Girls would you give a guy a chance that struggles with porn as a boyfriend?

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lv2ski

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You're thinking of purity. Purity is different than virginity. If one never has sex, he or she is still a virgin. Purity involves stuff like masturbation. Purity is what you do when no one watches. Your normal person isn't going to go out in the public and well... You know. Hence how the act is generally by one's self with no one around.
Who you are when no one sees is who you are.
 

lv2ski

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Masturbation is not taking virginity.
But whatever, you guys can disagree with him but stop also judging so much. Simple things like the if masturbation is the same as physical sex with someone else isnt just a fact you get to state. Its your opinion then.
Masturbation requires impure thinking, and then you act upon it. Jesus said that if you look upon a woman to lust after her, you've5committed adultry.

Its not the same as sexual intercourse, but you're not exercising self control and it doesnt solve anything. Because it becomes habitual and can be idolatry, because it interferes with the fellowship you're supposed to have with God.

After you do that are you comfortable with reading the Word. Worship or praying. With freedom and no guilt6to deal with?
 

lv2ski

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I want to get it to a 0. But I really don't have anything to fight for. Right now it just feels like I'll be alone forever.
You're not stable enough to get married now.

Take full advantage of your single time. You have a lot of freedom right now to get strong and secure. What would a Christian woman have to support and what vision and calling would she reasonably be able to submit to and be secure in?

Theres a lot of good advice on this thread for you, Take it.

There's much gain in that. Flourish where God puts you or has you. He won't promote you until your faithful where you are.

He who is faithful in what is least is faithful also in much; and he who is unjust in what is least is unjust also in much.
Luke 16:10 NKJV
http://bible.com/114/luk.16.10.NKJV
 
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Deepdistress21

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Masturbation requires impure thinking, and then you act upon it. Jesus said that if you look upon a woman to lust after her, you've5committed adultry.

Its not the same as sexual intercourse, but you're not exercising self control and it doesnt solve anything. Because it becomes habitual and can be idolatry, because it interferes with the fellowship you're supposed to have with God.

After you do that are you comfortable with reading the Word. Worship or praying. With freedom and no guilt6to deal with?
I'm not defending it. That's a whole other discussion. I just mean that there's a big difference between masturbation and intercourse with another person. Not meaning one's worse then the other either. Just that they're different. It's a lot harder for me to be with a guy who's had something that intimate with another woman vs just on his own.
 

lv2ski

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I'm not defending it. That's a whole other discussion. I just mean that there's a big difference between masturbation and intercourse with another person. Not meaning one's worse then the other either. Just that they're different. It's a lot harder for me to be with a guy who's had something that intimate with another woman vs just on his own.
I and many other men live that way. Easy? No way! Easier to keep pure in mind and deed? Absolutely.

Take up your cross Bro. That's really a humiliating act, even in private.
 
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Tintin

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I and many other men live that way. Easy? No way! Easier to keep pure in mind and deed? Absolutely.

Take up your cross Bro. That's really a humiliating act, even in private.
Bro? She's a sister in Christ.
 

lv2ski

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Bro? She's a sister in Christ.
Lol!: yes blue lady is right. But whatever, the same goes for them too.

And not to be crude but, they do have the market on the 'toys '
 

blue_ladybug

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Lol!: yes blue lady is right. But whatever, the same goes for them too.

And not to be crude but, they do have the market on the 'toys '

That's because they're specifically geared towards the women. I've never used toys but I know some who do, and I'm like, "ewwwww gross".. lol
 

blue_ladybug

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Awww.. Just noticed that freakingout got banned. :(