Christian Dating sites- What do you think?

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Russell1990

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Okay so there seems to be a lot of Christian dating sites popping up all over the place.

I always used to think they weren't good, however my best friend met her now fiance on one and it is very clear they are suited to each other.

I guess there are several arguements for and against. what I understand to be:

For

We live in a modern age, the internet is a great tool to broaden our horizons and meet a wide variety of people all over the place

It is all about the motivations of the heart, it is okay to pursue a relationship as long as you are content in knowing God is all you need.

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Is searching really being content in God, It could easily lead to upset and focusing away from God

How do you know who you are going to meet, they could be a complete and utter wierdo


So yeah what do you think, have you tried it out?
 
Theygaveutheirworst

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Some people assume that CC is a dating website.! Zing...

Anyhoo, I know a couple of people who have met someone on a dating website- one of them actually married the girl he met on eharmony. Personally, I've tried, it didn't work out very well. lol
 
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NodMyHeadLikeYeah

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Firstly Hi Russell, I assume your new.

Dating sites.. yeaaah i dunno, they work for some people and not for others. I personally have not tried them, but know people who have met their now husband or wife on one.

Feel free to check out the other 1,00,8478,3954858,3037763,3938873 threads on here about dating sites.

Good bye :D
 
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NodMyHeadLikeYeah

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p.s. I'm a complete and utter weirdo... now you've just met one. Not so scary was it ;)
 
LightningClap0002

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I see dating websites as akin to searching for a mate. I have no desire or reason to search for a mate, in life or otherwise. I seek friends, and can do so through CC, or through work, or through any other of my normal life. I don't meet people with the intention of dating them, in real life or online. I meet people to get to know them and get to know them to love them more.

I think many dating sites take advantage of people's deepest, God given, desire to love and be loved. Can they work? Absolutely, but I can't agree with the mindset of meeting people with the intention of dating them, so I would never encourage someone to use such a service, or use it myself.
 
LightningClap0002

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NodMyHeadLikeYeah said:
p.s. I'm a complete and utter weirdo... now you've just met one. Not so scary was it ;)
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I'm still petrified of your face, err I mean your picture of your face. Well, really I suppose it's just the quality of the picture of your face. Hmmm.
 
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NodMyHeadLikeYeah

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LightningClap0002 said:
I see dating websites as akin to searching for a mate. I have no desire or reason to search for a mate, in life or otherwise. I seek friends, and can do so through CC, or through work, or through any other of my normal life. I don't meet people with the intention of dating them, in real life or online. I meet people to get to know them and get to know them to love them more.

I think many dating sites take advantage of people's deepest, God given, desire to love and be loved. Can they work? Absolutely, but I can't agree with the mindset of meeting people with the intention of dating them, so I would never encourage someone to use such a service, or use it myself.
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You've just met complete utter weirdo number 2.

Your really on a roll here Russell :D
 
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Russell1990

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Haha, I am kinda new the the forum. I joined a few months back and went on the chat room a bit, although many wierdos on that, seems like i cannot escape them ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh :p
 
ashlaa

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Do it Russ. I wanna see how many chicks you can pull with your "charming" personality.
 
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NodMyHeadLikeYeah said:
Firstly Hi Russell, I assume your new.

Dating sites.. yeaaah i dunno, they work for some people and not for others. I personally have not tried them, but know people who have met their now husband or wife on one.

Feel free to check out the other 1,00,8478,3954858,3037763,3938873 threads on here about dating sites.

Good bye :D
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1,00,8478,3954858,3037763,3938872
Nods, I only counted ^

I must have missed one :D
 
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ChristianMingle is an absolute FRAUD of a website.. but it was hilarious seeing one of my the best friend of my ex-friends wife on christianmingle when I set up a trial account a few months back. You couldn't get that girl to talk to men if you hit her with talking gas.
 
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Theygaveutheirworst said:
Some people assume that CC is a dating website.! Zing...

Anyhoo, I know a couple of people who have met someone on a dating website- one of them actually married the girl he met on eharmony. Personally, I've tried, it didn't work out very well. lol
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Amen to that! I'm not here to date, and feel 75% of my PM's are guys trying to chat me up for flirting. It gets annoying.

I was on Christian Mingle and on other sites and was not impressed with them. $29.95 a month for Christian Mingle and I didn't find what I was looking for. Same for other sites. The whole dating process is hard enough, but finding a man who is Godly seems like finding a needle in a haystack!
I just decided that God will bring me a husband and I'm going to serve Him while I'm waiting. God and my familiy are my main focus, and when God sees I'm ready I know my husband will find me. :)
 
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Amen to that! I'm not here to date, and feel 75% of my PM's are guys trying to chat me up for a date. It gets annoying.

I was on Christian Mingle and on other sites and was not impressed with them. $29.95 a month for Christian Mingle and I didn't find what I was looking for. Same for other sites. The whole dating process is hard enough, but finding a man who is Godly seems like finding a needle in a haystack!
I just decided that God will bring me a husband and I'm going to serve Him while I'm waiting. God and my familiy are my main focus, and when God sees I'm ready I know my husband will find me. :)
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When I was on Mingle how ever long ago.. I took the time to analyze how I perceived all the women in my age range.. and drew a conclusion on their collective personality types. I then decided to analyze the guys and see if these guys as a collective whole would be ideal matches for those women.

My conclusion: No way those guys were right for these women.
 
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When I was on Mingle how ever long ago.. I took the time to analyze how I perceived all the women in my age range.. and drew a conclusion on their collective personality types. I then decided to analyze the guys and see if these guys as a collective whole would be ideal matches for those women.

My conclusion: No way those guys were right for these women.
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I'm super curious now :D

Elaborate?

Was it that the women were out of the Guys league or was it like a bunch of pack a day single moms flocking to the stability of a ''Christian" guy?
 
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When I was on Mingle how ever long ago.. I took the time to analyze how I perceived all the women in my age range.. and drew a conclusion on their collective personality types. I then decided to analyze the guys and see if these guys as a collective whole would be ideal matches for those women.

My conclusion: No way those guys were right for these women.
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Agreed. The men I talked to claimed to be Christian but were not serious about their faith. I am a "take up your cross and follow me" Christian and want the man I date and marry to be the same. I read daily and am trying to apply the bible to my life, and most of the guys on there just don't. I want someone who loves God with his whole heart and strives to please God in everything he does. I'm not looking for perfection by any means, but someone who puts an importance on living God's way because that's what God asks us to do. The ones I encountered on Christian Mingle mostly didn't. And the ones who did weren't interested in me because I am a plus size gal. So I said bye bye and pulled my account down.
 
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Russell1990

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PrettyBelle said:
Amen to that! I'm not here to date, and feel 75% of my PM's are guys trying to chat me up for flirting. It gets annoying.

I was on Christian Mingle and on other sites and was not impressed with them. $29.95 a month for Christian Mingle and I didn't find what I was looking for. Same for other sites. The whole dating process is hard enough, but finding a man who is Godly seems like finding a needle in a haystack!
I just decided that God will bring me a husband and I'm going to serve Him while I'm waiting. God and my familiy are my main focus, and when God sees I'm ready I know my husband will find me. :)
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It is amusing how many times i hear about creeps on this site and even see some creepy behaviour in the chat room from time to time. Even on a Christian site. I like this site as you get to meet some pretty cool people and have some great godly chats which have been encouraging. I guess some people think any chance they have to meet someone of the opposite sex is a potential dating opportunity and it kinda can ruin the experience on here, specifically for most girls on here who get creeped on.

Yeah i had a look at Christian Mingle, I wasn't that impressed at all and removed my profile straight after creating it. A good website for the Uk is christianconnection.co.uk. There seems to be a lot of more serious Christians on there although you have to pay after a 7 day trail so I don't really want to do that.

When we get caught up looking for a partner it can be easy to neglect God, we should be pursuing him first and foremost and often when we do that God will bring the right person along. Although that doesn't mean there should be no pro activity on our part, God gave us our own imitative for a reason.
 
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from my personal experience and opinion.
I would advise people not to use it!

Lately I was getting into dating sites. Many of you may know Badoo and Plenty Of Fish, I wasn't happy with them and I saw an advert of Christian dating site.
The bunch of people there were older and mature, not for me. I couldn't find anyone my age.


I mean when you compare Christian dating site to regular sites. The ones at Christians dating site do devote their lives to Jesus but they are lonely and want a partner who is a Christian. Then you have normal dating sites, each one has a motive.


I dunno what to say man. We don't belong to dating sites because the people there all have motives! In the end you MIGHT end up being disappointed.
I just had a bad experience with the woman my dad was dating, she was only seeing him just to marry and earn passport. Whereas she's living with me and my dad for free, no need to pay house bill, just free living. I just hated the fact that she lied to me when both got into a fight and got arrested, making people and me believe my dad is the one that caused all these. Fact is she was saying she isn't lying, but brands herself a Christian!

I just wouldn't advise using dating sites, you can try and take it for a spin and see what happens.

I too would like to meet someone, but I would rather wait!
And if I see someone i like who likes me, she has to be Christian/believe in Jesus.
 
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