Can't Take a Hint

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ChandlerFan

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#21
I will start off by saying that if you ask someone to leave you alone or indicate to them that you do not want to chat via PM, they are in the wrong if they do not honor your request.

With that said, I have to say that I am often disappointed by the number of people who have really arrogant PM messages telling people not to PM them, especially those who threaten to report those people or call them out in the room. It actually bothers me a lot when someone calls a person out in the room for PMing them. When you have the option of respectfully hitting the ignore button and letting it go, why would you purposely go out of your way to embarrass someone? That's completely lacking in kindness in my opinion. And while I understand that there are certain individuals who based on previous interactions you may not want to speak with again, but I'm sorry, if you don't desire to interact with people on a one-on-one basis and take issue with clicking the ignore button, perhaps the chatroom isn't the best place for you. That's just my thought on the whole thing. Instead of sounding arrogant and aloof by telling people not to talk to you, just get in the habit of using the ignore button, or maybe don't go in the chatroom.

I understand that there are guys out there that need to be kicked in the pants because they can't take a hint, but still...please take the high road.
 
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#22
On the people pleasing topic, what may seem strange to some, but i can actually struggle with this. Though many here seem to see me as blunt and unconcerned with others feelings, it's actually quite the opposite. Part of my bluntness is being concerned for the other person.
But i also have a people pleasing side and can struggle with feeling like i need to constantly do for others. Or being too worried about a persons feelings when it would actually be better if i spoke up more clearly. I can be prone to hints in certain situations.