Disputing Destiny

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AsifinPassing

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So, to preface: I don't often make threads unless intrigued by something specifically.

There seem to be many thoughts and feelings about things like 'destiny' 'fate' 'free will' and the like... which I find... entertaining, if not more.

As the title suggests, this is a place to give your opinion, describe your debate, and otherwise give us your thoughts on the whole matter.

If you're interested in mine...they'll likely become apparent through my responses, but then...perhaps they're not set.

So... Fatalism. Is there such thing as 'destiny' or 'fate'? Why or why not?
 

Tinkerbell725

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That was fast. Lol!

Yes there is such thing as destiny. You reach your destiny if you follow the path that God has set for you and when you make the right choices. If you make bad choices you might fail or it might take longer to reach your destiny. As to destiny in finding a spouse I believe God also gives you clues on who you will marry. This divine intervention often occurs to men. That's why I believe in love at first sight because I've heard stories from men themselves.
 

Lynx

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We would need to define terms before a definitive answer could be formed. What does one mean by "destiny?" What is "fate?"

God knows the end from the beginning because God made time and He is not subject to His own creation. That's why He can tell the prophets what will happen before it happens. (That's also why the Bible says at the end of this world time shall be no more - that was quite literal.) However God is also an active God. He does not set our future out and let it run. He is constantly and continuously involved in it. The choices we make can influence where we wind up.

AsifinPassing I saw a reference in the other thread to alternate realities. I gathered you were referring to the kind of parallel dimensions Star Trek uses, where a major choice results in a splitting of the continuum into two, one where the choice was made one way, the other where the choice was made the other way. While it might be fun to imagine another me who chose a different way, I think that would make any decision we have to make moot... because there's another reality where we're making the other decision, so it wouldn't really matter. In fact, if we assume multiple realities then one might argue we have an obligation to make BAD decisions, so the parallel universe versions of us would be free to enjoy the good decisions.
 

Lynx

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Side note: I'm not sure about this thread title... seems like throwing a chunk of fresh meat in the water to attract the BDF sharks. But I wouldn't at all mind being wrong. Maybe if we whisper they won't hear us in here.
 
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wwjd_kilden

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Destiny as in a detailed plan for my life? or as I am bound before birth to do/ experience so and such?

No. If that were the case, I would not be responsible for my sin, God would be, which would make God evil for threatening with hell for what He caused. So no, I don't believe in destiny.
 
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I think each person was born with a destiny determined by God, but in order to fulfill it we must believe in Him, not be afraid, and trust in Him through every trial.

Those are all hard to do so I think that many of us don't completely fulfill our destinies. In those cases, God probably assigns the destiny to someone else, and the following scripture applies to the stuff that didn't get done.....

If any man's work which he has built on it remains, he will receive a reward. If any man's work is burned up, he will suffer loss; but he himself will be saved, yet so as through fire.
(1 Corinthians 3:14-15)

BUT.....

There is also that scripture that says God will complete his work in you..

For I am confident of this very thing, that He who began a good work in you will perfect it until the day of Christ Jesus.
(Phillipians 1:6)


So I don't know. I guess I'm back where I started...
 
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Tinkerbell725

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As an example, the jews were destined see the promised land. It was their birth right. But did everyone reach that destiny? No because they keep on messing up. Only the righteous and obedient saw the promised land. Even Moses failed in that destiny. Same is true with us christians.
 

cinder

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Oh what a large and convoluted topic. For brevity's sake, I'm going to take as a given the idea that God is sovereign like a monarch and not like an author. He makes the laws, he sets up the system, he rules, and he knows that some people will choose to break the rules, but he is not irresistably forcing individual characters to do this or that in the course of their lives.

So to further define terms: Destiny as I have heard it used in church circles usually translates to something like "God has big, important, far reaching things for you to do. And if you step into your destiny, you'll influence leaders of countries and ministries and be famous because of God." There was a time I believed that line, but I've now come to see it as just putting a God dressing on the you're so special, self esteem preaching that is so prevalent in the world. I've come to believe that God doesn't call most people to do extraordinary things, but to do normal things in extraordinarily good and Godly ways (you know, consistently treat restaurant servers, and checkout people as human beings rather than functions, care about your neighbor and sacrifice a bit to help them, etc). So while I believe there is a way God wants us to live and character he wants us to develop, I don't generally see a certain set of circumstances as destined for individuals. Also worth noting that many cultures in the Bible and the majority of people in the world today live in communal cultures where the individual doesn't have a real identity apart from the group, and many promises and destinies in the Bible were corporate (to a church or a nation) not individual.

As to fate, I don't think I understood what it meant for people to believe in fate until I lived for 3 years in a culture where people really did. And the way I explained the rampant recklessness to make it understandable to my mind was "people don't believe that their actions and choices have an impact on what happens to them". Example: if you are in a traffic accident, it's because you are unlucky and it was fated to happen. It had nothing to do with your driving habits, or if you were intoxicated at the time, or the fact that you had your headlights off at night to conserve power (which did happen) or because they were broken. The practical upshot of this was a whole lot of time spent trying to curry favor with spirits who just might have the power to make you more lucky and keep bad things from happening.

Mostly I think part of our fallen nature is that we have a hard time dealing with our limited power. We don't like to be held responsible for what we have some ability to control and we are terrified when big things in life are beyond our control and want some way to ensure a pleasant outcome for ourselves.

Great topic.
 
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Siberian_Khatru

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"I don't believe in destiny
Or the guiding hand of fate..."
 
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Mitspa

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So, to preface: I don't often make threads unless intrigued by something specifically.

There seem to be many thoughts and feelings about things like 'destiny' 'fate' 'free will' and the like... which I find... entertaining, if not more.

As the title suggests, this is a place to give your opinion, describe your debate, and otherwise give us your thoughts on the whole matter.

If you're interested in mine...they'll likely become apparent through my responses, but then...perhaps they're not set.

So... Fatalism. Is there such thing as 'destiny' or 'fate'? Why or why not?
The biblical term predestination, is a interesting word... My understanding is that God has a predetermined path laid out for all those that will humble themselves unto His Will.
 

seoulsearch

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Mitspa beat me to it--I was going to say the the topic of "fate" or "destiny" sounds a lot like the concept of predestination. I have always heard the argument, "If God predetermines our paths, why bother working hard or making any kind of responsible decisions? After all, God has already decided my 'fate' and there's nothing I can do to change it. I might as well make the most of this life and have all the fun I can!!"

I personally don't believe in fate, destiny, or predestination as far as God giving us a strict mold that eliminates the need for good choices. I think life is more like a Choose Your Own Adventure Book in which yes, God may have a certain path He wants us to follow but He also gives us different choices and opportunities with which to get there. God wanted Jonah to go to Ninevah (some might argue it was his "destiny") but Jonah sure wasn't very willing to go there.

I do believe that God has an "idea" of what He wants us to be when He creates us. Have you ever created something yourself? A drawing, a painting, a song, or even a Lego playset? You, as the "creator", have an idea of what it's "meant" to be. You know what you want it to say or express; you know how you want people to feel when they see or hear it, and you have a purpose for making your creation. I believe we get all of this from God.

Let's use stem cells as a modern-day example. Now, from my limited understanding, the fascination with stem cells is that theoretically, they can be grown into, for example, various organs of the body that could be used for transplants, etc. Just think of how many people could be healed if we had the power to replace parts of the body that aren't functioning properly!

Now, let's say we have a scientist who has a group of stem cells that he has very specific plans for. Group 1 is going to be formed into a liver to save a sick child, Group 2 will be an new heart for a mother of 4 children, and Group 3 is going to replace the inner parts of the ears of a man who was born deaf.

What if, however, those groups had choices? And what if they were unaware of what the scientist wanted them to be? But let's say that they do know the best thing for them would be to make choices that will keep them strong and healthy.

So what happens if Groups 1 and 2 decided they wanted to take up smoking and drinking? And What if Group 3 rebels and says, "I don't know what I am, but a heart seems more important and gets more attention. I know I don't have the parts to be a heart, but I WANT to be a heart instead," and so it makes decisions that completely destroy its originally designed function.

In the end, neither group can change what it was initially made to be. But, if given free choice, they can all make decisions that will completely ruin the design that was originally given to them.

Now, why doesn't God always make it completely clear WHAT we are meant to be or WHO we're supposed to have in our lives along the way? My personal speculation is because that's a huge part of what makes up our relationship (our "walk") with Him along the way.

If we all had too clear of a vision of what we were and whom we were supposed to meet, there would be no need to seek Him out in the first place...

Maddening as it can be!! :eek:
 

AsifinPassing

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Let me begin by saying, thank you! Thank you, every one, for your responses, likes, and participation. I appreciate it; value your input; and will consider your point of view on the subject.

That being said, this response will be targeted at Lynx for several reasons. *details to follow*


We would need to define terms before a definitive answer could be formed. What does one mean by "destiny?" What is "fate?"

God knows the end from the beginning because God made time and He is not subject to His own creation. That's why He can tell the prophets what will happen before it happens. (That's also why the Bible says at the end of this world time shall be no more - that was quite literal.) However God is also an active God. He does not set our future out and let it run. He is constantly and continuously involved in it. The choices we make can influence where we wind up.

AsifinPassing I saw a reference in the other thread to alternate realities. I gathered you were referring to the kind of parallel dimensions Star Trek uses, where a major choice results in a splitting of the continuum into two, one where the choice was made one way, the other where the choice was made the other way. While it might be fun to imagine another me who chose a different way, I think that would make any decision we have to make moot... because there's another reality where we're making the other decision, so it wouldn't really matter. In fact, if we assume multiple realities then one might argue we have an obligation to make BAD decisions, so the parallel universe versions of us would be free to enjoy the good decisions.
Side note: I'm not sure about this thread title... seems like throwing a chunk of fresh meat in the water to attract the BDF sharks. But I wouldn't at all mind being wrong. Maybe if we whisper they won't hear us in here.
Definition of Terms:

des·ti·ny
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  • the events that will necessarily happen to a particular person or thing in the future.
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Destiny | Define Destiny at Dictionary.com

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DESTINY, n.
1. State or condition appointed or predetermined; ultimate fate; as, men are solicitous to know their future destiny, which is however happily concealed from them.2. Invincible necessity; fate; a necessity or fixed order of things established by a divine decree, or by an indissoluble connection of causes and effects.But who can turn the stream of destiny?Destinies, the fates, or supposed powers which preside over himan life, spin it out, and determine it; called by the Latins, parcae.
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*two links & two pasted definitions for a common point of origin, this is why we have dictionaries*

So, that out of the way..._______________________


I agree. God, being God, is transcendent of the limitations all created things face, and thus existent both without and within creation, such as the construct of time.

I also agree that He is ever-present and active in our lives (which immediately excludes me deism), and exists in each moment throughout the timeline simultaneously, while also apart from it all together (omnipotent, omniscient, & omnipresent).

*on the matter of multiple dimensions/the time-stream (or space-time continuum)*

A few helpful visualizations:





A 'Reecian' quote (*term Reecian referring to originating from me): "Life is a complex dance of choice & consequence."


I hear what you're saying, but as someone who does not believe in the divine directive of fate or destiny, I see each varying choice in an endlessly complex series (such as a flowchart or tree) of possibilities which define 'reality'. For example, I agree that dwelling on 'what ifs' is a moot point. That being said, in an alternate stream of possibility, Hitler didn't exist or existed differently than how present history remembers him.

(*side-note: One really doesn't think of such things until considering the possibility and consequences of time travel.)

So, that being said, every choice is completely your own to make with a near infinite amount of possibilities, both in the choosing and in the outcome (or consequence) of that choice. No person is 'forced' or 'inescapably bound' to choose anything or arrive at a certain destination. In this regard, 'fate' is nothing more than a title for the series of choices and consequences a person made (the saying 'creating your own destiny' or 'choosing your own fate'). Which, in essence, completely dismantles the concept of 'fate' or 'destiny' in being something chosen for you beyond your control.


Such is the thinking behind the idiom, "We are who we choose to be."


Why does this matter?

Firstly, Each choice one make impacts not only oneself, but the events of time, space, and the history of the world. Hitler is a good example. What if He had found Christ and chosen to forgive? What would the world be like now? Such things should be considered in one's own life and choosing. What is the best choice for me to make in each situation given my limited knowledge of its far-reaching consequences.


Secondly, your belief on this particular topic (or any other given ideology or philosophy) will shape your words and actions...and even choices (though choices can change, as can thoughts, feelings, actions, etc). So, instead of creating another 'Do you believe in Soul Mates?' thread... I'd rather hear your broader belief about 'destiny' or 'fate'.

Why do I want to know? Maybe I'll find some new truth which will change my views, or someone else will. That, in turn, can change many other things. Besides which, it's just interesting, and helps us try or seek to further understand each other and the world we live in.

*This concludes Response #1 from me.*
 
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Lynx

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Well since you set this kettle of fish to brewing AsifinPassing, here's another thought for you. What about destiny as a set of end-points defined by starting conditions? If you set a ball at the top of an inclined plane its destiny is to roll down the plane - unless of course some external force intervenes.

What I'm thinking about is the difference between a senator's child and a kid raised in the projects by a single parent. Both are kids but both don't have the same opportunities. While the end-point of each is not set in stone, the choices are much more limited for the poor kid.
 
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I dislike the terms "destiny" and "fate." Both are based on some pagan ideas...fate especially. The "Fates" in ancient Greek and Roman mythology were women who continuously spun...each thread representing someone's life. They controlled the nature of the thread and controlled when it was cut off. The Oedipus Cycle (particularly the first play) really deals with the Greek understanding of Fate as something completely unavoidable. (Oedipus's parents try to manipulate circumstances to avoid a prophecy, only to have it come to fruition anyway, and lead Oedipus's eventual ruin).

I think a more Christian understanding of this concept is the idea of Providence. We all experience the general providence of God as he continues his work on the earth (for example, we all experience the benefits of sunshine and rain, the renewal of nature, the renewal of our own bodies through the death and recreation of cells, the benefits of medical progress, increase of literacy, etc. These are all examples of general providence available to all). We also experience special providence from God when he intervenes in our lives in a significant way (sometimes in the form of miracles, sometimes in just really individualized God-moments). So, I experienced special providence from God when he made a way for me to attend the college I attended, when he led me to the house I now own, etc. My parents experienced God's special providence when he allowed for them to meet on a blind date.

I'm not a "fatalist" in the sense that I believe all our steps are planned out and we have no control, or option but to walk in these predetermined steps. However, I do believe that God has much good planned for us and we will miss out on his best if we go our own way.
 

Blain

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Thank goodness this was not posted in the bdf. I think the answer is not if we believe in free wills power or if things are already set up before we are born I think the answer is the question of if everything is predestined then certain ppl are doomed to hell the second they are born. also our understanding of who God is plays a major part in this, a loving father who deeply loves and cares about us- does this sound like the hell predestined view?

if free will is an illusion and we are all predestined the our lives our choices our hurt out joy all of it is meaningless because we are already set to a certain eternity.
 
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coby

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Not fate or destiny, but His vision, His plan for your life to be changed and get the harvest in.
He called my ex and I and He had a vision, calling and we ruined it and I thought now His plan was gone, but it's not.