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Hi, Cloud! I don´t if you are who posted this thread that seems a threat ( 
). I have read in soem countries, close to Filipinas, girls often ask the boys to marry and give presents to woo (I just telling what I read on wikipedia, concerniung DATING). I think it fair! And allow me to tell part of my life:
I was slow. In high school I asked a girl to be my GF because some friends told me she liked me (and I didn´t know nor notice it) (and that lasted few months). Today I´m old, compared to the type of girls/women I liked, an normally we (men) do not look AT ALL WHO ARE THE BEST, but we look at those who look "unavoidable", because OUR FOOLISH MIND think body beauty is important (and it is NOT, but a little).
I had a pastor whose wife had to woo him to be finally married. She was a good and thin woman (a think I usually like) but David never paid attention to the outside. And I´m glad Donna married him, because they have a good ministry and David is (or was) handsome enough to marry any he could have liked. Besides, he is a man from God, a good worker, and I´m happy Donna married him (I´m talking about a friend I haven´t seen for more than 15 years).
Today, June 2013. I have someone who often woos me, but I like her as friend. I´m not the one she deserves, I´m not the one who copes with Catholics to woo, but she is kind enough who has set an eye on me, but I don´t know how to tell her -without hurting- that I´m not her Mr Right. And I have told her I AM NOT, but she insists on telling me "God told me you are that one". The thing is: 1) My foolish mind TELLS ME SHE IS NOT THE ONE I LIKE. 2) God hasn´t told me anything about her. 3) My dreams never showed me her in my dreams.
My question to you: Do you have God telling you that guy is the one for you? Is God telling him YOU ARE THE BEST CHOICE? (THERE ARE MANY ALTERNATIVE, but God knows the best for you, according to His plans)
I wish you find the best man for you.
). I have read in soem countries, close to Filipinas, girls often ask the boys to marry and give presents to woo (I just telling what I read on wikipedia, concerniung DATING). I think it fair! And allow me to tell part of my life:I was slow. In high school I asked a girl to be my GF because some friends told me she liked me (and I didn´t know nor notice it) (and that lasted few months). Today I´m old, compared to the type of girls/women I liked, an normally we (men) do not look AT ALL WHO ARE THE BEST, but we look at those who look "unavoidable", because OUR FOOLISH MIND think body beauty is important (and it is NOT, but a little).
I had a pastor whose wife had to woo him to be finally married. She was a good and thin woman (a think I usually like) but David never paid attention to the outside. And I´m glad Donna married him, because they have a good ministry and David is (or was) handsome enough to marry any he could have liked. Besides, he is a man from God, a good worker, and I´m happy Donna married him (I´m talking about a friend I haven´t seen for more than 15 years).
Today, June 2013. I have someone who often woos me, but I like her as friend. I´m not the one she deserves, I´m not the one who copes with Catholics to woo, but she is kind enough who has set an eye on me, but I don´t know how to tell her -without hurting- that I´m not her Mr Right. And I have told her I AM NOT, but she insists on telling me "God told me you are that one". The thing is: 1) My foolish mind TELLS ME SHE IS NOT THE ONE I LIKE. 2) God hasn´t told me anything about her. 3) My dreams never showed me her in my dreams.
My question to you: Do you have God telling you that guy is the one for you? Is God telling him YOU ARE THE BEST CHOICE? (THERE ARE MANY ALTERNATIVE, but God knows the best for you, according to His plans)
I wish you find the best man for you.
J
Hi, Cloud! I don´t if you are who posted this thread that seems a threat ( ). I have read in soem countries, close to Filipinas, girls often ask the boys to marry and give presents to woo (I just telling what I read on wikipedia, concerniung DATING). I think it fair! And allow me to tell part of my life:
I was slow. In high school I asked a girl to be my GF because some friends told me she liked me (and I didn´t know nor notice it) (and that lasted few months). Today I´m old, compared to the type of girls/women I liked, an normally we (men) do not look AT ALL WHO ARE THE BEST, but we look at those who look "unavoidable", because OUR FOOLISH MIND think body beauty is important (and it is NOT, but a little).
I had a pastor whose wife had to woo him to be finally married. She was a good and thin woman (a think I usually like) but David never paid attention to the outside. And I´m glad Donna married him, because they have a good ministry and David is (or was) handsome enough to marry any he could have liked. Besides, he is a man from God, a good worker, and I´m happy Donna married him (I´m talking about a friend I haven´t seen for more than 15 years).
Today, June 2013. I have someone who often woos me, but I like her as friend. I´m not the one she deserves, I´m not the one who copes with Catholics to woo, but she is kind enough who has set an eye on me, but I don´t know how to tell her -without hurting- that I´m not her Mr Right. And I have told her I AM NOT, but she insists on telling me "God told me you are that one". The thing is: 1) My foolish mind TELLS ME SHE IS NOT THE ONE I LIKE. 2) God hasn´t told me anything about her. 3) My dreams never showed me her in my dreams.
My question to you: Do you have God telling you that guy is the one for you? Is God telling him YOU ARE THE BEST CHOICE? (THERE ARE MANY ALTERNATIVE, but God knows the best for you, according to His plans)
I wish you find the best man for you.
). I have read in soem countries, close to Filipinas, girls often ask the boys to marry and give presents to woo (I just telling what I read on wikipedia, concerniung DATING). I think it fair! And allow me to tell part of my life:I was slow. In high school I asked a girl to be my GF because some friends told me she liked me (and I didn´t know nor notice it) (and that lasted few months). Today I´m old, compared to the type of girls/women I liked, an normally we (men) do not look AT ALL WHO ARE THE BEST, but we look at those who look "unavoidable", because OUR FOOLISH MIND think body beauty is important (and it is NOT, but a little).
I had a pastor whose wife had to woo him to be finally married. She was a good and thin woman (a think I usually like) but David never paid attention to the outside. And I´m glad Donna married him, because they have a good ministry and David is (or was) handsome enough to marry any he could have liked. Besides, he is a man from God, a good worker, and I´m happy Donna married him (I´m talking about a friend I haven´t seen for more than 15 years).
Today, June 2013. I have someone who often woos me, but I like her as friend. I´m not the one she deserves, I´m not the one who copes with Catholics to woo, but she is kind enough who has set an eye on me, but I don´t know how to tell her -without hurting- that I´m not her Mr Right. And I have told her I AM NOT, but she insists on telling me "God told me you are that one". The thing is: 1) My foolish mind TELLS ME SHE IS NOT THE ONE I LIKE. 2) God hasn´t told me anything about her. 3) My dreams never showed me her in my dreams.
My question to you: Do you have God telling you that guy is the one for you? Is God telling him YOU ARE THE BEST CHOICE? (THERE ARE MANY ALTERNATIVE, but God knows the best for you, according to His plans)
I wish you find the best man for you.
A
Personally I've done the whole ask the guy out thing and it backfired. I'm not saying there is anything wrong with asking but I realized with this particular guy it really meant that he wasn't interested and didn't want anything to do with me. It hurt but I also appreciate that he was honest and didn't go out for coffee with me (that's all I asked) and get my hopes up. I understand now that I need a leader and pursuer. So in short... I'm not going to ask out any guy ever again (good thing I'm not a dude! One shot and I'm out!) not unless the circumstance calls for it and God is REALLY pushing me to, not myself thinking I need to because I'm impatient with His timing. It is really your decision and hopefully that decision is also the one God has too. If not then you will find out sooner than later.
C
everytime he's beside or around, the feeling is really different. confusing. don't know if it is excitement or what.
and everytime he's not around esp. in church, it seems like there's something missing. but looking his personality, THERE ARE NOTHING EXACTLY WHAT I AM PRAYING FOR.
gosh.. this thing makes me crazy.. lol
and everytime he's not around esp. in church, it seems like there's something missing. but looking his personality, THERE ARE NOTHING EXACTLY WHAT I AM PRAYING FOR.
gosh.. this thing makes me crazy.. lol
If the guy can't get his act together, and see the obvious, they he's probably either not interested, or a boy who can shave - which you don't need. If he sees you have interest and he has interest, and he doesn't initiate anything, then he's not a leader, and you will be forcing leadership out of him for the rest of your life to the point where you'll get tired of it, and soon your leading the relationship and he passively watches you do it
@Cloud
hi! These days I re-read Ruth. Why don´t you try reading it? Ruth asked Booz. That sounds unbiblical! Sansom asked his father a woman to marry (out of the Jews) (which was considered a SIN in Jewish culture)... See how that ended up! Will you ask a man out of your BELIEF or Christianity? That may be unbiblical! (See that marrying ANY you will be under a life tests).
Biblical or unbiblical, you like what you like. I rather know her before committing to love someone who may hurt me...
hi! These days I re-read Ruth. Why don´t you try reading it? Ruth asked Booz. That sounds unbiblical! Sansom asked his father a woman to marry (out of the Jews) (which was considered a SIN in Jewish culture)... See how that ended up! Will you ask a man out of your BELIEF or Christianity? That may be unbiblical! (See that marrying ANY you will be under a life tests).
Biblical or unbiblical, you like what you like. I rather know her before committing to love someone who may hurt me...