Dating an older man: How old would you go?

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JesusLives

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Why Florida? Isnt it underwater?

Theres a new retirement village being built up the road from me. But I dont know about marrying someone whos retired and you are not..could be awkward. Honey I'm off to work oh but you can stay home and watch tv all day since you get the pension and I dont.

Once all the glaciers melt it will be....underwater that is.
 

Mel85

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Personally 9 yrs is the most I'd go when it comes to dating an older guy. Some say age doesn't matter if you love each other but in a way I think it does. Anyway pls feel free to give me your opinion. Thank you.
6 up, 3 down.
 

MsMediator

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I prefer men around my own age. I consider myself "young at heart" and less experienced in relationships, so I would prefer someone around my age and outlook going through the same stages in life. I would also want to view him more as a partner. If I marry an older man, how I view him will be different, maybe more a like a boss or something.
 

MsMediator

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I am 38. I married a woman older than me, when I was younger 20-30 I always dated girls in their 30s. Never got along with the brats my age. My older wife divorced me. I thought that older men were with young women because they had money and a yacht.

Then my wife leaves me at 31 and I start doing the single thing after a 7 year relationship. I started getting a lot of attention from young attractive women. And i just got more every year. Not all men get attention from younger women but I fit women's criteria generally, tall muscular fit have my life together. I am like their limited chance at an older guy like that and they shoot their shot. Younger women Cap about this so not to blow their cover to men their age who most of them will end up with.

I have girls half my age and 1/3my size who would love to date me. Pretty with wonderful personalities. Young men are unproven its not their fault but they flat out couldn't compete with me on a neutral playing field. Even guys who are studs. Nobody told me this and it wasn't my plan.

Some on line post I read called guys like me Silverbacks. He was saying how his 55yo boss picked up a 24yo hot girl and she ignored the op. If I wasn't Christian I could easily date girls in their early 20s when I am 55. But I want kids and not interested in waiting that long to prove a point.
You have to be careful. There is a real turn off for most girls about dating someone their father's age (unless she wants to make her parents upset). An older man in his 40s and 50s getting a woman in her 20s is not easy, because by that time you are reaching the age of women who would be your daughter's age. That's why society in general frowns upon this.
 

Kireina

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I am not looking lol but 15 years older is ok ....but honestly age is not a problem for me ☺️
 

Lynx

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I prefer men around my own age. I consider myself "young at heart" and less experienced in relationships, so I would prefer someone around my age and outlook going through the same stages in life. I would also want to view him more as a partner. If I marry an older man, how I view him will be different, maybe more a like a boss or something.
*Lynx pats MsMediator on the head in a patronizing manner and then sends her off to get his geritol and metamucil.
 

Lanolin

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I guess that we bailed out of Florida just in time. Once the glaciers melt our townhome in Clearwater would've been under water.
is Florida actually below sea level?

I know the Dutch just create new land in the Netherlands. Where, in your opinions is the best place/state to live in the US? I rememeber reading a travel book by Bill Bryson who went round the US and he always expressed a fondness for New England towns in the US like Asheville and New Hampshire. He was from Des Moines (Illinois?) and claimed he hated it as it was boring with nothing much to do there.
 

Lanolin

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You have to be careful. There is a real turn off for most girls about dating someone their father's age (unless she wants to make her parents upset). An older man in his 40s and 50s getting a woman in her 20s is not easy, because by that time you are reaching the age of women who would be your daughter's age. That's why society in general frowns upon this.
marry your daughter?

Um no. If you want kids, you dont marry one.
 

Lanolin

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Im not sure kids are a great thing to have. Kids have always seemed destructive and hard to look after to me.

Parents that have kids are always complaining about them, but they are kids! Kids are inherently wild and never do what you say anyway.
 

jennymae

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I just read about a 67 year old man and a 28 year old woman who now has a baby together. That’s some serious age difference.
 

Lanolin

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I just read about a 67 year old man and a 28 year old woman who now has a baby together. That’s some serious age difference.
I tend to feel uncomfortable around may to december romances. It all sounds so lovey dovey in the beginning. I dont know, people try not to judge but it so often ends up with problems a few years down the track.

Many have to sort out what happens at retirement age. Usually the younger wife has no say in any decisions and is then got the extra role of being nursemaid and caregiver to an old man. But if thats what she willingly signed up for then?
 

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is Florida actually below sea level?

I know the Dutch just create new land in the Netherlands. Where, in your opinions is the best place/state to live in the US? I rememeber reading a travel book by Bill Bryson who went round the US and he always expressed a fondness for New England towns in the US like Asheville and New Hampshire. He was from Des Moines (Illinois?) and claimed he hated it as it was boring with nothing much to do there.
No, where we lived it was about 5 feet above sea level.
 

Lanolin

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I am beginning to think all questions asked on this forum are actually trick questions or the start of jokes.
 

GaryA

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I am beginning to think all questions asked on this forum are actually trick questions or the start of jokes.
Some are tricky jokes - folks may or may not laugh...

Hey - we have to do something to help us keep our sanity. :p
 

GaryA

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I just read about a 67 year old man and a 28 year old woman who now has a baby together. That’s some serious age difference.
Yes, but does she have any unmarried sisters? :D

:LOL:

:whistle:

(JK)