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the philosophical and theological ramifications of this question are thick within the Christian community.
A lot of people believe in seeing a sign or getting a dream as to who their "One" will be.
In a normal relationship, character is demonstrated over time and trust is earned. There is no easy or quick way around this. People start from the ground up because they enjoy each other's company. This leads to trust and commitment eventually. Its a road that must be travelled.
When we seek a shortcut to "Know" who is the one without taking the time and effort to earn their trust or see the long term fruit of their character, we shortchange ourselves out of the foundation for a long term relationship.
This is especially problematic in Christian communities where I live. Women and men go on a date or two, pray hard and wait for a sign. We have the bible, we know what the truth is about what a Christian life should look like. But people want to trade living out a Godly relationship for the instant gratification of having the proof before the relationship could possibly let them know if it will last.
As a man who does not do this or think this way, it is especially frustrating. I believe in the Character and the nature of a relationship between Christians, as being the proof in and of itself. But this isn't something that happens overnight. There is no quick answer. And people make mistakes and there are arguments and life happens. Just because who you are dating is a human being, shouldn't mean they are undateable.
This subculture of finding the one, through supernatural predestination, has been the biggest obstacle for me in finding a good relationship.
I haven't had a long term relationship in at least 4 years. Its as if no one is willing to be in a relationship because they enjoy the company of someone. Everyone wants to have the proof of their inevitable wedding cake instantly, rather than growing with someone, together establishing the relationship as virtuous and right, from the very beginning.
Anyways, thats my 2 pence.
A lot of people believe in seeing a sign or getting a dream as to who their "One" will be.
In a normal relationship, character is demonstrated over time and trust is earned. There is no easy or quick way around this. People start from the ground up because they enjoy each other's company. This leads to trust and commitment eventually. Its a road that must be travelled.
When we seek a shortcut to "Know" who is the one without taking the time and effort to earn their trust or see the long term fruit of their character, we shortchange ourselves out of the foundation for a long term relationship.
This is especially problematic in Christian communities where I live. Women and men go on a date or two, pray hard and wait for a sign. We have the bible, we know what the truth is about what a Christian life should look like. But people want to trade living out a Godly relationship for the instant gratification of having the proof before the relationship could possibly let them know if it will last.
As a man who does not do this or think this way, it is especially frustrating. I believe in the Character and the nature of a relationship between Christians, as being the proof in and of itself. But this isn't something that happens overnight. There is no quick answer. And people make mistakes and there are arguments and life happens. Just because who you are dating is a human being, shouldn't mean they are undateable.
This subculture of finding the one, through supernatural predestination, has been the biggest obstacle for me in finding a good relationship.
I haven't had a long term relationship in at least 4 years. Its as if no one is willing to be in a relationship because they enjoy the company of someone. Everyone wants to have the proof of their inevitable wedding cake instantly, rather than growing with someone, together establishing the relationship as virtuous and right, from the very beginning.
Anyways, thats my 2 pence.
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Adam had a need because there was no one else. That doesn't prove anything.
1) I'm not a boy. So don't be rude
2) I don't really think i need you to 'correct' me when you have no verifiable evidence to support your Opinion.
3) And you don't know me, so what makes you think you have any right to tell me i'm closed minded and closed to God's spirit? Stop judging.
1) I'm not a boy. So don't be rude
2) I don't really think i need you to 'correct' me when you have no verifiable evidence to support your Opinion.
3) And you don't know me, so what makes you think you have any right to tell me i'm closed minded and closed to God's spirit? Stop judging.
My opinion is supported by Scripture as I have shown, and, let me be blunt, all you have done is slag it off without reference to anything but YOUR own myopic opinion!
"my boy" is an expression used in the UK by one male to another without any reference to age, so maybe you need to broaden your horizons and get rid of your "attitude," fellow!
I don't need to know you to know that you are closed minded, it is glaringly obvious, is that blunt enough for you, dude (I think being a yank, you should understand the meaning of "dude" or do you need that explained as well)!
And lastly, your opinion is wrong!
"my boy" is an expression used in the UK by one male to another without any reference to age, so maybe you need to broaden your horizons and get rid of your "attitude," fellow!
I don't need to know you to know that you are closed minded, it is glaringly obvious, is that blunt enough for you, dude (I think being a yank, you should understand the meaning of "dude" or do you need that explained as well)!
And lastly, your opinion is wrong!
God tends to give to people who don't desire or feel entitled to much.
When we let go of wanting something really bad, we let go of all the negativity that comes with our desire. Therefore, we free our minds up to focus on giving and compassion, and those things are attractive qualities, that coincidentally, tend to attract giving, compassionate people. AKA wife material.
When we let go of wanting something really bad, we let go of all the negativity that comes with our desire. Therefore, we free our minds up to focus on giving and compassion, and those things are attractive qualities, that coincidentally, tend to attract giving, compassionate people. AKA wife material.