Dating a Coworker
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J
Bad idea, especially if they are at a higher level in the company you work for. It's awkward to know the possibility of dating your would-be/manager and if anything went wrong then gossips are prone to happen that could taint your image. Plus I'm pretty sure there's policies about this issue where work relationships are prohibited in the same local company/store.
It's a 50-50 with regard to HR's opinion on relationships at the work place. There are some companies who incentivise employees to get married to their co-workers or to bring in their spouses - they view it as an effective barrier against employee turnover. The companies who don't encourage these practices fear that if anything goes wrong, then it could affect the productivity in the work place.
So, it really depends from company to company. But I agree with you, JonahLynx should check up on his company's HR policies on this matter.
So, it really depends from company to company. But I agree with you, JonahLynx should check up on his company's HR policies on this matter.
The only way I have ever seen this situation work out is when one leaves their job...........I know a few couples who met at work, started dating, ended up getting married......the only one that worked out is the one where the man left his job, got another. They are still married and quite happy.
There is a reason so very many companies have policies against co-workers dating.
There is a reason so very many companies have policies against co-workers dating.
J
Oh man.....So when I was younger I used to think what's the big deal. I mean you are with these individuals long periods of most days. However as I became the boss I have always discouraged it to all my employees and honestly up until a few years ago... I especially being the boss never crossed the line. Then I did...and it was great except you cant really discuss it with the other co-workers and it felt like you were lying all the time to everyone. Then came the fall out and WOWZA...thats never a good thing especially when they work for you. So I now stand with the whole IT IS A BAD IDEA!!!!!!!!
This is crucial. I know it's a bummer that corporate rules can mandate your social life, but this is important.
* In the last two companies I've worked for, if two people who are dating are in the same department, one will be transferred to another so they aren't working in the same area of the store.
* If one person is a manager and the other is of lower rank, the manager will be moved to another store.
* At my former company, trying to hide a dating situation that involved management/lower level worker can be grounds for termination.
I know it sounds ridiculous, but one of the reasons is that companies are trying to protect themselves in case someone accuses the other of sexual harassment or stalking. If you are wanting to advance in your career, your dating choices can make a big difference if you happen to fancy a co-worker.
And, I know we're all Christians here, but please guard yourself if you do date a co-worker (or whomever you date, for that matter.) We all know that mistakes can be made. I've heard several stories of people going out on a date, getting a too personal, and someone records it on their phone. The victim will usually be blackmailed or have their reputation, both personal and professional, completely ruined.
I have a manager who saw this happen at a different location--two employees there dated, things got personal, and the guy involved recorded it... and showed it to all the other guys at work.
The girl involved quit two days later.
* In the last two companies I've worked for, if two people who are dating are in the same department, one will be transferred to another so they aren't working in the same area of the store.
* If one person is a manager and the other is of lower rank, the manager will be moved to another store.
* At my former company, trying to hide a dating situation that involved management/lower level worker can be grounds for termination.
I know it sounds ridiculous, but one of the reasons is that companies are trying to protect themselves in case someone accuses the other of sexual harassment or stalking. If you are wanting to advance in your career, your dating choices can make a big difference if you happen to fancy a co-worker.
And, I know we're all Christians here, but please guard yourself if you do date a co-worker (or whomever you date, for that matter.) We all know that mistakes can be made. I've heard several stories of people going out on a date, getting a too personal, and someone records it on their phone. The victim will usually be blackmailed or have their reputation, both personal and professional, completely ruined.
I have a manager who saw this happen at a different location--two employees there dated, things got personal, and the guy involved recorded it... and showed it to all the other guys at work.
The girl involved quit two days later.
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I've had two incidences in which I dated co-workers and it turned into long-term relationships, but those places didn't have strict social policies.
At the place I currently work for, it would depend. Some managers who are dating co-workers have been transferred to stores 45 minutes away. He and I would have to decide how serious our relationship was (or how serious we wanted it to be) and what kind of sacrifices we were willing to make.
I wouldn't want someone to give up their entire surroundings unless we felt absolutely sure we were working on something with significant meaning.
At the place I currently work for, it would depend. Some managers who are dating co-workers have been transferred to stores 45 minutes away. He and I would have to decide how serious our relationship was (or how serious we wanted it to be) and what kind of sacrifices we were willing to make.
I wouldn't want someone to give up their entire surroundings unless we felt absolutely sure we were working on something with significant meaning.
J
Haha Exactly! I could imagine myself on date night being like... long time no see... or how has your day been? You know how it's been... 