Failed relationship

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Layo4

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Apr 3, 2020
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Hello i'm new here.
I have this phobia for love, relationship. The fear that it will come to an end soon and it has cost me my relationship. I broke up with my boyfriend recently because of fear. Now i regret everything that has happened and he doesn't seems to want me back... I'm heartbroken and depressed😔😔😔
 

Subhumanoidal

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Sep 17, 2018
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Hello i'm new here.
I have this phobia for love, relationship. The fear that it will come to an end soon and it has cost me my relationship. I broke up with my boyfriend recently because of fear. Now i regret everything that has happened and he doesn't seems to want me back... I'm heartbroken and depressed😔😔😔
Love is risk. Period. There is no safe love. So you have to decide Before you even consider a relationship if you are willing to take that risk. If not then avoid romance completely.
Relationships will always bring about some kind of pain. But deciding if the good outweighs the bad is what determines your choices.
And it's no surprise he won't take you back. Your fears hurt him, and if you did that once more than likely you'll do it to him again. The risk of loving someone who could run at any moment is a great one. And rarely does it work out.
So for now I would avoid relationships and do a lot of introspection. You're better off alone than repeating that behavior. Maybe over time you can work through the fears and be ready to try again. But for now it's best to work on yourself.
 

Roughsoul1991

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Sep 17, 2016
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Hello i'm new here.
I have this phobia for love, relationship. The fear that it will come to an end soon and it has cost me my relationship. I broke up with my boyfriend recently because of fear. Now i regret everything that has happened and he doesn't seems to want me back... I'm heartbroken and depressed😔😔😔
Failure is only the opportunity to begin again, only this time more wisely.”
— Henry Ford

If you dont start or try then you fail anyways. You are still depressed no matter the outcome. Unfortunately love is risky. We make ourselves vulnerable all for the sake of needing to feel wanted, loved, and most of us dream of a family. Dating involves failure. Failure can be good. It can show you who isnt right for you. Statistically it will be the man chasing you anyways so more than likely it would be you anyways to end it.
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You can see it in yourself as a phobia. The fear of failure is automatically making you fail.

So reimagine dating. Go into dating seeking that husband or great father to your kids. Dont settle for less. This is what dating is for. To test the waters per say. To filter out the harmful bacteria. To make sure you are putting yourself in the most healthy position to build a serious relationship.

But even if a serious relationship does fail. Learn from it and keep moving forward. There are many fish in the sea and someone for everyone.

But you have actually try and have a relationship. Dont go into it with the mindset of failure. Go into it with the mindset of marriage. With that bar so high, the failure will more than likely feel like you dodged a bullet rather than blaming yourself.

Live, enjoy life. We cannot do life alone. We are here on Earth for only a short time. Dont let the fear of failure stop you from the will of God for your life.
 

Lanolin

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Dec 15, 2018
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Let God mend your broken heart. Give it to Him and cultivate a relationship with Jesus. I guarantee that one will never fail. as His love never fails.
 

Layo4

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Apr 3, 2020
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Wow i'm real
Failure is only the opportunity to begin again, only this time more wisely.”
— Henry Ford

If you dont start or try then you fail anyways. You are still depressed no matter the outcome. Unfortunately love is risky. We make ourselves vulnerable all for the sake of needing to feel wanted, loved, and most of us dream of a family. Dating involves failure. Failure can be good. It can show you who isnt right for you. Statistically it will be the man chasing you anyways so more than likely it would be you anyways to end it.
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You can see it in yourself as a phobia. The fear of failure is automatically making you fail.

So reimagine dating. Go into dating seeking that husband or great father to your kids. Dont settle for less. This is what dating is for. To test the waters per say. To filter out the harmful bacteria. To make sure you are putting yourself in the most healthy position to build a serious relationship.

But even if a serious relationship does fail. Learn from it and keep moving forward. There are many fish in the sea and someone for everyone.

But you have actually try and have a relationship. Dont go into it with the mindset of failure. Go into it with the mindset of marriage. With that bar so high, the failure will more than likely feel like you dodged a bullet rather than blaming yourself.

Live, enjoy life. We cannot do life alone. We are here on Earth for only a short time. Dont let the fear of failure stop you from the will of God for your life.
I'm really grateful for this😩😩 thank you very much.
 

Layo4

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Apr 3, 2020
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Let God mend your broken heart. Give it to Him and cultivate a relationship with Jesus. I guarantee that one will never fail. as His love never fails.

Thank you very much ❤
 

Layo4

New member
Apr 3, 2020
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#7
Love is risk. Period. There is no safe love. So you have to decide Before you even consider a relationship if you are willing to take that risk. If not then avoid romance completely.
Relationships will always bring about some kind of pain. But deciding if the good outweighs the bad is what determines your choices.
And it's no surprise he won't take you back. Your fears hurt him, and if you did that once more than likely you'll do it to him again. The risk of loving someone who could run at any moment is a great one. And rarely does it work out.
So for now I would avoid relationships and do a lot of introspection. You're better off alone than repeating that behavior. Maybe over time you can work through the fears and be ready to try again. But for now it's best to work on yourself.
Thank you very much 😔❤