Christian, virgin men... perceived as gay by the world?
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I've personally never heard this, but i don't doubt some men would think that. But i think most men who would take it that far would have to be pretty deeply involved in worldly attitudes and sleeping around a lot. The kind that view women as objects.
If you're having this problem perhaps you're just a bit more feminine acting? Doesn't mean you're gay, but just that you're not alpha-male, macho type. Did you grow up around more women than men? Sometimes that can have an effect on how a guy carries himself, talks, gestures, etc.. and can pick up the feminine traits.
If you're having this problem perhaps you're just a bit more feminine acting? Doesn't mean you're gay, but just that you're not alpha-male, macho type. Did you grow up around more women than men? Sometimes that can have an effect on how a guy carries himself, talks, gestures, etc.. and can pick up the feminine traits.
Hey, Mori --
I am very attracted to women. I just want to live as fruitfully and righteously as possible. I want to be happy with myself too, before pursuing a girlfriend and ultimately a wife. I never dated and I feel strange compared to the majority of other people. But, I really hope that who I am is destined by God. I believe that it is, because I know of few people like me. I'm willing to have faith in God and see if I really do meet the godly woman of my dreams.
@ Pheonix --
Some people have suggested that I was gay due to my behavior. At times I think that I am because of my gestures or due to my voice. Maybe I'm a little to close to my mother? Only God knows. I won't worry about it. I'll just keep going strong with the conviction of God.
Aaron
I am very attracted to women. I just want to live as fruitfully and righteously as possible. I want to be happy with myself too, before pursuing a girlfriend and ultimately a wife. I never dated and I feel strange compared to the majority of other people. But, I really hope that who I am is destined by God. I believe that it is, because I know of few people like me. I'm willing to have faith in God and see if I really do meet the godly woman of my dreams.
@ Pheonix --
Some people have suggested that I was gay due to my behavior. At times I think that I am because of my gestures or due to my voice. Maybe I'm a little to close to my mother? Only God knows. I won't worry about it. I'll just keep going strong with the conviction of God.
Aaron
LOL, I can relate to this so well. There seems to be this odd impression amongst teen males, at least, that if a guy isn't looking for a girlfriend or has a girlfriend but doesn't have sex with her, that he must be gay. I've been asked if I'm gay or outright accused of it because of my abstinence and persistent singleness.
C
Bro,
Most people are just extremely prideful and judgmental. If you don't look and act just like them, then in their mind something has gotta' be wrong with you.
I'm 40, single (never married) and as straight as a guy can get. Everyone who knows me can say with absolute certainty that I'm not gay. If you had ever met some of my ex's then you'd know I'm not gay. *lol* However, because I haven't dated in several years since I got saved, people who don't know me very well (usually at work) like to talk junk just because I'm not the least bit interested in girls who aren't saved.
It happens and apparently none of us are immune no matter how straight you might look or act. *lol* Don't allow the ignorance of others dictate to you how you must act or feel.
Although, as a christian, I'm a bit concerned that you seem to be questioning your own sexuality because of the opinions of others. If anyone should know whether or not you are gay, it's you. I needn't remind you of how God feels about homosexuality. If you are not certain what the bible says then turn to Romans chapter one and read the entire chapter. After reading it, I'm certain you will have a clear understanding as to how God feels about the subject.
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@ Crossfire
Thanks for your response. I'll read Romans chapter 1. I'm straight, but I guess I let myself get confused. I've never been a typical guy, and I've never had a significant girlfriend, so that's why I question my sexuality. Though, I'll stay faithful to God and not give in to sexual temptation.
@ Mystdancer50
Thanks for your input. I'll continue to seek a Christian woman and aim for the ideal of marriage, not a "quick-fix" solution that isn't really of God.
Aaron
Thanks for your response. I'll read Romans chapter 1. I'm straight, but I guess I let myself get confused. I've never been a typical guy, and I've never had a significant girlfriend, so that's why I question my sexuality. Though, I'll stay faithful to God and not give in to sexual temptation.
@ Mystdancer50
Thanks for your input. I'll continue to seek a Christian woman and aim for the ideal of marriage, not a "quick-fix" solution that isn't really of God.
Aaron
C
I think its a fear of man issue. If a humble godly bloke who has taken enormous effort in todays society to stay pure for his wife (which is AWESOME!) has people around him accuse him of being gay etc he should stand his ground and be secure in Jesus as his identity and not feel shame for what hes worked to achieve.
Also, I find most people who harras you of anti cultural things you do are actually jealous of you. I deal with it all the time, its just another grain of salt in the beach of "religious weirdo" "old fashioned" and "Amish" insults I get. Blah blah blah...
I once dated a guy who came from a family that accused you of being homosexual if you graduated highschool. His family culture was filled with things like visiting a prostitute once you became legal, stealing something, smoking something illegal, only watching tv programs if it had decent violence in it and drinking bourbon every night. My ex on the other hand was a bit of black sheep, he was respected, he graduated highschool, went to college, became a black belt kung fu instructor and only drank Jim Beam on public holidays lol. Not to mention he dated me - what his family referred to as a "goody two shoes christian priss." The taunts I got were nothing compared to his. And you know what he did, he hardened up, ignored them and continued doing what he was doing, being an 'abnormal' yet respectable citizen of earth. And what made his family even more horrified was that he at least waited until he was in love with a woman before giving up his virginity at age 21 in comparison to giving it to a prostitute at age 16.
Also, I find most people who harras you of anti cultural things you do are actually jealous of you. I deal with it all the time, its just another grain of salt in the beach of "religious weirdo" "old fashioned" and "Amish" insults I get. Blah blah blah...
I once dated a guy who came from a family that accused you of being homosexual if you graduated highschool. His family culture was filled with things like visiting a prostitute once you became legal, stealing something, smoking something illegal, only watching tv programs if it had decent violence in it and drinking bourbon every night. My ex on the other hand was a bit of black sheep, he was respected, he graduated highschool, went to college, became a black belt kung fu instructor and only drank Jim Beam on public holidays lol. Not to mention he dated me - what his family referred to as a "goody two shoes christian priss." The taunts I got were nothing compared to his. And you know what he did, he hardened up, ignored them and continued doing what he was doing, being an 'abnormal' yet respectable citizen of earth. And what made his family even more horrified was that he at least waited until he was in love with a woman before giving up his virginity at age 21 in comparison to giving it to a prostitute at age 16.