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K
I think flirting comes naturally when you are with somebody you like, at least that happenss to me haha I have aways wondered if they notice, but I don't know if I wanna know 
. BUt wait, what kind of flirting? the HEY HOW U DOIN' HANDSOME (smiling creepy face, TOO OBVIOUS kind of flirting) or the natural, fun, healthy flirting ( laughing at his jokes, some clever flirty words, some teasing).
I think there's a healthy flirting, and a NOT healthy flirting, and also I think u need to know when to flirt and most important WITH WHO. It could be innapropiate, and maybe dangerous to flirth with EVERYBODY because they can get a wrong perception. There are a lot of creeps out there...
. BUt wait, what kind of flirting? the HEY HOW U DOIN' HANDSOME (smiling creepy face, TOO OBVIOUS kind of flirting) or the natural, fun, healthy flirting ( laughing at his jokes, some clever flirty words, some teasing). I think there's a healthy flirting, and a NOT healthy flirting, and also I think u need to know when to flirt and most important WITH WHO. It could be innapropiate, and maybe dangerous to flirth with EVERYBODY because they can get a wrong perception. There are a lot of creeps out there...
A
IMO, this is a perception isn't always reality though.
I am a born sales person. In order to do that, one has to have a bubbly personality that can draw people out out of their shells and interact with you. Now, depending if the perception, that can be taken as flirting. But it isn't really.
I think I rather be in an environment where everyone laughed and winked with no intention behind it than everyone kept to themselves and afraid every move had an ulterior motive.
I am a born sales person. In order to do that, one has to have a bubbly personality that can draw people out out of their shells and interact with you. Now, depending if the perception, that can be taken as flirting. But it isn't really.
I think I rather be in an environment where everyone laughed and winked with no intention behind it than everyone kept to themselves and afraid every move had an ulterior motive.
R
Flirting is nice when you are single, and it is sincere and honest and you intend to hint interest to someone that you secretly or not-so-secretly want to date.
I think the "fake flirting" (as in you flirting when you are already taken and/or not looking to date the person) is stupid and needs to stop, as it only creates awkwardness, mixed messages and confusion. Especially if the person being flirted with is young and doesn't quite know all the unspoken rules yet.
I don't like games. When flirting is used like a game, it's stupid.
I think the "fake flirting" (as in you flirting when you are already taken and/or not looking to date the person) is stupid and needs to stop, as it only creates awkwardness, mixed messages and confusion. Especially if the person being flirted with is young and doesn't quite know all the unspoken rules yet.
I don't like games. When flirting is used like a game, it's stupid.
S
I think - as with just about anything - there is a boundary. Once you blur it or cross it, flirtation goes out the window and you step into a more temerarious and "scandalous" territory. I wouldn't call any amount of "flirtation" innocent though; not to give it a bad name, although I don't quite see it as benign in any capacity either. Some people use it simply to gauge interest of another, but still...
J
I absolutely believe there need to be boundaries when it comes to flirting. Kidding around is one thing, but it can be taken too far. And when it continuously becomes sexual in nature, you’re in the dangerzone. At that point, it’s a test of how far you are willing to go. And when you see a man or woman doing this often with different people, especially online, RUN, unless you are interested in doing the harem thing.
I’m not a jealous woman. But I’m not a stupid woman either. Once someone is involved with that sort of behavior, all too often one of two things will happen:
1. The guy/woman is a player; or
2. Even if the guy/woman is serious about you, the other people they have been flirting with (even if they’ve been put in the “friends zone” will attempt to drive a wedge between you using any and every means possible, and you’ll quickly tire of it.
I’m not a jealous woman. But I’m not a stupid woman either. Once someone is involved with that sort of behavior, all too often one of two things will happen:
1. The guy/woman is a player; or
2. Even if the guy/woman is serious about you, the other people they have been flirting with (even if they’ve been put in the “friends zone”
will attempt to drive a wedge between you using any and every means possible, and you’ll quickly tire of it.
J
Innocent compliments like the hair/clothes comments you mention above are fine and appreciated, but a woman will probably not pick up on that as flirting right away if not followed up on some other way. She will probably walk away wondering whether you were flirting or just being nice. A lot of guys say things like that and they are just being nice.
HOWEVER...there are guys who say things like that and...it's...just...creepy:
OLD GUY IN PARKING LOT: Hi! How are you?
ME: Fine, and you? *polite smile*
OLD GUY IN PARKING LOT WITH CREEPY LECHEROUS TONE: You suuuuuuuuure are
ME: *walking away a lot faster*
A lot of guys say things like that and they are just being nice. HOWEVER...there are guys who say things like that and...it's...just...creepy:
OLD GUY IN PARKING LOT: Hi! How are you?
ME: Fine, and you? *polite smile*
OLD GUY IN PARKING LOT WITH CREEPY LECHEROUS TONE: You suuuuuuuuure are
ME: *walking away a lot faster*
I absolutely believe there need to be boundaries when it comes to flirting. Kidding around is one thing, but it can be taken too far. And when it continuously becomes sexual in nature, you’re in the dangerzone. At that point, it’s a test of how far you are willing to go. And when you see a man or woman doing this often with different people, especially online, RUN, unless you are interested in doing the harem thing.
I’m not a jealous woman. But I’m not a stupid woman either. Once someone is involved with that sort of behavior, all too often one of two things will happen:
1. The guy/woman is a player; or
2. Even if the guy/woman is serious about you, the other people they have been flirting with (even if they’ve been put in the “friends zone” will attempt to drive a wedge between you using any and every means possible, and you’ll quickly tire of it.
I’m not a jealous woman. But I’m not a stupid woman either. Once someone is involved with that sort of behavior, all too often one of two things will happen:
1. The guy/woman is a player; or
2. Even if the guy/woman is serious about you, the other people they have been flirting with (even if they’ve been put in the “friends zone”
will attempt to drive a wedge between you using any and every means possible, and you’ll quickly tire of it.
I appreciate compliments (of the non-sleazy type). I don't really count that as flirting, unless they keep it up, lol.
I don't really count that as flirting, unless they keep it up, lol.
That said, sexual flirtation is a definite problem. But acting playful and teasing someone of the opposite gender is generally harmless. The only real harm that could come out of it is misunderstanding on the part of the receiver. I am a firm believer that "flirtatious behavior" is not necessarily a sign of romantic interest. I do think that a man can be generally playful and flirtatious with many women (in a non-sexual way) without being a "player."
Using myself as an example, I grew up with two sisters(no brothers). My relationship with them is far from romantic (obviously), and yet if I act the same way as I do with them when I am around other girls, it is immediately taken as flirting. It seems a fair number of people associate a combination of sarcasm, compliments and teasing as serious flirtation, and many as being a strong sign of romantic (physical?) interest in the receiver. I've become quite a bit more careful in the way I act around girls after discovering this, but still believe that this behavior should not instantly be flagged as interest, or "straying". Oh, and I sure hope that I'm not considered a "player" after having 2 serious girlfriends (each for more than 3 years), but maybe you would.
God bless.
A
Guys, would you be afraid to flirt with Ronda "Rowdy" Rousey the UFC reigning woman's champion?
I used to train on occasion with a woman that looked just like her at a Ralph Gracie location (before I got old and arthritic and retired from martial arts training) and she was pretty good with the jiu-jitsu.
I wonder how many guys at CC would have the courage to ask a woman like Ronda Rousey out on a date if she were a Christian and they felt a genuine attraction? All, some, none?
I used to train on occasion with a woman that looked just like her at a Ralph Gracie location (before I got old and arthritic and retired from martial arts training) and she was pretty good with the jiu-jitsu.
I wonder how many guys at CC would have the courage to ask a woman like Ronda Rousey out on a date if she were a Christian and they felt a genuine attraction? All, some, none?