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This is coming from my own very different perspective lol, but if my girlfriend presented me with this list, I would probably ask her to show herself out XD. Not that girls/women don't deserve most of these things, they absolutely do, but it should come from a natural place of love and respect, not from any sense of entitlement, expectation, or demand.
K
Im going to speak here as someone who is married...I hope that is ok. Setapartgirl if you are dating men that dont naturally treat you with respect,you are dating the wrong guy. If you arent free to make choices,you are in a abusive relationship,get out. You are always free to say and do whatever you please but it wont work long in a relationship.If you want to be in a happy relationship you need to learn to bite you tongue at times,even when you think you're right.You certainly deserve fidelity as does he. Your partner should be your priority after God,yes that is true for both partners. As far as pursuing that would be a personal choice.I want a man that pursues me,and he did,but like a gentleman.
As to being treated like a queen that depends on your meaning.To me that means a man who opens doors for you,pulls out your chair for you,listens when you speak, and enjoys the little things in life with you. If you mean a man that showers you with gifts and candies and compliments,well that man is going to be hard to find. The same with being spoiled. That type of relationship doesnt last long and isn't realistic.
You may want to whine but you'll get a lot more from a man if you are direct with what you need. No man wants a baby in a relationship. Tears are for little girls.A mature woman knows how to approach a man and logically tell him what she needs.Both partners should love each other unconditionally but there are days you wont feel like it,but you do anyway. Both partners should give the same amount of effort 110% both ways. Otherwise one will feel cheated.
To your last few points...If your partner doesnt let you know you are beautiful you are with the wrong man.Personally if I wear something my partner doesn't like Id like to know,in a nice way.Usually your partner knows what suits you best,they see you all the time. It doesnt bother me if my partner says "that just doesnt look right on you". Every woman does deserve a Godly man but they arent easy to find if you are looking in the wrong places.And you have to be mature enough yourself to see and appreciate such a man. Choose carefully who you have a relationship with. The more bad relationships you have the harder it is to appreciate a good Godly man. Just my ten cents...
S
Yeah it is hard, i thougth i found Him, but maybe God really have to break us apart because we are not meant to be, and yeah i was in a roller coaster emotion, so its not really healthy, a queen i did not mean material things, but to shower me with love and respect and you are right, i dated wrong men, thought they are good becausenthey are christian, but maybe God really wants me to be single, to focus on Him than searching for love to void the emptiness inside me. Thank you
K
I was in my 40s when I got married.You have plenty of time to find the right man for you.And no,being a Christian doesn't mean that person is right for you.I know a lot of Christian men I wouldnt want to be married to. Personality counts too.Not everyone is a match.Relax,take your time and enjoy life.The right person will come along when you least expect it.Dont worry about finding and dating,just let God show you.You'll be happy you did.
S
I'll second this as someone who has been married. Besides, getting married won't make you any happier of a person and if you look to that other person for your happiness, they will fail you miserably. Your joy has to come from within - from the Lord. Focus on becoming the person He wants you to be. Renew your mind and be transformed. (Rom 12:2)
S
Yeah you are right, maybe it all started from worrying my biological clock, i feel like old and i am just 28, or maybe because i was pressured by the people around me to get marry, because i am getting old, and i think they are not healthy people to be with, that's why i went into date craze hahaha, i just want to laugh about it, but yeah i should talk to God and have faith that He will send me the right one, and dont let the peer pressure goes to my head. Thank you
S
Yeah it is hard, i thougth i found Him, but maybe God really have to break us apart because we are not meant to be, and yeah i was in a roller coaster emotion, so its not really healthy, a queen i did not mean material things, but to shower me with love and respect and you are right, i dated wrong men, thought they are good becausenthey are christian, but maybe God really wants me to be single, to focus on Him than searching for love to void the emptiness inside me. Thank you
M
I don't think her list is that bad. Basically she just wants respect. She's probably been through something traumatic.
My grandmother was beat up constantly by my grandfather. He even hit my mom when she was a child. He is passed on now, but I think a woman needs to learn to be respected. My grandmother just took it and put herself and her children in a very dangerous place.
I see a lot of women and men putting themselves in abusive relationships. They think that they cannot do better and submit to constant verbal, emotional, and physical abuse. If more women/men expected to be treated by some of Setapartgirl's points, maybe we wouldn't have so many people who are in abusive relationships. Or people whose children are abused!
Some of the points are a little much like personally I don't think women should whine and I don't think they should be treated like Queens or for them to be able to say whatever they like. I think those three points are Biblically inaccurate. But I like the rest of them!
Also, this list applies to everyone, not just women. Everyone should be respected and like others said, we should be humble servants of God who are willing to serve one another with self-sacrifice.
Just for you all to know my granddad accepted Jesus Christ right before he died, so I that's some good news!
My grandmother was beat up constantly by my grandfather. He even hit my mom when she was a child. He is passed on now, but I think a woman needs to learn to be respected. My grandmother just took it and put herself and her children in a very dangerous place.
I see a lot of women and men putting themselves in abusive relationships. They think that they cannot do better and submit to constant verbal, emotional, and physical abuse. If more women/men expected to be treated by some of Setapartgirl's points, maybe we wouldn't have so many people who are in abusive relationships. Or people whose children are abused!
Some of the points are a little much like personally I don't think women should whine and I don't think they should be treated like Queens or for them to be able to say whatever they like. I think those three points are Biblically inaccurate. But I like the rest of them!
Also, this list applies to everyone, not just women. Everyone should be respected and like others said, we should be humble servants of God who are willing to serve one another with self-sacrifice.
Just for you all to know my granddad accepted Jesus Christ right before he died, so I that's some good news!
S
I don't think her list is that bad. Basically she just wants respect. She's probably been through something traumatic.
My grandmother was beat up constantly by my grandfather. He even hit my mom when she was a child. He is passed on now, but I think a woman needs to learn to be respected. My grandmother just took it and put herself and her children in a very dangerous place.
I see a lot of women and men putting themselves in abusive relationships. They think that they cannot do better and submit to constant verbal, emotional, and physical abuse. If more women/men expected to be treated by some of Setapartgirl's points, maybe we wouldn't have so many people who are in abusive relationships. Or people whose children are abused!
Some of the points are a little much like personally I don't think women should whine and I don't think they should be treated like Queens or for them to be able to say whatever they like. I think those three points are Biblically inaccurate. But I like the rest of them!
Also, this list applies to everyone, not just women. Everyone should be respected and like others said, we should be humble servants of God who are willing to serve one another with self-sacrifice.
Just for you all to know my granddad accepted Jesus Christ right before he died, so I that's some good news!
My grandmother was beat up constantly by my grandfather. He even hit my mom when she was a child. He is passed on now, but I think a woman needs to learn to be respected. My grandmother just took it and put herself and her children in a very dangerous place.
I see a lot of women and men putting themselves in abusive relationships. They think that they cannot do better and submit to constant verbal, emotional, and physical abuse. If more women/men expected to be treated by some of Setapartgirl's points, maybe we wouldn't have so many people who are in abusive relationships. Or people whose children are abused!
Some of the points are a little much like personally I don't think women should whine and I don't think they should be treated like Queens or for them to be able to say whatever they like. I think those three points are Biblically inaccurate. But I like the rest of them!
Also, this list applies to everyone, not just women. Everyone should be respected and like others said, we should be humble servants of God who are willing to serve one another with self-sacrifice.
Just for you all to know my granddad accepted Jesus Christ right before he died, so I that's some good news!
and i am happy for your grandfather