Christian singles and pick up lines

[Suze]

Yesterday returning from a seminar I met a man who stopped me to say "lady you can make a good wife" I just smiled and went my way. But it got me thinking,

How does a Christian single approach another single for a date?

what are some pick-up statements that Christian singles can safely use?

By the way inspired by @seoulsearch I am gathering the singles of my church for a retreat during the summer holidays. I wonder what we will be teaching, please any ideas?

The worst one that was ever pitched at me was : I bet u would just love to come around and clean my house for me wouldn't u ? 😬 It was very funny , I was sat in a very busy pharmacy waiting for my meds to b dispensed , the man in question was doing the same as were at least twenty other people . Being English we were all waiting very quietly and patiently . This man starts to chat me up and everyone's ears prick up , he's not very good and I'm just giving him very basic politeness back because I know what he's leading up to . After about fifteen minutes of him trying to think of something to say that will get a positive response from me he comes out with that line . Several people almost choked whilst trying not to laugh out loud , including me ! 😆 .

 

[Suze]

Yesterday returning from a seminar I met a man who stopped me to say "lady you can make a good wife" I just smiled and went my way. But it got me thinking,

How does a Christian single approach another single for a date?

what are some pick-up statements that Christian singles can safely use?

By the way inspired by @seoulsearch I am gathering the singles of my church for a retreat during the summer holidays. I wonder what we will be teaching, please any ideas?

I know a couple of saucey ones : many to woman : how do u like your eggs in the morning ? Woman to man : unfertilised , push off ! Can't say any of the others on here 😬 .

 

[Suze]

The non-Christian dating scene is very predatory. People look for lines that will "work"; in other words, snag their prey. People, and women especially, can smell pickup lines a mile away. In my opinion Christians should avoid them. For the Christian, dating shouldn't be a predatory sport but an opportunity to share yourself and learn about each other. If one must resort to pickup lines, I always found Seinfeld's approach original and amusing. He came up with some pretty good ones, like: "You may not know it by looking at me, but I can run really fast."

Yes I agree . Just b yourself and get to know someone as a friend first . I hate chat up lines , the flattering ones r the worst , patronising ones come in a close second and crude ones r a firm 3rd 🙄 . Just say ' hi , how r u today ' and smile . If u get a cool response the person is either already happily not single , or , not looking , or is not attracted to u . My husband is adamant that the vast majority of men only talk to women that they r interested in romantically , whereas most women will politely talk to almost anyone male or female , without having any romantic interest . The older I get , the more inclined I am to believe what my husband said . Don't know if other older women have noticed this but , as I've aged I've noticed how the type and age of the men that speak to me has changed massively . Wonder why that could b ? 😆😆😆 .

 

[Karlon]

That pickup line might actually work. Not sure if that's a good thing or a bad thing though.

between 2 Christian people, yes, a good thing.

 

[Lynx]

I know a couple of saucey ones : many to woman : how do u like your eggs in the morning ? Woman to man : unfertilised , push off ! Can't say any of the others on here 😬 .

 

[Snackersmom]

I always liked "I lost my number, can I borrow yours?"

Cheesy, yes... but still cute. 😊

 

[Elizabeth35]

These are not mine, but they are worthy of a cringey chuckle.

"Jesus made water into wine, but he made you into fine."

"You make the Queen of Sheba look like a hobo."

"I was reading the book of Numbers the other day and I realized that I still don’t have yours."

"You can just call me Pharaoh. Cause I’m never gonna give you up, never gonna let you go." (sounds a bit threatening!)

"Are you a Pharisee? Because you’re the fairest one I see." (start out with an insult, then compliment. Got it.)

Man: "Did it hurt when you fell from heaven? "
Woman: "Did you just call me the devil?"

 

[Snackersmom]

I could argue, successfully, that you were at least an indirect influence there.

Lol I'd like to think so.... especially considering that I contacted the girl as well, warned she might have a bizarre message incoming and put in a few good words for the guy. Because I am WAY too good of a friend 🙄🤦‍♀️😂.

 

[HealthAndHappiness]

My Prairie Dogs were way too cute.

Poppy's pick up line is Wahoo! 😊<
This was true of Sarah and Samuel too.
The Life 😎

 

[JohnDB]

And I want to give you a grand prize trophy 🏆 for taking the lead in helping others

Can we just keep it to an un-iced shortbread cookie? I'm kinda broke this week? Animal cracker perhaps?

 

[seoulsearch]

Can we just keep it to an un-iced shortbread cookie? I'm kinda broke this week? Animal cracker perhaps?

I'll chip in for the icing.

 

[Edith]

The worst one that was ever pitched at me was : I bet u would just love to come around and clean my house for me wouldn't u ? 😬 It was very funny , I was sat in a very busy pharmacy waiting for my meds to b dispensed , the man in question was doing the same as were at least twenty other people . Being English we were all waiting very quietly and patiently . This man starts to chat me up and everyone's ears prick up , he's not very good and I'm just giving him very basic politeness back because I know what he's leading up to . After about fifteen minutes of him trying to think of something to say that will get a positive response from me he comes out with that line . Several people almost choked whilst trying not to laugh out loud , including me ! 😆 .

oh my! oh my this is hilarious! who says that. Poor man! he must have tried hard, to have said it that way

 

[Edith]

Hi @Edith!

Kudos to you for stepping up and organizing a Singles Retreat -- that's awesome and I hope you'll let us know how it goes!!

As for ideas... I generally don't see myself as a teacher, so that's why I tend to start discussions instead, especially since I'm around older singles. I don't want to sound patronizing or condescending to those who have a lot more life experience than I do.

How big of a group do you think you're having? Are there people who have volunteered to teach on anything? What ages are you looking at?

My suggestions for some topics (that can also just be group discussions so there doesn't have to be a defined teacher

* How to meet other Christian singles (the question we all ask!)

* Safety measures to take when dating, whether in real life or online.

* How to keep God as the first focus while dating.

* Fun, inexpensive ideas for dates.

Now of course, this is just a sample of what you could talk about but it's a way to encourage people to share their ideas and experiences.

A younger crowd might not have much experience so it might feel more like "teaching" (so it might take some research on each topic to bring up a few important points to discuss.)

An older crowd will probably have plenty of stories to share with everyone and keep the flow going.

I'm excited for you and will be eager to hear how it goes!!

And I want to give you a grand prize trophy 🏆 for taking the lead in helping others! ❤️

Thank you so much Seoul for the encouragement and the propositions. I will go with the group discussions. The group might be an older one some people in their 30s a few in their 40s. we hope to have 10 or more participants. thank you again. I will be excited to share our experience

 

[Edith]

Ice- breakers usually work best when you know the person well enough to tailor it to them specifically. But a good generic one (by my estimation) is:

"I see something special in you, and if its OK I would like to get to know you better"

However, when I suggested the above line to a guyfriend who didn't know how to approach a girl, he told me he "didn't want to make it weird" and instead opted to photoshop her into a picture taken off a local politicians' Facebook page. 🤦‍♀️

Can't argue with results, the girl was amused and messaged him back! 😂

Cute 😀