse ends up looking like his ex-wife did? Would you stay with someone whose looks changed? (It doesn't have to be from illegal drugs... as we mentioned... it could be from sickness, changes in life, or good old time.)
Never seen the film, but do we, any of us, think for one minute, we or our spouse will not change in some physical way over the course of 20 years??? (or more) Of course we none of us want to consider illnesses, and such, but we should all know it CAN happen (Lord forbid....but it does) and that we should be able, before marrying, to say that we love that person enough to see things through no matter what.
We all say, "I wish I had that person... NOW!!!" But only God knows if we're truly equipped to handle what's to come. How we feel or how things, including looks, change, does not undermine or lessen our responsibility towards someone in marriage before God.
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