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J
I suppose when we are single there is a need to step out of our comfort zone from time to time and deliberately flirt with someone we like, but I'm really coming to question the value of it. I think I would just rather be myself and if someone likes me they do and if they don't, they don't.
And when I see someone flirting with alot of people, it's a real turn off because it makes me question the value of their words and whether they would be capable of being faithful in a relationship.
Am I the only one?
And when I see someone flirting with alot of people, it's a real turn off because it makes me question the value of their words and whether they would be capable of being faithful in a relationship.
Am I the only one?
I like the idea of *flirting* when it is done with the intent of showing true interest, and is not done to every person who walks by.
Some people have that sort of personality where they *just can't help it* (so they say)...that they have charisma that flirts with everyone.
I think flirting is great in a relationship. Helps keep the spark alive.
Can be dangerous though if done with no intent whatsoever....but the person on the receiving end of the flirting does take it seriously and gets hurt.
People forget hearts can be fragile.....I could never dream of playing with someones heart as if it were a toy. But thats just me.
Some people have that sort of personality where they *just can't help it* (so they say)...that they have charisma that flirts with everyone.
I think flirting is great in a relationship. Helps keep the spark alive.
Can be dangerous though if done with no intent whatsoever....but the person on the receiving end of the flirting does take it seriously and gets hurt.
People forget hearts can be fragile.....I could never dream of playing with someones heart as if it were a toy. But thats just me.
N
I like what you said here. In my opinion, If i see a guy flirting with everyone i automatically write him off. There would be no way in my head i could justify dating someone like that.
Just like you put it jullianna, it makes me value their words and weather they would be capable of being faithful in a relationship. Which i really dont think they would be.
When you flirt your sending out the signal that your interested, how is that harmless when your doing this with multiple people, or with every one you come in contact with.
I'm not a huge fan of women who flirt with everyone, having a relationship with them is a lot like being another face in the crowd. Nothing is special and no one is sacred. If I'm in a relationship, I like to develop a code or a secret language, so that I can flirt and no one can tell.
I don't have a real clear picture as to what we are calling flirting. In my experience its next to impossible to flirt online, I always get misread or misunderstood, so I tend not to bother. The exception I suppose would be saying the obvious, like what we all did in the show some love thread. If that qualifies as flirting then I suppose I'm a bit of a flirt. (Sorry Zero)
In person I tend to flirt with women by making fun of them and arguing with them, not even really trying to win. Or pushing them into some bushes or the ocean. I like spontaneously putting them on my shoulders. Or if we're running, 'finding the puddle' but, I suppose thats more of a relationship type flirting.
I don't have a real clear picture as to what we are calling flirting. In my experience its next to impossible to flirt online, I always get misread or misunderstood, so I tend not to bother. The exception I suppose would be saying the obvious, like what we all did in the show some love thread. If that qualifies as flirting then I suppose I'm a bit of a flirt. (Sorry Zero)
In person I tend to flirt with women by making fun of them and arguing with them, not even really trying to win. Or pushing them into some bushes or the ocean. I like spontaneously putting them on my shoulders. Or if we're running, 'finding the puddle' but, I suppose thats more of a relationship type flirting.
J
I do agree with what Liamson said about things being misunderstood online sometimes. Like when you're in a chatroom and greet someone with a simple "hi" and a smiley face, some people think that means (in my best Joey Tribbiani voice) "Hey..how YOU doin'?? *wink wink wink* (Hommer does it so much better than I do)
YouTube - Joey - Hey, how you doin'?
Some people think you're trying to be FRIENDLY
, when you're just trying to be friendly. It's amazing how much difference a look/tone of voice can mean, huh?
YouTube - Joey - Hey, how you doin'?
Some people think you're trying to be FRIENDLY
, when you're just trying to be friendly. It's amazing how much difference a look/tone of voice can mean, huh?
S
I'm not a big fan of flirting. I do tend to flirt with women that I am familiar with, but definately don't flirt with someone I don't know. I also don't find flirting attractive most time coming from a woman, unless I am already attracted to that person.
I am more drawn to a shy and reserved kind of vibe than somebody who just seems to throw themselves at anybody they come across. I agree with you ,Jullianna, when it comes to questioning a persons faithfulness in a relationship because of their flirty appearance.
I am more drawn to a shy and reserved kind of vibe than somebody who just seems to throw themselves at anybody they come across. I agree with you ,Jullianna, when it comes to questioning a persons faithfulness in a relationship because of their flirty appearance.
I think in some respect flirting is harmless. In the bible it says that any man (meaning woman too) who looks on a woman (in case of a woman, a man) in a lustful manner is already committing adultery with that person. You have to be careful when you seem even the slightest bit attracted to the opposite sex not to act on it until you can be sure that it's what God wants you to do and/or if that person feels the same way. I tend to think that some young people disregard this fact (aaahhh how lovely to be young and hormonaly neive) because they are so excited in every emotion they give sway to their sensations.
M
It's a neutral thing and like all things of that sort it can be applied for whatever purpose.
Within a defined relationship of any sort it's a great thing that only brings positives, but outside of one you're asking for trouble.
Not to go too serious but how many people could trace a broken heart or even a physical assault back to what one person called harmless flirting and another called an expression of serious 'interest' for whatever type of contact....
It's not my thing in general but I think there's too much of it in society in general, seems people flirt so much no-one is ever more than one conversation away from someone else's bed, and that's depressing.
Within a defined relationship of any sort it's a great thing that only brings positives, but outside of one you're asking for trouble.
Not to go too serious but how many people could trace a broken heart or even a physical assault back to what one person called harmless flirting and another called an expression of serious 'interest' for whatever type of contact....
It's not my thing in general but I think there's too much of it in society in general, seems people flirt so much no-one is ever more than one conversation away from someone else's bed, and that's depressing.
R
lol I like this thread.
I agree with the general consensus that flirting within a defined relationship is good. However, I haven't gotten there yet, so it's still awkward to me. I'm turned off by it. They are pretty much a knock-off unless they give me some other reason. Either way though, unless the relationship is defined or seems to be heading that direction, I let them KNOW I'm not comfortable.
I embarrass them in public by loudly saying something like, "Stop flirting, Jed!!" That one happened to be in front of the entire choir during rehearsal.
Did it stop him? For a few minutes.
I agree with the general consensus that flirting within a defined relationship is good. However, I haven't gotten there yet, so it's still awkward to me. I'm turned off by it. They are pretty much a knock-off unless they give me some other reason. Either way though, unless the relationship is defined or seems to be heading that direction, I let them KNOW I'm not comfortable.
I embarrass them in public by loudly saying something like, "Stop flirting, Jed!!" That one happened to be in front of the entire choir during rehearsal.
Did it stop him? For a few minutes.
G
Personally, I act the same way towards everyone I consider a friend - usually a bit sarcastic and teasing, and I smile a lot. I don't think I come across as flirtacious, but maybe I do? At any rate, that's just how I interact with people. And one of my best friends has a naturally flirtacious personality, even though she is one of the most modest people I know.
So, I think you have to be kinda careful with what you define as flirting and what is just being friendly. I think there's probably a fine line somewhere.
<-- I did the winky face just for irony.
So, I think you have to be kinda careful with what you define as flirting and what is just being friendly. I think there's probably a fine line somewhere.
K
I don't think theres a right answer to any of those options. Depends on the context (ie single, dating, married etc) and whether or not its appropriate to the context and the situation around you. Also no one has stated any definition of what their version of what flirting is so its a bit vague and up in the air really