You haven't had a date in over 20 years. I've dated for the past 7 years. And had a couple long-term relationships in those 7 years. I wouldn't say I'm an expert, but not having a date in over 20 years, you might be a bit inexperienced of how dating works.
So, yes, after three pms and you're "searching" for this girl and putting all your eggs in one basket, I think it's a bit too fast and you've become attached too quickly. I used to be like that, too, and it kept people away from me.
It wasn't an attack and you gotta stop making everything out to seem to be an attack. It makes it very hard for people to talk to you or offer you advice. I should haven't made a joke about it. So, I apologize for that!