Falling In Love Again

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Ella85

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So it's been 9 months single now and still haven't decided to put myself back out there again and don't know if I want to lol
Has anyone else gone through this? Curious to know what you did to overcome this feeling or thought process that comes to mind. Every time I consider being in a relationship again. Its like ugghh hahaha!!

Then I miss the feeling of being in love :'(
So sad :( lol!
Everyone needs someone special in their lives.
 
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Ella85 said:
So it's been 9 months single now and still haven't decided to put myself back out there again and don't know if I want to lol
Has anyone else gone through this? Curious to know what you did to overcome this feeling or thought process that comes to mind. Every time I consider being in a relationship again. Its like ugghh hahaha!!

Then I miss the feeling of being in love :'(
So sad :( lol!
Everyone needs someone special in their lives.
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I am complete agreement with you.
 
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Ugly

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Why do you need to put yourself out there? If you aren't interested in it at this point then so what? It's not required. And missing the 'feeling of being in love' is a poor reason to push yourself into something that you don't truly want. You'll only be deceiving and using another person for your selfish reasons, not because you will have any real desire to be with them. If you don't want to get into a relationship, then don't. Just go live your life.
 
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Ella85

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Ugly said:
Why do you need to put yourself out there? If you aren't interested in it at this point then so what? It's not required. And missing the 'feeling of being in love' is a poor reason to push yourself into something that you don't truly want. You'll only be deceiving and using another person for your selfish reasons, not because you will have any real desire to be with them. If you don't want to get into a relationship, then don't. Just go live your life.
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True!!! Lol
I'll probably hit 40 then be like, oh no......I missed the boat lol
 
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Ella85 said:
True!!! Lol
I'll probably hit 40 then be like, oh no......I missed the boat lol
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You missed the love boat? I had to walk the plank the other day myself...
 
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Ella85

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You missed the love boat? I had to walk the plank the other day myself...
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Lol exactly!!!!
No seriously, I don't know what it is but it's hard for me to be attracted to a guy. Well attraction isn't a problem physically but emotionally and spiritually is another thing. I miss that deep emotional bond. Something so rare but I'm determined in finding it. He's out there!
Why did you walk the plank!
 
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Ella85 said:
True!!! Lol
I'll probably hit 40 then be like, oh no......I missed the boat lol
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I enjoy my view from the boat as of now, no need to hurry things along.
 
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ha! Ha!

Well, at least, in my case, I´ve been falling in love once a year.

Though this year I really FALL, and I did it in faith that it was okey.
 
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Ella85 said:
Lol exactly!!!!
No seriously, I don't know what it is but it's hard for me to be attracted to a guy. Well attraction isn't a problem physically but emotionally and spiritually is another thing. I miss that deep emotional bond. Something so rare but I'm determined in finding it. He's out there!
Why did you walk the plank!
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I´m almost sure you won´t miss the boat with my TOURIST friend. :)
 
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butterflame

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There's a saying that Love is sweeter in the second time around. :)
3 or 4 years had passed before I fell in love again with the person I'm involve with right now.
Sure there were times of doubt, but GOD will reveal it clearly to you when the time is right. :)
 
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zaoman32

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I know exactly your problem. I really desired to fall in love with someone again, or get the special deep connection with someone, but at the same time, I thought to myself "Ugh, girls are too much work."

The thing is, I believe this with every fiber of my being, when you meet someone special, and someone that's worth your time it will just click. One day you'll look in the persons eyes and just know that it's right. You may be waiting a very long time, but God works things in at the time He feels is appropriate, and in some cases maybe he's just waiting for you to actually ask him too, who knows?

Anyway, some people will more than likely disagree with me, but that's how I see it.
 
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MissCris

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Ella85 said:
So it's been 9 months single now and still haven't decided to put myself back out there again and don't know if I want to lol
Has anyone else gone through this? Curious to know what you did to overcome this feeling or thought process that comes to mind. Every time I consider being in a relationship again. Its like ugghh hahaha!!

Then I miss the feeling of being in love :'(
So sad :( lol!
Everyone needs someone special in their lives.
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I dunno, I'm in a place right now where the very idea of a future special someone is repulsive. Granted, I've got fresh wounds and might feel differently when they heal. Still, though...those fluttery falling in love feelings have always meant trouble for me, so I'd rather skip ever feeling that again to avoid inevitable pain than feel high on lovey-dovey emotions for a few months only to get burned.
Ooh I'm positive today...
 
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Ella85 said:
Lol exactly!!!!
No seriously, I don't know what it is but it's hard for me to be attracted to a guy. Well attraction isn't a problem physically but emotionally and spiritually is another thing. I miss that deep emotional bond. Something so rare but I'm determined in finding it. He's out there!
Why did you walk the plank!
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Actually, I was pushed. As to why, I really don't know. I miss the spiritual and emotional bond of a loving relationship. A person with inner beauty will always have outer beauty.
 
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Ugly

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Ella85 said:
True!!! Lol
I'll probably hit 40 then be like, oh no......I missed the boat lol
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She says to the one that's almost 40 and still single =P
 
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It's a natural thing to want to be in love. the desire is fine but it is also something yo have dominion over by the grace of GOD; to keep in check until the right guy finds you. In the meanwhile focus yourself on your purpose, the responsibilities GOD has given to you and give your all to it. Be thankful for the people you have in your lives right now and you will find that you will be much more fulfilled. All d best chick
 
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Ella, I agree with zaoman and ugly.

There is no rush. I'm going thru something similar. Been a year since my last relationship but that's ok. :). There are joys in being single as well.

For me, honestly, I am loving the process I am going thru right now because I have all this free time to develop my love relationship with God. And yes, you can't physically see him, but girl, he can fulfill all of your emotional and spiritual needs if you let him. And it gets even better... Because he is the perfect guy, you will find no other like him.

So just take your time and get to know God more... And the more you know him the more you will understand his heart for you, which allows you to avoid unnecessary relationships and heartaches. As said previously... No rush.

But if you do find a guy of interest make sure to ask yourself... Am I dating him simply for the feelings? Or does me and him together reflect the beautiful glory of God? If you answer yes to the second one, more then likely you are headed in the right direction. :)
 
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Ella85 said:
So it's been 9 months single now and still haven't decided to put myself back out there again and don't know if I want to lol
Has anyone else gone through this? Curious to know what you did to overcome this feeling or thought process that comes to mind. Every time I consider being in a relationship again. Its like ugghh hahaha!!

Then I miss the feeling of being in love :'(
So sad :( lol!
Everyone needs someone special in their lives.
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A few months ago I realized that I wanted to find that special someone mostly because I miss the feeling of being in love - and don't think it's a good idea to start a relationship if that's your primary reason. And to be honest, every time I share my thought on the subject like this makes me feel like a blind man trying to give a direction... yeah. But I do know what I need to do... and knowing and doing it is two different things - just like faith/trust alone is dead without action.
 
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