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Broken people...but then, there was this movie once with an opening line about how the protagonist (well, 2nd-ish protagonist) "Loved flawed things"... Idk...I mean, we're all broken, really, but looking at my past girlfriends...yeah, most of them had several pretty deep issues. Only half were something like Christian...working on being Christian, maybe? ...is a way to put it...
They saw things in me (some of which I'm sure were Christ, and not me) that attracted them, and one of the good things about dating someone like that is the obviousness of what you need to help them with, and also a sort of 'need' they develop for you. It's nice to be committed to so deeply that a person feels they 'need' you in their life... *sigh* Anyway...
As far as height, age, and weight...I've had all types, and I'm a 6'5, 300lb, beareded, white man, so...it's hard to come across size issues with me unless you're intensely small or an amazon...
They saw things in me (some of which I'm sure were Christ, and not me) that attracted them, and one of the good things about dating someone like that is the obviousness of what you need to help them with, and also a sort of 'need' they develop for you. It's nice to be committed to so deeply that a person feels they 'need' you in their life... *sigh* Anyway...
As far as height, age, and weight...I've had all types, and I'm a 6'5, 300lb, beareded, white man, so...it's hard to come across size issues with me unless you're intensely small or an amazon...
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This is such a good question. I really don't know if I attract the wrong people constantly. What I do know is that I haven't made a real connection in years. Its seems like a good connection at first, then it ends up not being one. I am the type of person that gives women a fair chance, an opportunity to really get to know them. I keep an open mind. I don't go into it with any great expectations. I give it a chance and see where it goes. I will say that it seems much more difficult these days for me to aquire a relationship than when I was a younger man. I attribute that to the times that we live in. None the less I remain optimistic in my quest. Maybe one day I will be in a relationship again. Who knows what tomorrow may bring. By the way, good luck everyone in finding a mate that is good for you. God bless
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Things are looking up!!
To be fair some of the tee tollers literally forbid alcohol of any kind in the house, which is taking the verse about the weaker brother a bit too far.
Ultra conservative (Ie: trying to walk as Jesus walks?) Prudish (ie Maintaining purity?) Teetotoallers (Not being drunk with wine but being filled with the spirit?) if you aren't looking for that...
maybe you should not be looking for a christian?
just saying
maybe you should not be looking for a christian?
just saying
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Because some of these answers tell me this.. it looks like often times it's a spiritual thing.. I think someone also suggested that..but it really is.. one girl attracts bi polar.. I USED to attract addicts and needy guys and now I attract backslidden, agnostic or atheist.. the enemy of our souls knows our hearts desire that love of the opposite sex and thinks we are weak, using that weakness to try to deter us from our purposes..and to distract us from our callings and what He really wants for us. so.. I guess that we just stand, keep firm and above all guard our hearts!
so.. I guess that we just stand, keep firm and above all guard our hearts!
C
I disagree..
you have no idea how prevalent alcoholism is.. there are family curses that people can only beat with the Holy spirit living in them however, some people don't even know they have it until they have it in their face..
I personally wouldn't want to be the one to cause my brother to stumble.
Grace isn't supposed to be used to get away with what we can or to say "well I am allowed"
As paul said,alll things are lawful but not all things are profitable..
if you Lord your freedom over people at their expense.. or the expense of their failure.. that isn't love.
is alcohol something you have to have? really? why?
so maybe they didn't want it in their homes because maybe they had a past problem with alcohol..
maybe they have children and their children have alcohol issues..maybe their parents do or maybe they want to maintain a degree of "not letting the devil get a foothold" or "staying away from the appearance of evil.
is it loving to offend them by putting in their path?
On my praise team we are asked that if we drink AT ALL (and of course if we drank abundantly we wouldn't be on the praise team.. being filled with the spirit is more important)
to never drink around others to not bring shame upon the cross..
I don't keep it in my home as I have adult sons from a totally alcoholic family who are not living for God.
they know I do I am trying to live as an example to them..
what would they think if they saw their christian mother drinking when their father (my ex husband) is an alcoholic and they have that in their blood? (and they do...)
I drank a beer one time ..here at my apartment not knowing my son would stop by.. I left the can in trash here and he took my trash out for me.. and yes, he said something about it..
I am the only Jesus they see..it's not that important for me to drink..
I like a glass of wine..but if it may make someone else have an issue with me drinking it? I don't NEED it ..
same for men in my apartment.. I am a single woman living alone..I do not let men into my apartment. My ex never once came into my apartment the whole 3 1/2 months we dated..
never.
I have neighbors that see me going to church... I don't want them wondering what I am doing with men in my apartment..
so it didn't happen..
not like I had alot of dates but not even male friends.. My sons are different.. the neighbors know who my sons are especially when they with their loudness say MOM!
anyway it's all in ..do you think more highly of yourself than others? or like Christ, do you put others first?
you have no idea how prevalent alcoholism is.. there are family curses that people can only beat with the Holy spirit living in them however, some people don't even know they have it until they have it in their face..
I personally wouldn't want to be the one to cause my brother to stumble.
Grace isn't supposed to be used to get away with what we can or to say "well I am allowed"
As paul said,alll things are lawful but not all things are profitable..
if you Lord your freedom over people at their expense.. or the expense of their failure.. that isn't love.
is alcohol something you have to have? really? why?
so maybe they didn't want it in their homes because maybe they had a past problem with alcohol..
maybe they have children and their children have alcohol issues..maybe their parents do or maybe they want to maintain a degree of "not letting the devil get a foothold" or "staying away from the appearance of evil.
is it loving to offend them by putting in their path?
On my praise team we are asked that if we drink AT ALL (and of course if we drank abundantly we wouldn't be on the praise team.. being filled with the spirit is more important)
to never drink around others to not bring shame upon the cross..
I don't keep it in my home as I have adult sons from a totally alcoholic family who are not living for God.
they know I do I am trying to live as an example to them..
what would they think if they saw their christian mother drinking when their father (my ex husband) is an alcoholic and they have that in their blood? (and they do...)
I drank a beer one time ..here at my apartment not knowing my son would stop by.. I left the can in trash here and he took my trash out for me.. and yes, he said something about it..
I am the only Jesus they see..it's not that important for me to drink..
I like a glass of wine..but if it may make someone else have an issue with me drinking it? I don't NEED it ..
same for men in my apartment.. I am a single woman living alone..I do not let men into my apartment. My ex never once came into my apartment the whole 3 1/2 months we dated..
never.
I have neighbors that see me going to church... I don't want them wondering what I am doing with men in my apartment..
so it didn't happen..
not like I had alot of dates but not even male friends.. My sons are different.. the neighbors know who my sons are especially when they with their loudness say MOM!
anyway it's all in ..do you think more highly of yourself than others? or like Christ, do you put others first?
Ultra conservative (Ie: trying to walk as Jesus walks?) Prudish (ie Maintaining purity?) Teetotoallers (Not being drunk with wine but being filled with the spirit?) if you aren't looking for that...
maybe you should not be looking for a christian?
just saying
maybe you should not be looking for a christian?
just saying
ultra-conservative: politically, like tea party level
prudish: like wont even hold hands, hug, or kiss til marriage, this has happened more than once and its like really? I get more physical affection from friends than a girlfriend...im done
tee-totallers:
these were also only a few examples, but more prevalent ones then others
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Nautilus..
there are alot of christian couples who don't touch eachother..
friends and girlfriends are two different things.
While I don't think I could have a relationship where the guy didn't even hold my hand..
I understand why they wouldn't want to if they want to maintain purity.. until marriage.
you are a guy, you know what you feel..you know how much you feel it.. and the levels of some men's lack of self control is different. While I think a guy should be able to kiss me without getting nuts.. it doesn't always happen with men..
so maybe the girls that want to maintain that purity with you do it that way so they won't jump you.. I think I would have to do that if I was super attracted to a guy..
it's difficult.. but being pure is more important than fulfilling our fleshly desires don't you think? otherwise you get married
there are alot of christian couples who don't touch eachother..
friends and girlfriends are two different things.
While I don't think I could have a relationship where the guy didn't even hold my hand..
I understand why they wouldn't want to if they want to maintain purity.. until marriage.
you are a guy, you know what you feel..you know how much you feel it.. and the levels of some men's lack of self control is different. While I think a guy should be able to kiss me without getting nuts.. it doesn't always happen with men..
so maybe the girls that want to maintain that purity with you do it that way so they won't jump you.. I think I would have to do that if I was super attracted to a guy..
it's difficult.. but being pure is more important than fulfilling our fleshly desires don't you think? otherwise you get married
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The issue mostly lies within me.
I attract a lot of extroverts. Now there's nothing wrong with extroverts, but I like being quiet... unless I'm rocking out. The reason it's an issue: they think I'm mad or sad because I'm not saying anything, I don't like going out much, and I need a lot of me time.
Secondly, I'm too safe. I don't like trying new things most of the time. I will always order the same thing, and I don't like to try learning new skills, but rather expanding on what I already know. BORING, but comfortable. I attract a lot of risk takers.
I attract a lot of athiests. They're usually really friendly guys, but my faith is really important to me. I feel like if we aren't on the same spiritual page, we don't have a strong enough foundation for a successful relationship. So really, even if God never advised us to be equally yoked, I'd go for it anyway. It's common sense, ya?
I attract a lot of extroverts. Now there's nothing wrong with extroverts, but I like being quiet... unless I'm rocking out. The reason it's an issue: they think I'm mad or sad because I'm not saying anything, I don't like going out much, and I need a lot of me time.
Secondly, I'm too safe. I don't like trying new things most of the time. I will always order the same thing, and I don't like to try learning new skills, but rather expanding on what I already know. BORING, but comfortable. I attract a lot of risk takers.
I attract a lot of athiests. They're usually really friendly guys, but my faith is really important to me. I feel like if we aren't on the same spiritual page, we don't have a strong enough foundation for a successful relationship. So really, even if God never advised us to be equally yoked, I'd go for it anyway. It's common sense, ya?
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I can't say I have a habit of attracting the wrong people, but in my area prescription drug abuse is a big problem. There's been a lot of times I've had a girl really into me, and I like her too.......but then later find out she's got a nasty pill habit. I don't think it's a type I specifically attract though, it's just a local problem