Christian matchmaking services

[Lanolin]

with jobs, word of mouth and recommndations are the way to find the best jobs and I think that goes the same for finding a partner. I mean sure just someone might randomly turn up, and thats fine if you are like a gambler who believes in luck....!

But for christian believers thats not actually a great way to meet someone or get to know someone. I think you need introduction or at least some mutual connection before rather than go with someone whos a complete unknown. Surely in all your church 'networks' and brothers and sisters you have lived with and fellowshiped with over the years you could recommend someone to someone else.

 

[Willow]

which one was this christian mingle?
I think that was a well known one.

I never went on that one. I think dating sites are like applying for a job except some of them you have to pay. You get a lot of 'hits' and then have to narrow it down, I think its an exhausting way of looking for someone who you dont even know yet.

Of course most jobs by law now HAVE to be advertised even when theyve ALREADY picked someone just to see who else would apply and make it 'fair' but its not fair for all those applicants who go to all that effort and then get rejected lol

It wasn't Christian mingle. Rather not say. But after talking to this individual in just messages I knew he was not the one for me. Don't get me started on jobs and the misrepresentation they swagger. Worse than a person trying to sell you florida property for 5 grand with a house all done online,lol! Atm I am looking for work. After the last one gave me frost bite I am very leary . God has opened my eyes to alot.

 

[Lanolin]

I listened to the 138 dayes author on the radio and she said that while she went on 138 dates she had a triage process and screened a lot of potential dates by phone, so she didnt actually meet with anybody who was really off when she spoke to them on the phone.

Because to go to the expense of dating someone and then rejecting them after a date if you had a really bad time with them would be like an hour you never got back from your life.

 

[Lanolin]

she also went halves on all her dates but then she chose where to meet for the first one. It was always the same place. I think she just had one drink the guy had the other one and they shared a plate or something.

I dont know if I could do what she did, but I suppose if I was really determined and in her shoes, I would. But in the end while she had two kids with her long term partner...they didnt marry..or havent yet, so, I think marriage is yet another step in a relationship these days. AFTER you have children lol. Maybe when you are preparing your will or something. Cos who wants to change their name and control finances and deal with insurance and all that.

 

[I_am_Canadian]

Hi Everyone,

I’m wondering if you know of any Christian matchmaking services that, in order to do their best to filter out the ineligible from the outset and determine if a person’s interest in the service is genuine, requires participants to provide:

• A Statement of Faith (state when and how we were spiritually born again/converted to Christianity, including a paragraph that defines what we believe is a proper Christian lifestyle);
• Proof of Identity (eg a Photo ID such as a current Drivers Licence, that displays our Date of Birth and PostCode for where we live);
• A Police Check/Clearance Report acquired within the last 6 months;
• A properly completed personality profile with a current photo plus other modest pictures, scripted using clean language, showing a well defined list of personality traits and interests, and a list of the desired characteristics of an ideal partner including any age group preferences;
• If we’ve had a broken marital or de facto relationship, then we will be required to provide a statement declaring why we believe we are eligible for remarriage.

If you do, or have any thoughts on the matter, please let me know.

Shalom,

Tony

Hey Tony,

I know of several Christian dating sites and none of them are that way.

About the ID, no one asks for it, when people do it's usually a scam unless you know the person on the other end.

As for a police report I don't see how that would be relevant to signing up for a dating site.

That's a personal matter. It's only relevant if you found someone your genuinely interested in dating someone and their views with dating some one with a record or the severity of the offence.

 

[HealthAndHappiness]

Here's one that the guys at the "10 Questions" thread need to check out.

😄

 

[Lanolin]

why not just work for the IRD, Vehicle testing station or Police department and then you have everyones details AND criminal records.

Also, if you sign up as an electioneer, you have everyone on the electoral roll and all their occupations and which electorate they live in. Then you can determine who their MP is and if they voted for them.

OR you could just get to know someone by dancing with them at like...a dance party..

Might be easier than going through the phone book online and calling every number hey.

 

[TheNarrowPath]

why not just work for the IRD, Vehicle testing station or Police department and then you have everyones details AND criminal records.

Also, if you sign up as an electioneer, you have everyone on the electoral roll and all their occupations and which electorate they live in. Then you can determine who their MP is and if they voted for them.

OR you could just get to know someone by dancing with them at like...a dance party..

Might be easier than going through the phone book online and calling every number hey.

They should bring back dance halls. I went to one which was held by my brothers former church. There was a big group of guys from Asia that were invited to a western themed dance. But the guys would only dance with each other, they were too shy to dance with us kiwi girls lol But it was so much fun, learning a new simple dance, girls in inner circle, guys on the outer. A lot of laughter.

 

[Lanolin]

They should bring back dance halls. I went to one which was held by my brothers former church. There was a big group of guys from Asia that were invited to a western themed dance. But the guys would only dance with each other, they were too shy to dance with us kiwi girls lol But it was so much fun, learning a new simple dance, girls in inner circle, guys on the outer. A lot of laughter.

yea totally

nowdays its only oldies that go and there are hardly enough guys to do partner dancing.

I was thinking that the baptist church hall would make a GREAT dance hall but you know what baptists are like about dancing....
Its bigger than their baptism pool anyway.

theres always tik tok