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God has as detailed a plan for you as you allow him to have
I have seen friends (christian ones) tell God that the choice is non of His business; the result was not good
one broken marriage and 2 broken engagements
somepeople will say WHAT IF she marries someone else and you are left hanging
the have a very small God
God can foresee all the eventualities
I have seen friends (christian ones) tell God that the choice is non of His business; the result was not good
one broken marriage and 2 broken engagements
somepeople will say WHAT IF she marries someone else and you are left hanging
the have a very small God
God can foresee all the eventualities
Yeah Greatkraw what if she does? What if she decides to rebel against God and marry someone else? Unless you believe God controls people like robots, then it is a possibility. I've known of women holding on for one guy for 10 years because they believe they are the right person and God told them so, meanwhile the guy is married and having a happy family.
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I'd think you would know in advance that she isn't the right one. While seeing each other, shouldn't it become clear if you can get along? If not, I think you sometimes have to make a brave choice and choose not to continue your 'normal' life
Sometimes the same fear catches me, but then again, I have to show more trust in God...
Sometimes the same fear catches me, but then again, I have to show more trust in God...
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I believe God does have that perfect someone out there for each of us. But we have to seek his will and help in finding that person.. He does not just place everything in our path for us. Sometimes he wants us to seek him for the answers. We may not always like the answers he gives us, but if we listen we will be happier in the end. He knows what is best for us. I know I have seen what I thought was love and God's will walk away. It hurt so bad, but when I look back at it now, I know it was God protecting me from something that would have been far worst for me later on down the road. So Seek his will and guidence he knows best. He has a plan, we just have to wait on his perfect timing.
My view on this is two-fold: I think that God definitely brings people together, especially when both are willing to trust and follow Him. However, I don't believe that He will simply do all the "matchmaking", while the man and woman simply wait around. If God did all the work for us, how would that serve to teach us anything? I think that God expects us to trust Him, and be mindful of what His will is in this regard, but He also wants us to be active in our search for a spouse. That doesn't mean we join the "bar-hopping" scene or anything like that, but we can't just do nothing and hope a wife or husband will magicaly appear in our doorway.
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I believe God works within teh choices you make and the people you bring yourself to meet. If you choose to move to a certain city, and then those are the potential people God works with on some level, and he can work in yours and someone elses lives to bring you closer to him and to each other. And his plans are fluid in my mind in a way i guess, if the person he wants you with makes a descision that effects that outcome i think he changes it and brings another person to you...I have seen people wait years though cause they think they are supposed to be with someone even though tehy were taken. Its at the point in my mind where they should move on.
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Okay, so this might be long, in which case, you can skip to the end to see my point.
I would like to tell you a story. My father had a good job as a stagehand/janitor at a school. This job gave him the ability to support his family. One day, the faculty at this school decided to put on a ballet. This stupid ballet required my dad to do things that were beyond his capability. Thus, without having a backup plan, he quit his job after ten years. He was jobless, with a family, and had no idea what to do next. He found a maintenance job at an apartment complex 400 miles away. Being the first good job he could find, we left the nice house we had in Wyoming, and moved to Montana. This job was not as good as it looked at first, so we moved six months later to another, significantly smaller town (and I’m talking small, about 300 people) in Montana, this time for a mechanic job, even though my dad had no real experience as a mechanic. Now, during this time, the church in this small town was without a pastor, because their old pastor had recently moved to Billings Montana (the largest city in Montana). There were many pastoral candidates, my father one of them, but in the end, he was not chosen. At the induction ceremony of the chosen candidate, my father met the leader of this church’s district. About a year later, a new church started up in the fifth largest city in Montana (then it was about 30,000 people). The district leader called my dad, asking if he could preach, it was a 150-mile drive every Sunday, and most of the time in Montana, there’s ice. But we went none-the-less. Long story short, my father was the chosen pastor for this church, and he still is pastor to this day. About ten years ago, when my sisters and I were young enough to still be in youth group, one of them met a guy that a few years later, became her boyfriend, and a couple more years later, became her husband. My other sister did the same thing. Now, they both have children, and who knows what the Lord will do through these kids. Now, what if my sisters’ husbands had never gone to youth group? Or what if our church didn’t have a youth group? What if my dad wasn’t chosen as the pastor? What if he had never met the district leader? What if my dad were chosen as the pastor of the church in the small town? What if he really liked the mechanic job, and refused to preach for the absent pastor? What if the previous pastor didn’t move away? What if my dad really liked the job at the apartment complex? What if my dad didn’t leave his job in Wyoming? What if some teacher didn’t want to put on some stupid ballet?
I truly believe that my nieces and nephews are alive today, because God put the notion in some teacher’s head to put on a stupid ballet that would make my dad leave his job.
My point is this, and I know it’s a really cliché phrase, but The Lord works in mysterious ways, often through unforeseeable chain events that ultimately lead to His plan. I know this pushes on the borders of Calvinism, but I truly believe that God knows about anything that’s going down in the future. My father acted completely and utterly under his own free will, but God knew all too well what my father’s choices would be, and saw that it would lead to His plan. It was not this teacher’s plan to put on a ballet, so that my nieces and nephews could be born, but that’s what God did with this notion.
There’s no way that we can know God’s plan. He may plan for us to remain single. He may plan for all of us to get married, and if that is truly the desire of your heart, try for it. Even if it’s not His plan, He can work out His plan through your failed attempts. This may sound discouraging, but it should be encouraging knowing that you’re still serving an ultimate plan, regardless of what you do. And, it’s even more comforting to know that you’re not only serving His plan, but also His will when you do all things to glorify Him. If you’re going to have a marriage that will glorify God, He has already set in motion the events that will lead you to it. If not, then do all things to glorify Him.
I would like to tell you a story. My father had a good job as a stagehand/janitor at a school. This job gave him the ability to support his family. One day, the faculty at this school decided to put on a ballet. This stupid ballet required my dad to do things that were beyond his capability. Thus, without having a backup plan, he quit his job after ten years. He was jobless, with a family, and had no idea what to do next. He found a maintenance job at an apartment complex 400 miles away. Being the first good job he could find, we left the nice house we had in Wyoming, and moved to Montana. This job was not as good as it looked at first, so we moved six months later to another, significantly smaller town (and I’m talking small, about 300 people) in Montana, this time for a mechanic job, even though my dad had no real experience as a mechanic. Now, during this time, the church in this small town was without a pastor, because their old pastor had recently moved to Billings Montana (the largest city in Montana). There were many pastoral candidates, my father one of them, but in the end, he was not chosen. At the induction ceremony of the chosen candidate, my father met the leader of this church’s district. About a year later, a new church started up in the fifth largest city in Montana (then it was about 30,000 people). The district leader called my dad, asking if he could preach, it was a 150-mile drive every Sunday, and most of the time in Montana, there’s ice. But we went none-the-less. Long story short, my father was the chosen pastor for this church, and he still is pastor to this day. About ten years ago, when my sisters and I were young enough to still be in youth group, one of them met a guy that a few years later, became her boyfriend, and a couple more years later, became her husband. My other sister did the same thing. Now, they both have children, and who knows what the Lord will do through these kids. Now, what if my sisters’ husbands had never gone to youth group? Or what if our church didn’t have a youth group? What if my dad wasn’t chosen as the pastor? What if he had never met the district leader? What if my dad were chosen as the pastor of the church in the small town? What if he really liked the mechanic job, and refused to preach for the absent pastor? What if the previous pastor didn’t move away? What if my dad really liked the job at the apartment complex? What if my dad didn’t leave his job in Wyoming? What if some teacher didn’t want to put on some stupid ballet?
I truly believe that my nieces and nephews are alive today, because God put the notion in some teacher’s head to put on a stupid ballet that would make my dad leave his job.
My point is this, and I know it’s a really cliché phrase, but The Lord works in mysterious ways, often through unforeseeable chain events that ultimately lead to His plan. I know this pushes on the borders of Calvinism, but I truly believe that God knows about anything that’s going down in the future. My father acted completely and utterly under his own free will, but God knew all too well what my father’s choices would be, and saw that it would lead to His plan. It was not this teacher’s plan to put on a ballet, so that my nieces and nephews could be born, but that’s what God did with this notion.
There’s no way that we can know God’s plan. He may plan for us to remain single. He may plan for all of us to get married, and if that is truly the desire of your heart, try for it. Even if it’s not His plan, He can work out His plan through your failed attempts. This may sound discouraging, but it should be encouraging knowing that you’re still serving an ultimate plan, regardless of what you do. And, it’s even more comforting to know that you’re not only serving His plan, but also His will when you do all things to glorify Him. If you’re going to have a marriage that will glorify God, He has already set in motion the events that will lead you to it. If not, then do all things to glorify Him.
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nothing is luck
if you don't have any women in your circle where you live eat, go to church, work, go to school, then you will have to meet one elsewhere, but if you are able find one that you value the way God has made her, her abilities, her gifts, her feelings, and the blessing that she is to you, to the world and to herself
if you are set in what you want then it will be really difficult for you to change, but if you are able then there are lots of unmarried women in this world who would be more than happy to love and grow and live life with a humble man
if you don't have any women in your circle where you live eat, go to church, work, go to school, then you will have to meet one elsewhere, but if you are able find one that you value the way God has made her, her abilities, her gifts, her feelings, and the blessing that she is to you, to the world and to herself
if you are set in what you want then it will be really difficult for you to change, but if you are able then there are lots of unmarried women in this world who would be more than happy to love and grow and live life with a humble man
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I actually make a topic about something similar just a few months ago...
When it was explained to me, this way of thinking was the "Dot" theory, which I really don't believe in. I think that God has a variety of choices for us to choose, and we don't have to fret about marrying "the wrong woman" or anything. We just have to make sure that the one we end up with is one of the right ones ^_^
When it was explained to me, this way of thinking was the "Dot" theory, which I really don't believe in. I think that God has a variety of choices for us to choose, and we don't have to fret about marrying "the wrong woman" or anything. We just have to make sure that the one we end up with is one of the right ones ^_^
This is the only part that I disagree with in your post. I firmly believe we can know God's plan. Otherwise, how can we be expected to follow and obey Him fully? I believe that we ask Him and He tells us. He may not tell everything in one moment, but He does tell you what you need to know in that season. I think the real issue is that most often it's not what we want and so we claim that we don't know His will, when we really and truly do. Just my opinion. 